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It was one of those perfect mornings. There I was, lying in bed with my cuddly Maine Coon, Shakespeare, snuggled up against me, his eyes half-closed, purring and exuding warmth like a giant, smelly heating pad. Suddenly he meowed and in a matter of seconds was off the bed and in the next room. Did I do someting wrong? Should I have let him get under the quilt? I...
It was one of those perfect mornings. There I was, lying in bed with my cuddly Maine Coon, Shakespeare, snuggled up against me, his eyes half-closed, purring and exuding warmth like a giant, smelly heating pad. Suddenly he meowed and in a matter of seconds was off the bed and in the next room. Did I do someting wrong? Should I have let him get under the quilt? I really thought Shakespeare and I were having a "moment."
Are you (still) lying down? Good, then I can tell you that with cats, that's all there is—a moment, which pretty much sums up their attention span. Shakespeare wasn't with you one moment and gone the next; he was gone even while he was there, much like some men who, during a night of bliss, seem to have already put on their clothes and left. The difference, of course, is that cats don't have clothes to put on.
1. YOUR CAT’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU . . . IF SHE PRETENDS YOU DON’T EXIST
The “I Guess Her Mind is on Other Things” Excuse 2
The “When I’m Calling Yoooooooouuuuu” Excuse 4
Straight from the Kitty Litter 5
The “Maybe She Has Attention Deficit Disorder”Excuse 6
Advisory to Wilma 8
Ten Ways to Suck Up to Your Cat 9
The “Maybe She Doesn’t Know How to Show Her Gratitude?”Excuse 10
The “Maybe Our Tan Is Throwing Her Off” Excuse 12
The “She’s Just Daydreaming” Excuse 14
The “Maybe He Needs To Take It Slow” Excuse 16
The “Maybe She’s Just Not Such a Good Listener”Excuse 18
Test Your Cat I.Q. (Basic) 20
2. YOUR CAT’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU . . . IF SHE’S FAKING INTEREST IN YOU
The “But My Cat Thinks I’m Such a Good Catch(er)”Excuse 22
Advisory to Mona in Dallas 23
Red Flag Alert! 24
Advisory to P.T. in Tulsa 25
The “But She Really Is Talented” Excuse 26
Don’t Despair 27
The “But She Doesn’t Realize I’m Constipated” Excuse 28
Cat Adoption Checklist 30
The “Unable to Face Reality” Excuse 31
The “Is It Identity Theft?” Excuse 32
The “But My Plants Need Watering” Excuse 34
3. YOUR CAT’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU . . . IF SHE PHYSICALLY ABUSES YOU
Quiz: Know Thy Kitty 36
The “Maybe She’s Just Trying to Get Under My Skin”Excuse 37
Official Not-That-Into-You Word Jumble 38
For Cats Only: What Owners Want in a Cat 39
The “She Doesn’t Realize It’s for Her Own Good” Excuse 40
Your First Cat 42
The “She Must Prefer the Real Me” Excuse 43
The “My Cat’s Just Not That Into Me” Excuse 44
Advisory to Glenda in Little Rock 45
Red Flag Alert!—The Official Early Warning
Wrong Cat Detection Checklist 46
4. YOUR CAT’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU . . . IF NOTHING YOU DO PLEASES HER
How Predictable is Kitty? The Five Great Behavioral Equations 48
The “Why Can’t We All Just Get Along” Excuse 50
Advisory to Eleanor 51
The “Maybe the Atmosphere Wasn’t Right” Excuse 52
The “Do You Think Being a Parent Changed Her?” Excuse 54
Are You Your Cat’s Punk? 56
The “But Maybe She Needs More Time” Excuse 57
The “Should I Be Unselfish and Change My Life for Her?”Excuse 58
A Cat Lover’s Pledge 60
How Many Cats Per Person? 61
The “Maybe She Needs Her Own Space” Excuse 62
The “Maybe She Didn’t Recognize Me in My New Hawaiian Shirt” Excuse 64
Neediness Alert: Are You in Danger of Your Cat Being Into You? 65
YOUR CAT’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU . . .
If She Pretends You Don’t Exist
Actually, she knows you exist; it’s just that she has other things on her mind. Why is a cat so incapable of acknowledging, at least occasionally, her loving, doting owner? Hasn’t she just a moment to walk over and lick your face, or to make the effort to turn her head and say“ Hi?” Many owners make excuses for their cat by citing their insanely busy lives. Of course she has no time for me, she’s lying in the sun, or she’s making the rounds of the house. Other owners rationalize their behavior as a defensive reaction to a pre-ASPCA era when cats were used as everything from beasts of burden (pulling little milk carts in Germany) to the Fighting Cats of Rome who, in their wee gladiatorial outfits, were forced to amuse Caligula’s in-laws. Who’s correct? I hope reading the following pages will help you decide.
THE “I GUESS HER MIND IS ON OTHER THINGS” EXCUSE
My Numkins is the best—the most beautiful, warmest, furriest, fuzziest, lovable cat in the whole wide world—and we often experience amazing chemistry. The only problem is that she’s never completely “there” for me. A few examples:
§ Sought comfort after breaking up with my ex
§ Was distraught and tried to “end it all” by jumping into the paper shredder
§ Had the flu
§ Needed consolation when I got the audit notice from that meanie IRS
§ Asked her, after being abducted by aliens, to,“ Hold me tight, I just need some closeness”
§ Needed protection from a mime
She simply went about her business, walking over to me and rubbing against my leg only when she felt like it and making limited eye contact when I needed her most. I’m sure she’s really into me, but I suspect that most of the time, her attention is focused on deep cat thoughts. Am I deluding myself?
Dear Starved for Support:
Don’t be fooled. I say, trade in that self-centered cat and make space in your life for the glorious things you deserve, like cable TV, the Lord, a new car, a lover who is totally into you, or, if you discover you’re feeling like crap without feline companionship, at least one of those new, sympathetic kitties who are also trained grief counselors.
Oh sure, your cat is busy. Not a moment in her insanely busy schedule to lick your face, rub your leg, or even cough up one measly tribute-to-my-owner hair ball. That’s nonsense. No cat is that busy. If she can’t take a break from her day—perhaps cutting her yoga lesson short—to sit before you and sing, “Achy Breaky Heart,” consider finding a cat who will.
THE "WHEN I’M CALLING YOOOOOOOOUUUUU” EXCUSE
I can’t tell whether my cat is just not into me or playing hard to get. When she vanishes to some secret part of the house, I can spend hours calling,“ Here kitty kitty, here kitty kitty”—but she only appears when she hears “Her” can being opened. I’m her owner! Tell me she’s only playing hard to get. I’m insecure.
Kindly apply a cold compress to your forehead. Holding it there? Good. It’ll help relieve the psychic pain experienced by so many owners when they’re dissed by their cat. You see, honey, the right side of your cat’s brain does hear you, but the left side of its brain is usually focused on a dozing termite or a piece of fallen chicken; during these moments, it couldn’t care less whom it is owned by.
Note: In rare cases, an empathetic cat will spare its owner’s feelings of rejection and abandonment by a) leaving a poop the size of a burrito on the couch or b) shedding all over the baby.
Love these wonderful creatures, dote on them, care for them, take them sailing, but remember: They are haughty, disdainful, arrogant, withholding, standoffish, moody, petulant . . . okay, enough adjectives. Cats are their own person and not into you. Even when the great Renaissance artist Raphael painted Mittens Adoring a Flounder, he couldn’t get the cat to gaze with proper adoration upon the fish. Raphael had to fake Mittens’ expression. Are you more talented than Raphael?
STRAIGHT FROM THE KITTY LITTER
You deserve an affectionate, demonstrative cat. One who showers you with unconditional love. A cat who is always happy to see you. A cat with a heart of gold who’ll comfort you when you’re ailing and who, when you come home, joyfully wags her tail instead of angrily flicking it over some perceived slight—you yawned in her face or you failed to use the good china when presenting her saucer of milk. If you find a cat exactly like this, let me know.
THE “MAYBE SHE HAS ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER” EXCUSE
Okay, okay, let me lay it out for you. I get home, go into the kitchen, and as I start to put away the groceries, I realize I’d like some company. Fine. The parakeet’s asleep and the hamster has a fever, but I know my faithful cat, Gilgamesh, is somewhere in the house. Our conversation goes something like this:
“Gilgamesh, where are you?”
“Gilgamesh, sweetie, don’t you hear me?”
“Gilgamesh, I have a surprise for you.” (I bought her this stupid little bear at Wal-Mart; the clerk swore it made her cat her slave.)
“Okay, Gilly, where are you hiding?”
She finally makes her grand entrance, strolling in as though she has all the time in the world. And then what does she do? She simply looks around, makes a pass at the leg of the dining table with her vibrissa, then saunters over to the exact spot on the floor where the sun is streaming through the window and collapses in a heap of drowsy fur. I think she has Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’ve a good mind to spike her food with Ritalin.
Dear In Dire Need of a Plan B:
I want you to kneel and clasp your hands. Now say Kattish, the prayer for all the poor cat owners who cling to the pathetic hope that their cat is even remotely into them. It goes something like this:
O Great Kitty Father in the Sky, grant me the power to accept that, of all the things that are really important to my cat, my cat is most important to my cat. Furthermore, grant me the power to believe that I m a catch and deserve to be with a creature who cares, who can't wait to see me and be with me, a significant other such as a devoted and loving boyfriend or, if he's also one of those withholding, emotionally stingy jerks, a big Saint Bernard who slobbers all over me and joyfully barks the moment I walk in the door.
Finished? Good, you may get up now. It’s time to feed the cat.
Advisory to Wilma
I share your frustration, but it’s really so simple.Your dog is obedient and does pretty much what you tell him because dogs are, essentially, a body affixed to a tail. Doggy exists to a) please his master, b) sniff other doggies, and c) scare off strangers selling aluminum siding. Cats, on the other hand, are unpredictable because they have so many moving parts, permitting them a full range of independence—from warm, loving fur ball, to tailflicking curmudgeon, to psychotic drama queen in a matter of moments. Now take a sheet of paper and write the following:
1. Obedient dog.
2. Obedient cat.
Guess which is the oxymoron.
Isn't Life More Fulfilling When You're Humiliated?
Let this hidden gem take advantage of you. Exploitive but lovable Scottish Fold, on the lam and traveling under an assumed name (Trigger). Had to run away from owner too insecure to be dominated, now seeks weak, docile mistress who likes to beg, bow, and do my bidding. Reply in confidence to Starfire, Box 444.
TEN WAYS TO SUCK UP TO YOUR CAT
1. Her birthday? Surprise her with a bouquet of flowers and a certificate to a cat spa.
2. Leave affectionate Post-its by her kitty litter.
a. “Guess who loves you the most.”
b. “Who’s the best kitty in the whole wide world?”
c. “Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?”
3. In the morning, get out of bed extra gently so you don’t wake Miss Sleepyhead.
4. Give her a back tickle even if she didn’t ask for one.
5. Play “I’m in the Mood for Love” the moment she enters the room.
6. Praise her in front of her friends.
7. Appearance counts. She’s always grinning? Apply whitening strips to her teeth.
8. Let her sit in your lap when you do the stationary bike.
9. Pet her while you make sultry tiger noises. Hope she gets it.
10. Name your truck after her.
How effective are these measures? What part of “meow”don’t you understand?
Posted January 6, 2011
This book wasn't as funny as I'd hoped. There are a few good one-liners inside, but overall it was very repetative. It does basically just state that cats are more intelligent than humans, and that we live to serve them, and they only stick around because we provide for them--that they're just not that into us. There were even a few parts that were very weird and sexual--like one woman saying that her cat liked to nibble on her panties, but not while they were on her, and she desired her cat to gnaw on them while she was wearing them...it was very odd! I understand that it's also supposed to be along the same lines as "He's Just Not That Into You" but some of the write-ins and answers seemed more like they were about men and women...which made them less funny, because they were using the word cat. As a cat-lover, I expected more good humor about cats, and I was left wanting. I just wasn't that into this book.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.