You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded), Revised and Updated Edition: Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child
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You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded), Revised and Updated Edition: Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child

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by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias
     
 

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“I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.… You’ll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library.”
—Dr. Kevin Leman, New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into

Overview

“I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.… You’ll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library.”
—Dr. Kevin Leman, New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into Cooperation
 
Many parents suspect their strong-willed child is deliberately trying to drive them crazy. Difficult to discipline and seemingly impossible to motivate, these children present unique, exhausting, and often-frustrating challenges to the those who love them.
 
But strong will is not a negative trait. These same children have firm convictions, high spirits, a sense of adventure—all the makings of a great adult. In this book you’ll discover how to channel that passion and determination in positive ways as you build a healthy relationship. Through insights gained from strong-willed people of all ages, you’ll…
·         better understand how their minds really work.
·         discover positive ways to motivate your strong-willed child.
·         learn how to share control without compromising parental authority.
·         apply key tactics to survive a meltdown.
·         get practical tips for parents who disagree, blended families, and single parents.
 
Packed with  immediately useful strategies to drastically reduce the level of tension in the home (or in the classroom), You Can’t Make Me shows how you can start today to build a stronger, more positive relationship with your strong-willed child.
 
Includes…
·         Top Ten Tips for Bringing Out the Best in a Strong-Willed Child of Any Age
·         A Strong-Willed Child Emergency Kit

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780307731135
Publisher:
The Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
09/18/2012
Sold by:
Random House
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
208
Sales rank:
373,050
File size:
2 MB

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Introduction to the Revised Edition
Here’s How I Know It Works!

My very own strong-willed child, Mike, came bursting through the door with his usual force and energy. He was fresh from yet another week of being a counselor at a summer YMCA camp. I marveled at how quickly the years have passed and here he was—twenty years old and about to enter his junior year in college. Could it possibly be?

“Mom, I have to tell you something.”

I’ve learned to appreciate every opportunity to talk about his life, so I stopped what I was doing and listened.

“The camp kids were driving me crazy. I was so frustrated, I was ready to scream.” He paused and put his finger in the air to make a pronouncement. “So, I decided I’d better read one of your books.”

I raised my eyebrows. “Which book did you read, Mike?” He shrugged and grinned. “You Can’t Make Me.” Before I
could react he rushed on. “And you know what? It works!" I wasn’t prepared for this. Was this my strong-willed child,
who appears in every chapter of the book, telling me he was now using it to understand the kids he was counseling at
camp?

For the next twenty minutes Mike regaled me with examples he had read in the book, emphasizing the strategies he had used successfully with his campers. We reminisced over stories from the book that he remembered and laughed about the ones he had forgotten or was too young to recall.

Since the first edition of You Can’t Make Me! (But I Can Be Persuaded) came out in 1999, literally thousands of parents and educators have taken the time to actually write or personally deliver overwhelmingly positive and grateful responses to the powerful and effective strategies in the book. I’ve been humbled and encouraged to see the hope in their eyes and hear the joy in their voices.

But I have to tell you, by far the most meaningful endorsement I could ask for is the one from Mike. After twenty years of living with and loving my strong-willed child, after the prayers and tears, trial and error, perseverance and frustration, failure and success, he is reading and endorsing the book that describes him as the quintessential strong-willed kid.

So as you read this revised and updated version of You Can’t Make Me, believe me when I say I’m still in the trenches with you. I’ve parented a great strong-willed child and his equally wonderful but more compliant twin brother. I will never be able to make the claim I did everything right. Far from it! I am eternally grateful that God has been gracious in supplementing my well-intentioned and often inadequate efforts with His grace, love, and wisdom.

My fervent prayer is that you will benefit from the wisdom and advice of the many strong-willed children and their parents you are about to meet in this book. Most of all, no matter how things turn out, I pray you will be glad you never gave up on the relationship with your strong-willed child. You’ll never be able to truly measure the difference it will make.

Meet the Author

Cynthia Tobias received her master’s degree from Seattle Pacifi c University. Her successful background includes twenty-five years of private practice, eight years of teaching high school, and six years in law enforcement. The best-selling author of eight books, she is the busy mother of twin college-age sons. Cynthia and her husband live in the Seattle area.


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Guest More than 1 year ago
This was an excellent book. Being a strong-willed child (SWC) myself, I bought this book to help my relationship with my own SWC. I learned so much more about myself, and now I have learned how to 'deal' with my child! This book comes from inside the mind of an SWC and is very helpful in tackling their unique thought process. I am looking foward to using the techniques in this book to work towards a better relationship with my daughter! Thanks to Cynthia and her speaking out on behalf of all the SWC's!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Whe I thought I was at the end of my rope, I found out I was just in the middle. The author's insights and practical advice have helped me greatly.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Them books though
KateUnger More than 1 year ago
This book was just what I needed. It's short and sweet. After a brief explanation of what a strong willed child is and how their minds work, it jumps right into practical strategies to use. The bottom line is making requests vs. demands. And I think that's easier to do once you understand why demands result in power struggles and conflict. There were some parts that were too Christian for me, including a whole chapter about right vs. wrong, which addressed the Bible's commandment to obey parents. As an atheist, I just skipped those parts. The rest of the book was still very helpful. I bought this book while reading it because I know it's one I will want to read again. There are some sections on dealing with older children and teens that I'd like to come back to when my son is a little older. Now I just need my husband to read the key chapters (1-3, and 5), so we can be on the same page with our parenting style. http://www.momsradius.com/2015/10/book-review-you-cant-make-me.html
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have only begun this book and already it has helped my family. I can't wait to finish reading it and using the easy strategies!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a life saver if u have kids if u need help with your kid(s) this is the perfect book for u!!!!!!!!!!! ,
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