Your Erroneous Zones

Your Erroneous Zones

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by Wayne W. Dyer
     
 

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From the author of the multimillion-copy bestseller Pulling Your Own Strings, positive and practical advice for breaking free from the trap of negative thinking and enjoying life to the fullest.
  • If you're plagued by guilt or worry and find yourself unwittingly falling into the same old self-destructive patterns, then you have
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From the author of the multimillion-copy bestseller Pulling Your Own Strings, positive and practical advice for breaking free from the trap of negative thinking and enjoying life to the fullest.
  • If you're plagued by guilt or worry and find yourself unwittingly falling into the same old self-destructive patterns, then you have "erroneous zones"--whole facets of your approach to life that act as barriers to your success and happiness.
  • If you believe that you have no control over your feelings and reactions, you give up the many choices that are available to you. Dyer shows how you can take charge of yourself and manage how much you will let difficult times--and people--affect you.
  • If you spend more time worrying what others think than working on what you want and need, you will always be disappointed. Dyer shows that only you can make yourself happy and points the way to true self-reliance.
  • If you are still caught up in old labels for yourself and an out-of-date self-image, you cancel out your present potential. Dyer shows how you can break out of the patterns of the post to become fulfilled in the present.
  • If you depend upon others for your well-being, you lose yourself. Dyer shows how to take control of your own needs and learn to give and receive love without limits.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780061852008
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
03/17/2009
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
256
Sales rank:
18,857
File size:
412 KB

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Chapter One

Taking Charge
of Yourself


The essence of greatness is the ability to choose personal
fulfillment in circumstances where others choose madness.

Look over your shoulder. You will notice a constant companion. For want of a better name, call him Your-Own-Death. You can fear this visitor or use him for your personal gain. The choice is up to you.

With death so endless a proposition and life so breathtakingly brief, ask yourself, "Should I avoid doing the things I really want to do?" "Should I live my life as others want me to?" "Are things important to accumulate?" "Is putting it off the way to live?" Chances are your answers can be summed up in a few words: Live ... Be You ... Enjoy ... Love.

You can fear your death, ineffectually, or you can use it to help you learn to live effectively. Listen to Tolstoy's Ivan Ilych as he awaits the great leveler, contemplating a past which was thoroughly dominated by others, a life in which he had given up control of himself in order to fit into a system.

"What if my whole life has been wrong?" It occurred to him that what had appeared perfectly impossible befor, namely that he had not spent his life as he should have done, might after all be true. It occurred to him that his scarcely noticeable impulses, which he had immediately suppressed, might have been the real thing, and the rest false. And his professional duties and the whole arrangement of his life and of his family, and all his social and official interests, might all have been false. He tried to defend all those things to himself and suddenly felt the weakness ofwhat he was defending. There was nothing to defend....
The next time you are contemplating a decision in which you are debating whether or not to take charge of yourself, to make your own choice, ask yourself an important question, "How long am I going to be dead?" With that eternal perspective, you can now make your own choice and leave the worrying, the fears, the question of whether you can afford it and the guilt to those who are going to be alive forever.

If you don't begin taking these steps, you can anticipate living your entire life the way others say you must. Surely if your sojourn on earth is so brief, it ought at least to be pleasing to you. In a word, it's your life; do with it what you want.

Happiness and Your Own I.Q.

Taking charge of yourself involves putting to rest some very prevalent myths. At the top of the list is the notion that intelligence is measured by your ability to solve complex problems; to read, write and compute at certain levels; and to resolve abstract equations quickly- This vision of intelligence predicates formal education and bookish excellence as the true measures of self-fulfillment. It encourages a kind of intellectual snobbery that has brought with it some demoralizing results. We have come to believe that someone who has more educational merit badges, who is a whiz at some form of scholastic discipline (math, science, a huge vocabulary, a memory for superfluous facts, a fast reader) is "intelligent." Yet mental hospitals are clogged with patients who have all of the property lettered credentials-as well as many who don't. A truer barometer of intelligence is an effective, happy life lived each day and each present moment of every day.

If you are happy, if you live each moment for everything it's worth, then you are an intelligent person. Problem solving is a useful adjunct to your happiness, but if you know that given your inability to resolve a particular concern you can still choose happiness for yourself, or at a minimum refuse to choose unhappiness, then you are intelligent. You are intelligent because you have the ultimate weapon against the big N.B.D. Yep-Nervous Break Down.

Perhaps you will be surprised to learn that there is no such thing as a nervous breakdown. Nerves don't break down. Cut someone open and look for the broken nerves. They never show up. "Intelligent" people do not have N.B.D.'s because they are in charge of themselves. They know how to choose happiness over depression, because they know how to deal with the problems of their lives. Notice I didn't say solve the problems. Rather than measuring their intelligence on their ability to solve the problem, they measure it on their capacity for maintaining themselves as happy and worthy, whether the problem gets solved Or not.

You can begin to think of yourself as truly intelligent on the basis of how you choose to feel in the face of trying circumstances. The life struggles are pretty much the same for each of us. Everyone who is involved with other human beings in any social context has similar difficulties. Disagreements, conflicts and compromises are a part of what it means to be human. Similarly, money, growing old, sickness, deaths, natural disasters and accidents are all events which present problems to virtually all human beings. But some people are able to make it, to avoid immobilizing dejection and unhappiness despite such occurrences, while others collapse, become inert or have an N.B.D. Those who recognize problems as a human condition and don't measure happiness by an absence of problems are the most intelligent kind of humans we know; also, the most rare.

Learning to take total charge of yourself will involve a whole new thinking process, one which may prove difficult because too many forces in our society conspire against individual responsibility. You must trust in your own ability to feel emotionally whatever you choose to feel at any time in your life. This is a radical notion. You've probably grown up believing that you can't control your own emotions; that anger, fear and hate, as well as love, ecstasy and joy are things that happen to you. An individual doesn't control...

Your Erroneous Zones. Copyright © by Wayne Dyer. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

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Meet the Author

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer was the bestselling author of 20 books and had a doctorate in counseling psychology. He lectured across the country to groups numbering in the thousands and appeared regularly on radio and television. He passed away in August of 2015.

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Your Erroneous Zones 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 44 reviews.
Trini_Pride More than 1 year ago
This book is helpiing me save myself from MYSELF! Thank you, Dr. Dyer!
Guest More than 1 year ago
After 30 years, I still find this a BIBLE to comfort me, and identify and extinguish negative feelings, the way no other source can. Myself, the product of a highly disfunctional upbringing, I find this guide unravels unproductive behavior and thoughts within myself it identifies the dark influence others can inflict upon you, if you so allow it. It is, hands-down, the ultimate, simplified, no-nonsense guide to smart psychological thinking. I FIND IT TO BE A GODSEND. 30 years ago, it was the best $4.95 purchase that I ever made. Thankyou, Dr. Dyer.
justafan2828 More than 1 year ago
This book will help people for the rest of their lives!!! It is a must read if you think you are unhappy because of someone else. Happiness is a choice... Pen name justafan2828
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is one of the best self-help books ever written. Dr. Wayne Dyer tells it like it is. I've read the book 5 or 6 times & am reading it again. "It gives you a checkup from the neck up." It helps you to identify all the garbage inside you and shows you how to clean it up, if you want to, and live life fully. I've gave friends and family each a copy
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have another book by Wayne W. Dyer so I thought I'd try this one as well. I was not disappointed. I came away with the feeling that "I deserve this--that good things will happen to me and for me." So, whether you are looking inside yourself or to others for inspiration...I suggest you pick this title up.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this book for the first time when I was a teenager and it help me overcome my teen years. I read it again in difficult situations and I still keep reading it and I recommend it to my teenager boy now. It really helps to see life in a different point of view and help you stand tall when you are down. It teaches you how to love and accept yourself as you are.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book literally saved me. I've read it a few times and know I will again.
Guest More than 1 year ago
when i broke up with my boyfriend i had so many questions directed towards my unworthyness but after reading this book i realize people who love you will accept you for who u are. and wasting time to think about the past is burying your present
Guest More than 1 year ago
Before reading this book, I let others dictate how I should feel, how should I act... how I should be. I read other books to elevate my self-esteem, but to no avail. A relationship had just ended and I still wasn't feeling normal; I felt stuck. I felt bound to something, but I didn't know what. And, I kept feeling incomplete. Once I read this book, I KNOW how to lead my own life. I feel free! I AM complete. I know now that what they say is what they say, what they do is what they do. I don't have to live up to anyone else's image of me. I can live my life the way that *I* want to live it in a more positive way. Thanks, Wayne! :-)
JuneandJune More than 1 year ago
I am not much of one for keeping books because I like to pass them on but this one is one you can read again and again. Practical advice for living life to your personal best.
Sir_G More than 1 year ago
Wayne W. Dyer has again produced a book that stimulates informs and motivates the reader. In his own ineffable style Dr Dyer examines those areas of our life and thinking that may be holding us back from self fulfillment. The book challenger the reader to rethink some of the attitudes impede human development mentally and emotionally giving ways to allow the past to be the past enabling the reader to lay aside a blame or excuse culture that so much of society seems to revel in. While it is an easy book to read that does not mean that the ideas expressed are easy I found some of the chapters challenging my own view of past events. This reexamination however does allow for clarity on the emotional field and if worked on allows healing to take place.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book when I was in first year of my engineering school. Since then I have read it ample of times and gifted this book to lots of my friends and family members on different occasions. Everytime I read this book at different juncture of my life I learned something from it. Great reading. Especially I love the last chapter describing a person who has eliminated all erroneous zones. Dr. Dyers great contribution to ordinary people of the world.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book makes you realize what's wrong with your life and make changes. It really changed my life!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book in December 1984. At the time I was jogging 500-600 miles a year and drinking the same number of beers. I kept track because 1 mile jogs off the calories in one beer. Every one of Dyer's principles applied me. After putting them into effect, I haven't had a drink for over fifteen years. I didn't try to stop drinking; removing all the stress in my life eliminated the need for alcohol.
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This truly a life changing book. I rate it amongst the five best books I ever read.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm only on page 34, but I already feel so much better about myself ! Can't wait to finish it. So many people could benefit from insights  like those in this book. We're all messed up to some extent by what  people said to us when we were growing up, and since we didn't know better then, we believed it. Now we have to undo all that stuff, and this book will help if you're willing to put in the work. It's worth it.
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