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Chapter 1 Emotions Are Not Mysterious Visitors; They Can Be Identified and Understood 15
Chapter 2 You Can Change Your Compulsive Behaviors If You Change Your Thoughts and Address Your Feelings 39
Chapter 3 Every Behavior Has an Underlying Purpose-and It's Not Always What We Think 61
Chapter 4 We All Sabotage Ourselves Unless We Confront Our Inner Saboteur 79
Chapter 5 All Behavior Requires Permission, So We Must Learn What We're Permitting Ourselves To Do 97
Chapter 6 Emotional Energy Is Finite and Needs to Be Invested, Rather Than Wasted on Wishing, Worrying and Whining 111
Chapter 7 Our Relationships Depend on Self-Empowerment and Not on Enabling Others 129
Chapter 8 Ego Boundaries Protect Us From Rejection, Insult, and Intimidation 145
Chapter 9 You Can Trust People to Be Who They Are, Not Who You Want Them to Be 161
Chapter 10 Time Doesn't Heal All Pain; We Heal Ourselves By Learning to Let Go 175
Chapter 11 Putting the Truths to Work for You 195
About the Authors 221
Posted October 21, 2009
We all want to be happy, but too often we set up obstacles without even being aware. We worry too much, we panic, we feel jealous, anxious and angry. These feelings and the endless unwanted thoughts that come with them hang over us like a dark cloud and make us miserable.
In Your Mind: An Owner's Manual for a Better Life, the authors identify these behaviors and explain where they come from, and more importantly, how we can change them to live more fulfilled lives. This book is extremely well-organized, easy to read, and the authors inject just the right dose of humor to make their points. Each chapter or Truth begins with a quote from the likes of Ralph Waldo Emerson, Roseanne Barr, or Don Henley of the Eagles, and ends with simple activities that are designed to help you learn how to pinpoint the behaviors you want to change. There's space to write on the pages, or you can write on a separate sheet of paper and pass the book along to your mother-in-law or your husband to help them become more fulfilled too. The Truths that the authors identify are really guidelines to achieve positive change and happiness. For instance, Truth #1 is "Emotions are not mysterious visitors; they can be identified and understood." The authors explain in simple terms where feelings like guilt, panic, anger and anxiety come from and they help us learn to identify them in the moment and to ultimately avoid letting them take over our lives. One of the exercises invokes the "Opposite George" approach from the TV show "Seinfeld." When George realizes that every decision he ever made was wrong, he decides to act opposite to his impulses. In the same way, we have to learn to check our tired old impulses at the door, think, and find new ways to interact with the world--ways that result in increased personal satisfaction and a greater quality of life.
Your Mind: An Owner's Manual is chock full of easily accessible, practical information that you can begin integrating into your life immediately.
Reading this book is just like having a therapist, but way cheaper.