Table of Contents
Foreword Tony Attwood 7
Acknowledgements 13
Introduction 15
1 So, you want to date an Aspergirl? 19
2 Try feeling this! 25
3 She is not broken...you don't need to fix her 31
4 No wire hangers...ever! Why she has control issues 37
5 Everyone's a critic...but she's better at it than you 43
6 Break on through to the other side 49
7 It might seem like her special interest is herself 53
8 She only needs one friend...and the winner is, you! 57
9 Don't be cruel to a heart that's true 63
10 Home is where her heart is...and her body much of the time 69
11 Even if you think of her as a woman, she might not 75
12 Her name isn't Mommy...no matter how much she loves her child 79
13 How to turn a hotbed into a hot bed 85
14 Why soothing behaviors (formerly known as stimming) are good for her...and you 91
15 Jumping for joy...or bouncing, or twirling 97
16 Tongue-tied but not twisted...just because she can't verbalize her emotions, doesn't mean she doesn't have them 101
17 Depression—the enemy on our borders 107
18 The mood swings...do more than duck 113
19 Trust—abuse it and lose it 119
20 Is it obsession or is it love? 123
21 You may find more in common as you get older 129
22 Asperger's is a reason, not a label, not an excuse 133
Last words 137
Glossary of terms 139
Bibliography and, other resources 141
