You & Your Add Child: Practical Strategies for Coping with Everyday Problems

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780732256869
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Australia
  • Publication date: 2/28/1999
  • Pages: 244
  • Product dimensions: 5.39 (w) x 8.17 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Table of Contents

Foreword ix
Preface xi
1 Introduction 1
Pills, but what next? 2
Let's not blame the parents 3
Unique problems of ADD 4
Spare a thought for the parents 6
ADD as a disorder 8
Multi-modal treatment 8
Diagnosis 9
The long haul 10
2 Explaining ADD 12
Mum, what is ADD? 12
Explaining outside the immediate family 14
Telling the school 15
We can own it and fix it 15
ADD is everyone's problem 16
Have you taken your pill? 18
Attending other therapies 19
3 Practical management 21
They come without instructions
The basics 22
Don't feed the ADD problem 24
Firm boundaries and structure 30
Developing consistency in an ADD family 31
Removing 'I' statements 32
Do not say 'maybe' 34
Limit choices 34
Balance positive and negative 34
4 The basic Four Step procedure 36
Lack of impulse control 36
Step 1 Awareness 37
Step 2 Choices 39
Step 3 Three is Out 42
Step 4 Be Repetitive 44
5 Rewards and punishment 47
Rewards 48
Punishment 51
Making and monitoring progress 53
6 Time Out 55
Special features 55
Bedrooms and Time Out 57
The wall-kicker's Time Out 58
How long in Time Out? 58
Going in and staying in 60
Alternatives -- Time Away 63
Sibling rivalry 64
7 ADD and co-existing disorders 69
Co-existing conditions or Co-morbidity 69
Secondary emotional behaviour 70
Learning difficulties 71
Other Co-morbid Disorders 72
ADD and ADHD 73
8 Oppositional Defiant Disorder -- ODD 93
A brief description 93
Management strategies 95
A matter of trust 105
A school reminder 107
Leadership opportunities 107
9 Conduct Disorders 109
A brief description 109
Hope for the future? 111
Specific management for Conduct ADD 112
Measures of your trust 120
Runaways 120
Day-by-day boundaries for tough teenagers 121
10 Anxiety and ADD 123
A simple explanation 124
Irrational fears 126
Missing the big picture 129
Steps towards success 130
Focusing on other images 133
Don't use Time Out 134
Perfectionism and high achievers 135
Don't dismiss feelings 135
'Home dumping' 136
Other anxiety therapy 138
11 Self-esteem 140
Two faces of low self-esteem 140
Naturally negative 141
Light at the end of the tunnel 143
Learning styles and praise 143
Approval and affirmation 144
Avoid feelings: focus on solutions 147
Sport and other activities 149
12 Social problems 154
ADD kids in social situations 155
A simple description 157
Socialisation Disorders 158
Looking at alternatives 160
Indiscreet behaviour 163
Focusing and jumping on the good 164
Family functions and outings 164
Limit time for friends' visits 167
Encourage the socially timid to take risks 168
Limiting time to play and invitations 168
Preparation for social situations 169
Bullying 170
Inappropriate social behaviour 171
Misperceiving non-verbal language 173
Attracting other difficult kids 174
Preparing for change 174
Insatiable teenagers, tough questions and sexuality 175
13 Holidays, restaurants and cars 177
Avoiding holiday disaster 177
Eating out -- it can be done 182
Cars -- safety and sanity 184
14 Classroom strategies 187
Inadequate teacher training 187
Teacher attitudes 188
ADD parent strategies applied to teachers 188
ADD is not an excuse 189
Reasonable expectations 190
Firm, structured school environments 191
Filtering distractions or lack of stimulation? 193
Self-esteem 195
Managing appropriate and inappropriate behaviour 197
Reducing demands on teachertime 199
Applying limits 199
Equality of rewards 200
Positive attention 201
Keep tasks to a minimum 202
Learning styles 203
Transferring therapy to class 206
Giving instructions 209
Separate rewards from punishment 210
Responsibility and leadership 211
Projects 212
Homework 212
Exams and under-achievement 216
Essays and structure 218
Computers 218
The Nintendo classroom 221
15 Multi-modal management 223
Threats to acceptance of ADD 224
Diagnosis 224
Diagnostic measures 226
Multi-modal treatment 228
Being realistic 238
Index 240
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