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10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

by Julie Schwartz Gottman, John M. Gottman, Daniel J. Siegel (Foreword by)

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From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work.
In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still


From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work.
In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include:
• You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”?
• How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together?
• Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe?
• What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you?
• How can you make your work research-based?
No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

Editorial Reviews

Jeffrey K. Zeig
“The Gottmans are history's leading couples therapists. To offer clients marital therapy without understanding the Gottmans' groundbreaking contributions is unwise. Having researched marital success and happiness, they present their findings clearly and succinctly in10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy,so that clinicians of all persuasions and skill levels can effectively help couples thrive.”
Harville Hendrix
“Known for their iconic research on couples, their prolific writings, and the development of a couples therapy informed by their research findings, Julie and John Gottman, in this well written and comprehensive book, gift their clinical wisdom and processes to couples therapists. Filled with clinical insight, coherent theory, case illustrations, various data gathering forms, and a treatment plan, this book should increase the competence and confidence of any clinician who is wise enough to read it.”
Sue Johnson
“In 10 principles, this book lays out in an eminently readable and accessible way the basic steps of effective couple therapy. It is a great contribution to the field and will guide numerous therapists onto the path of successful intervention.”
Michele Weiner-Davis
“This book offers a clinical map for couples therapy that is both instructional and reassuring. You will find clear and helpful guidelines for adapting the Gottmans' evidence-based approach to your work with couples. Since relationship skill deficits underlie many couples' struggles, this skill-building model will be instrumental in helping you guide distant and warring couples, and in so doing, it will make your work infinitely more satisfying.”
“[L]ike their previous books, 10 Principles attempts to break down a complex issue into something more tangible. . . . [T]he heart of this text focuses on well-crafted principles for effective therapy, and includes scientific research, assessments, exercises, and statistics. . . . Few things are more fascinating than when therapy and scientific research come together, which is precisely why any work produced by John or Julie Gottman makes for an interesting read.”
The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter
“If you enjoy seeing the Gottmans as presenters, you will love their most recent book, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy. Extraordinary therapists and gifted researchers, it’s as if you can hear the authors’ voices emanate from the text. . . . [E]asy to read, while also providing useful concepts and a formula that works. . . . Of course, I recommend this book. It can be used as a resource guide, as well as one that offers immediate tools for working with clients. The research-based wisdom will no doubt become standardized knowledge because of how applicable it is for clinical work.”

Product Details

Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
Publication date:
Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology Series
Edition description:
New Edition
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Product dimensions:
8.40(w) x 5.70(h) x 1.30(d)

Meet the Author

Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

John M. Gottman, PhD, is William Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over two dozen books, including Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, The Heart of Parenting (with J. DeClaire), When Men Batter Women (with Neil Jacobson), Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, The Marriage Clinic, and The Science of Trust.

Daniel J. Siegel, MD is a graduate of Harvard Medical School and completed his postgraduate medical education at UCLA with training in pediatrics and child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry. He is currently a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, founding co-director of UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center, founding co-investigator at the UCLA Center for Culture, Brain and Development, and executive director of the Mindsight Institute, an educational center devoted to promoting insight, compassion, and empathy in individuals, families, institutions, and communities. Dr. Siegel’s psychotherapy practice spans thirty years, and he has published extensively for the professional audience. He serves as the Founding Editor for theNorton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology which includes over three dozen textbooks. Dr. Siegel’s books include Mindsight, Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology, The Developing Mind, Second Edition, The Mindful Therapist, The Mindful Brain, Parenting from the Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.), and the three New York Times bestsellers: Brainstorm, The Whole-Brain Child (with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.), and his latest No-Drama Discipline (with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.). He has been invited to lecture for the King of Thailand, Pope John Paul II, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Google University, and TEDx. For more information about his educational programs and resources, please visit: www.DrDanSiegel.com.

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