You Just Don't Understand

You Just Don't Understand

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by Deborah Tannen
     
 

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Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public

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Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780062210098
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
04/23/2013
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
352
Sales rank:
258,809
File size:
2 MB

Meet the Author

Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. Her books include the New York Times bestsellers You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, Talking from 9 to 5, and You Were Always Mom's Favorite!. She has written for and been featured in numerous major newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Newsweek, USA Today, the Washington Post, and Time.

Brief Biography

Hometown:
Washington, D.C. metro area
Date of Birth:
June 7, 1945
Place of Birth:
Brooklyn, New York
Education:
B.A., Harpur College, 1966, Wayne State University, 1970; M.A. in Linguistics, UC Berkeley, 1976; Ph.D., 1979

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You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read the book for a research paper I was writing. I found the book informative but hard to relate to my own life. However it was a great book towards my paper.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is now dated, but it's insight is still very valuable. The author does an excellent job of offering a dispassionate view of the differences between the genders in conversation. This can still be a balm to many marriages
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
vteyedoc More than 1 year ago
Better than "Men are fro Mars.." by lightyears.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This probably needs to be listened to a few times, as I was multi-tasking while listening and missed specific details during a few situational events. This audiobook provides numerous examples of various interactive situations between couples, providing insight to what the women and men are thinking. It is obvious, after listening to this book, that most men and women think about a specific situation differently. The only knock is the narrator's outdated sounding voice, but if you can get past that then you can gain some valuable insight on the other's (woman or man) perspective.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Guest More than 1 year ago
Wow! This book is an eye opener not only for communication at work but in personal relationships as well. A worthwhile read for any man who has wondered just what he said wrong and for any woman who finds herself puzzled by the men who just don't 'get it.' Take the lessons to heart and your life will be running more smoothly in no time. Another book I enjoyed is Rat Race Relaxer: Your Potential & The Maze of Life by JoAnna Carey which helps you communicate what you want in return for running the rat race.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I had to order this novel for a psychology class at my college..I've never learned and have applied so much knowledge to my life before, all from a book we had to read for class!
Guest More than 1 year ago
but fails. Ultimately, stereotyping men's and women's styles as "status vs connection" is inherently judgemental: one never uses 'connection-seeking' as an insult in the way one uses 'status-seeking', few of us resist connection and many of us resent and resist status. It is also really no help to anyone, since we already have the assumption women are sweet and men are aggressive drummed into us from infancy. She does clarify the statement, and she gives good proof that her clarification is a better form than the unrefined original. But if she really thought what she keeps saying in the book, that neither style is inherently better than the other, she could not follow this up with another book (The Argument Culture) that basically attacks the male style, which is already the one people judge negatively.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Tannen gives plenty of concrete examples all of us should be able to identify with on how reasoning differences and psychological factors clear communication obstacles between men and women with global implications across all socioeconomic strata.Can it be that major problems in society can have their roots in misunderstandings?
Guest More than 1 year ago
I thought this book was very biased and only looked at the side of men as being powerful and having complete dominance over women which is certainly not true in life. This book also talked about how there are not many successful women, which again, is not true at all because there are plenty of women out there that have poisitions of authority in business and are taken seriously. Altogether, I was just not very impressed by this reading because I guess I had thought that it would have more of a story line to it but it mainly consisted of just facts and dialogue examples. In conclusion, this book just wasn't what I had expected.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Interesting study of the problems generated by failed interpersonal communications between men and women because of psychological ,cultural and other factors with concrete,every day examples of common areas where men andwomen fail to clearly communicate by a Georgetown University scholar.
Guest More than 1 year ago
At first glance, her theory is seemingly fair. But after digesting it all, you get the feeling that there is a negative connotation attached to the way men communicate. I'm not sure this is a fair or just method to judge others by...however I admit one can learn more about the way the sexes communicate.