You're Perfect... and Other Lies Parents Tell [NOOK Book]

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In You?re Perfect? And Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth About Spoiling Your Kids, Coombs delineates how modern parents are unwittingly raising entitled children who are ill-equipped to become productive, empathetic, law-abiding young adults. In short, the ?cool? parents are raising ?cold? kids.

"The ugly truth parents need to face is that telling your children that they are perfect and shielding them from the consequences of their ...
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Overview

In You’re Perfect… And Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth About Spoiling Your Kids, Coombs delineates how modern parents are unwittingly raising entitled children who are ill-equipped to become productive, empathetic, law-abiding young adults. In short, the “cool” parents are raising “cold” kids.

"The ugly truth parents need to face is that telling your children that they are perfect and shielding them from the consequences of their actions while insisting that every child gets a first-place trophy is not good parenting," says Coombs. You’re Perfect… is the urgent wake-up call that the parents of the “Me Generation” so desperately need, and the easy-to-implement information within its pages could change the course of millions of young lives for the better.

You’re Perfect… is your crash course in real-world parenting and will teach you:

- The dangers you may be exposing your child to
- How to transform your child's self-entitlement into self-control
- How to get your children to treat you with respect
- The warning signs indicating your child is at risk for delinquency
- How to tackle drug and alcohol problems
- When to invade your child's privacy

Whether you’re holding a newborn in your arms or you’ve got an 18-year-old spiraling out of control, this is the guide every parent should have to be prepared for the unexpected and to protect their children from society’s dangerous pitfalls.
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A balance of accountability, love, commitment and common sense. You're Perfect is a no-nonsense guide filled with essential information and practical tips all parents need to keep their children out of trouble and on the right track. A must have! —Lisa Boesky, Ph.D.,author of When to Worry: How to Tell if Your Teen Needs Help—and What to Do About It
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781939457912
  • Publisher: Bird Street Books
  • Publication date: 12/3/2012
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 478,593
  • File size: 683 KB

Meet the Author

Loni Coombs has a unique and valuable perspective on parenting in today’s world. As a former prosecutor for the Los Angeles District Attorney’s Office, she saw family after family face the brutal reality that their child wasn’t as “perfect” as they so wanted to believe. She worked with parents of young people put into prison for everything from drug possession and theft to murder, and in so doing, developed a sincere passion for helping families avoid these tragic times. But what truly makes her message powerful is her ability, as a mother and stepmother herself, to convey heartfelt support and empathy for all parents.
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Table of Contents

Part I: What is Happening to My Kid?
Chapter 1 – Your Child is at Risk and you Don’t Even Know It Chapter 2 – You’re At Risk Too
 
Part II: The Principles – Building a New Life From the Inside Chapter 3  - Starting at the Core Chapter 4 – From Self-entitlement to Self-control Chapter 5 – the Golden Rule of Respect Chapter 6 – Listening to Your Children Chapter 7 – Talking to Your Children Chapter 8 – Better Kids Through Better Families
 
Part III: The Danger Zones – How to Protect Your Child from the Outside Chapter 9 – Dealing with Drugs and Alcohol Chapter 10 – The Perils of Technology Chapter 11 – What to Do About Sex Chapter 12 – When to Invade Your Child’s Privacy Chapter 13 – If Your Child Gets Arrested…
Chapter 14 – Getting Expert Help Chapter 15 – Could Your Child Be a Psychopath?
 
Part IV: What Do I Do When…?
Chapter 16 – Common Questions Parents Ask
 
Part V: Letting Go Chapter 17 – The Launching Phase Epilogue

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 5, 2013

    Should be required reading for all parents and parents to-be! 

    Should be required reading for all parents and parents to-be! 

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 5, 2013

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    Coombs offers an enlightened and common sense perspective to mod

    Coombs offers an enlightened and common sense perspective to modern day parenting with "You're Perfect…and Other Lies Parents Tell." 




    It isn't easy parenting children in this modern day Internet savvy world. As a former DA for LA City, Coombs saw many troubled teenagers cross her path in the justice system. After identifying parenting "types," and "pitfalls," Coombs offers common sense advice for modern day parenting.




    A majority of today's parents are instilling a sense of entitlement along with a lack of empathy for others by making their children believe "it's all about them." This mentality will only cripple a child as they grow up. After identifying the problems, Coombs offers solutions. Her writing style is easy to read and understand. Her voice is honest and sincere, and it makes the book shine despite its controversial topic. It's not easy to hear we're not perfect, but it really is necessary for our children to understand so they grow into their potential as young adults.




    Coombs message is relevant for today's modern audience. With her unique perspective, Coombs will challenge you as a parent to take a long, hard look at your style and she'll help you with good solid advice. A must read, especially if you have children who challenge you and your authority. I highly recommend this book. 

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 10, 2013

    Worth the read!

    This book really has great insight into what mistakes not to make with your kids, and what to do if you have already made them. Truly a book every parent should read, especially in our world today where everyone is a "winner" and the truth can never be told when mediocrity actually exists.

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