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Introduction

All across America there has been a renewed commitment to long-term relationships. Understanding that 50% of marriages will end in divorce, more and more couples are seeking professional counseling and training to learn the skills necessary to keep their relationships intact.

Yet, many are dissatisfied with the sexual component of their relationships. The National Health and Social Life Survey determined that 43% of women and 31% of men have some type of sexual dysfunction. Moreover, experts estimate that over 40 million women have lost their desire for sex!

What is happening with these relationships? Why do so many committed couples struggle with such an essential and pleasurable part of their relationship?

It turns out that in addition to psychological and sociological factors, our biochemistry plays a role. A great deal has been written to help couples understand relationships from a psychological point of view, but not as much about the biological forces that significantly impact our sexual arousal processes. Scientists have discovered that certain biochemicals increase our desire for sex and others decrease it. And while researchers are discovering more every day, not enough of what scientists have already determined -- and how couples can apply this research -- has been broadly disseminated to the general public. Until now.

Hormones and neurotransmitters affect the way we think, act and feel. We're all familiar with adrenaline, which surges in response to threatening situations. For instance, if we suddenly perceive danger, adrenaline is released as our fight or flight response system kicks in, causing our hearts to beat faster and our blood pressure to rise. We start taking short quick breaths and our senses become more acute as our bodies prepare for rapid response.

People pumped with adrenaline have been known to perform superhuman acts. Eventually, the threat of danger disappears and our bodies return to normal. The initiation of the adrenaline process is not a conscious one. We don't tell ourselves to release more adrenaline in order to respond with fight or flight. In the face of danger, our bodies go on a form of autopilot in order to prime ourselves for optimal response.

This is an example of how our bodies perceive external stimuli and respond with biochemical changes that affect the way we perform. Several other biochemical reactions take place in our bodies in response to external or internal stimuli. Seduce Me! explores those that specifically affect sexual arousal, both positively and negatively.

In addition to helping us understand the role of biochemical and psychological factors in our libidos, Seduce Me! presents methods that can reactivate the body's sexual arousal systems. You can learn how to ignite - or re-ignite - your partner's passion and regularly experience ultimate sexual pleasure.

• Seduce Me! is for couples who have lost the spark they once had and want to get it back.
• Seduce Me! is for couples who never fully developed their sexual selves and are ready to learn.
• Seduce Me! is for couples who are currently having sensational sex, and want to make sure it will continue.

Seduce Me! demonstrates that sensational sex does not require having sex 5 times a day, having multiple simultaneous orgasms, or having 60 minutes of intercourse. It doesn't require model-perfect looks or body-builder muscles and you certainly don't have to be young. It doesn't even require partners that are experts on the latest techniques. All it takes is a true desire to understand your partner's needs and a willingness to explore ways of meeting them.

Inside every man is a potential Don Juan and in every woman, the passion of Lady Chatterley. Unfortunately, he's often too busy being "Mr. Hardworking-breadwinner-without-enough-time-for-family," while she's trying to balance Murphy Brown, June Cleaver, and Martha Stewart.

But even in our hectic, complicated, and overwhelming work and family lives, there is room for passion and intimacy. In fact, passion and intimacy can help keep our relationships strong enough to handle the day-to-day chaos.

Most of us have had passionate sex at least once in our lives. If you had it before and now don't - you can get it back…if you've never had it, you will soon!

If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there are so many books on how to do it? -- Bette Midler