You Are Not My Friend, But I Miss You

You Are Not My Friend, But I Miss You

by Daniel Kirk
     
 

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When two friends—a sock monkey and a plush toy dog—get into an argument during playtime, Monkey gets his feelings hurt and proclaims, “You are not my friend!” But when he takes his ball to find someone new to play with, he quickly learns that maybe he hasn’t been a very good friend, either. Bestselling author/illustrator Daniel Kirk uses

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When two friends—a sock monkey and a plush toy dog—get into an argument during playtime, Monkey gets his feelings hurt and proclaims, “You are not my friend!” But when he takes his ball to find someone new to play with, he quickly learns that maybe he hasn’t been a very good friend, either. Bestselling author/illustrator Daniel Kirk uses bold and humorous illustrations to convey the important message that sharing and other acts of friendship are two-way streets.

Editorial Reviews

School Library Journal
09/01/2014
PreS-Gr 1—Here, Kirk explores playground politics through the thoughts and feelings of an expressive sock monkey. Monkey and his best friend have a falling out when Dog takes his red ball and runs off. When Dog won't share, Monkey grabs the toy away from him and declares, "YOU cannot play with it anymore!" His moment of triumph is fleeting, however. Assailed by memories of all he has shared with Dog, poor Monkey tries to deal with his conflicting emotions. When his efforts to find a new friend fail, Monkey realizes that perhaps he hasn't been a great friend to Dog, either. Monkey approaches the blue and white pup and asks, "Will you come and play with me?" On the last page, the pals happily begin a game of catch. The digitized pen-and-ink illustrations add depth and texture to the story. The series of gracefully crafted spreads eloquently portrays the ups and downs of Monkey's emotional journey. Young readers will identify with the plush, huggable characters and sympathize with Monkey as he struggles to sort out his feelings. Pair this compelling story of friendship and the importance of sharing with Randall de Sève's Peanut & Fifi Have a Ball (Dial, 2013).—Linda L. Walkins, Saint Joseph Preparatory High School, Boston, MA
Publishers Weekly
06/16/2014
Dog swipes Monkey’s red ball, and Monkey (who is actually a sock monkey with a tuft of red yarn for hair) decides that they’re through. After all, Monkey says, “Friends are supposed to share,” although from the looks of the spot illustrations that accompany this declaration of principles, Monkey’s idea of sharing is not very generous (whether the duo are snacking, teeter-tottering, or reading, Monkey also keeps the ball to himself). But never mind that, or as Monkey says in a moment of high dudgeon, “HAH!” Dog is obviously a bad friend, and Monkey has two perfectly good alternatives: find a new friend or play by himself. Kirk (the Library Mouse series) knows children’s sense of injustice, entitlement, and egocentrism like the back of his hand. His frequent use of bold, large-scale drawing captures Monkey’s equally outsize temperament, while the emphatic, minimal text is subtly poignant and supremely performable, with lots of typographic cues to pout, shout, and (finally) reconcile after Monkey realizes that, just maybe, “I wasn’t a good friend.” Ages 4–8. Agent: Barry Goldblatt, Barry Goldblatt Literary. (Sept.)
Booklist - Kara Dean
"...children will relate to Monkey's epiphany that it takes two to share."
Children's Literature - Ken Marantz and Sylvia Marantz
“You are not my friend. Not anymore!” declares the sullen-faced sock monkey. The stuffed dog has taken his ball and will not share. The monkey tells us how he has grabbed it back as he runs across the double page. “…and YOU cannot play with it anymore!” he declares. He admits that friends are supposed to share. But then he yells a huge “HAH!” across the pages. He thinks he will find a new friend; but when he doesn’t, decides to be his own friend. This does not prove very satisfactory as he misses his dog friend. He thinks maybe he was not a great friend himself either. He invites the dog to come and play, leading to a happy ending. The very simple story is told visually on pages designed for vignettes as well as double pages with no settings. Pen and ink produce heavy black outlines which were scanned, with color and textures added digitally. The knitted texture in particular adds interest to the end pages and the main characters. The monkey acquires real personality as he expresses appropriate emotions. The lesson on friendship is an important one. Check out the contrasting jacket and cover. Reviewer: Ken Marantz and Sylvia Marantz; Ages 3 to 5.
Kirkus Reviews
2014-06-10
A sock monkey goes to the dark side, or as dark as a sock monkey can get, in Kirk’s dovelike tale of dawning self-awareness.Readers meet Monkey on the first page. It is a close-up of his face, and he has a grump on. “You took my ball— / just like that! // You wouldn’t give my ball back. You wouldn’t share.” That’s four pages of text. Monkey does not mince words. “I had to grab it when you weren’t looking! // Now I have my ball / and YOU cannot play with it anymore!” Indeed, “YOU cannot play with ME.” Period, as it were. So Monkey goes about pretending he is having a good time with his ball. He will play by himself, with new friends (a houseplant, a rock and a worm) and even with the big dog—though the dog doesn’t seem interested in playing. Kirk is all emotive and deliberate. Readers can feel the initial indignation and then its ebb as Monkey—and Kirk’s digitally collaged artwork gives him not only plenty of pathos, but lots of wooly texture—feels the sting of his friend’s absence. “Maybe I wasn’t a great friend,” Monkey comes to realize. Easy-peasy, Monkey. Kirk’s skillfully paced mix of vignettes, close-ups and long shots guide readers smoothly through this emotional odyssey.There are no bad sock monkeys, not even the one or two who have forgotten themselves for a second. (Picture book. 3-7)

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781613126905
Publisher:
Abrams, Harry N., Inc.
Publication date:
09/23/2014
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
File size:
10 MB
Age Range:
4 - 8 Years

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Meet the Author

Daniel Kirk has illustrated a number of popular and bestselling books for children, including Library Mouse, which Booklist heralded in a starred review as “fun, fun, fun.” He lives in Glen Ridge, New Jersey.

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