You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded), Revised and Updated Edition: Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child

( 8 )


"I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.... You'll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library."
--Dr. Kevin Leman,
New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into Cooperation

Many parents suspect their strong-willed child...

See more details below
Audiobook (MP3 - Unabridged)
$8.30 price
(Save 17%)$10.00 List Price
Sending request ...


"I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.... You'll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library."
--Dr. Kevin Leman,
New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into Cooperation

Many parents suspect their strong-willed child is deliberately trying to drive them crazy. Difficult to discipline and seemingly impossible to motivate, these children present unique, exhausting, and often-frustrating challenges to the those who love them.

But strong will is not a negative trait. These same children have firm convictions, high spirits, a sense of adventure--all the makings of a great adult. In this book you'll discover how to channel that passion and determination in positive ways as you build a healthy relationship. Through insights gained from strong-willed people of all ages, you'll...
· better understand how their minds really work.
· discover positive ways to motivate your strong-willed child.
· learn how to share control without compromising parental authority.
· apply key tactics to survive a meltdown.
· get practical tips for parents who disagree, blended families, and single parents.

Packed with immediately useful strategies to drastically reduce the level of tension in the home (or in the classroom), You Can't Make Me shows how you can start today to build a stronger, more positive relationship with your strong-willed child.

· Top Ten Tips for Bringing Out the Best in a Strong-Willed Child of Any Age
· A Strong-Willed Child Emergency Kit

Read More Show Less

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780449808313
  • Publisher: Books on Tape, Inc.
  • Publication date: 9/18/2012
  • Format: MP3
  • Edition description: Unabridged
  • Sales rank: 278,886
  • Ships to U.S.and APO/FPO addresses only.

Meet the Author

Cynthia Ulrich Tobias, M.Ed., is the founder and CEO of AppLe St. L.L.C. (Applied Learning Styles). Her background includes over twenty-three years of private practice and business ownership, eight years of teaching in public high school, and six years in law enforcement. Cynthia is the best-selling author of numerous titles, including The Way They Learn, Every Child Can Succeed, and Bringing Out the Best in Your Child. A popular speaker, she earned her Bachelor of Arts in Education from Northwest Nazarene University and her Master of Education degree from Seattle Pacific University. Cynthia and her husband are the parents of college-age twin boys.

Read More Show Less

Read an Excerpt

Introduction to the Revised Edition Here's How I Know It Works!

My very own strong-willed child, Mike, came bursting through the door with his usual force and energy. He was fresh from yet another week of being a counselor at a summer YMCA camp. I marveled at how quickly the years have passed and here he was--twenty years old and about to enter his junior year in college. Could it possibly be?

"Mom, I have to tell you something."

I've learned to appreciate every opportunity to talk about his life, so I stopped what I was doing and listened.

"The camp kids were driving me crazy. I was so frustrated, I was ready to scream." He paused and put his finger in the air to make a pronouncement. "So, I decided I'd better read one of your books."

I raised my eyebrows. "Which book did you read, Mike?" He shrugged and grinned. "You Can't Make Me." Before I could react he rushed on. "And you know what? It works!" I wasn't prepared for this. Was this my strong-willed child,
who appears in every chapter of the book, telling me he was now using it to understand the kids he was counseling at camp?

For the next twenty minutes Mike regaled me with examples he had read in the book, emphasizing the strategies he had used successfully with his campers. We reminisced over stories from the book that he remembered and laughed about the ones he had forgotten or was too young to recall.

Since the first edition of You Can't Make Me! (But I Can Be Persuaded) came out in 1999, literally thousands of parents and educators have taken the time to actually write or personally deliver overwhelmingly positive and grateful responses to the powerful and effective strategies in the book. I've been humbled and encouraged to see the hope in their eyes and hear the joy in their voices.

But I have to tell you, by far the most meaningful endorsement I could ask for is the one from Mike. After twenty years of living with and loving my strong-willed child, after the prayers and tears, trial and error, perseverance and frustration, failure and success, he is reading and endorsing the book that describes him as the quintessential strong-willed kid.

So as you read this revised and updated version of You Can't Make Me, believe me when I say I'm still in the trenches with you. I've parented a great strong-willed child and his equally wonderful but more compliant twin brother. I will never be able to make the claim I did everything right. Far from it! I am eternally grateful that God has been gracious in supplementing my well-intentioned and often inadequate efforts with His grace, love, and wisdom.

My fervent prayer is that you will benefit from the wisdom and advice of the many strong-willed children and their parents you are about to meet in this book. Most of all, no matter how things turn out, I pray you will be glad you never gave up on the relationship with your strong-willed child. You'll never be able to truly measure the difference it will make.

Read More Show Less

Customer Reviews

Average Rating 4
( 8 )
Rating Distribution

5 Star


4 Star


3 Star


2 Star


1 Star


Your Rating:

Your Name: Create a Pen Name or

Barnes & Review Rules

Our reader reviews allow you to share your comments on titles you liked, or didn't, with others. By submitting an online review, you are representing to Barnes & that all information contained in your review is original and accurate in all respects, and that the submission of such content by you and the posting of such content by Barnes & does not and will not violate the rights of any third party. Please follow the rules below to help ensure that your review can be posted.

Reviews by Our Customers Under the Age of 13

We highly value and respect everyone's opinion concerning the titles we offer. However, we cannot allow persons under the age of 13 to have accounts at or to post customer reviews. Please see our Terms of Use for more details.

What to exclude from your review:

Please do not write about reviews, commentary, or information posted on the product page. If you see any errors in the information on the product page, please send us an email.

Reviews should not contain any of the following:

  • - HTML tags, profanity, obscenities, vulgarities, or comments that defame anyone
  • - Time-sensitive information such as tour dates, signings, lectures, etc.
  • - Single-word reviews. Other people will read your review to discover why you liked or didn't like the title. Be descriptive.
  • - Comments focusing on the author or that may ruin the ending for others
  • - Phone numbers, addresses, URLs
  • - Pricing and availability information or alternative ordering information
  • - Advertisements or commercial solicitation


  • - By submitting a review, you grant to Barnes & and its sublicensees the royalty-free, perpetual, irrevocable right and license to use the review in accordance with the Barnes & Terms of Use.
  • - Barnes & reserves the right not to post any review -- particularly those that do not follow the terms and conditions of these Rules. Barnes & also reserves the right to remove any review at any time without notice.
  • - See Terms of Use for other conditions and disclaimers.
Search for Products You'd Like to Recommend

Recommend other products that relate to your review. Just search for them below and share!

Create a Pen Name

Your Pen Name is your unique identity on It will appear on the reviews you write and other website activities. Your Pen Name cannot be edited, changed or deleted once submitted.

Your Pen Name can be any combination of alphanumeric characters (plus - and _), and must be at least two characters long.

Continue Anonymously

    If you find inappropriate content, please report it to Barnes & Noble
    Why is this product inappropriate?
    Comments (optional)