How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety

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Overview

Picking up where Quiet ended, How to Be Yourself is the best book you’ll ever read about how to conquer social anxiety.

“This book is also a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self.” —Susan Cain, New York Times, USA Today and nationally bestselling author of Quiet

Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you’re introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.

If you get nervous in social situations—meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss—you've probably been told, “Just be yourself!” But that's easier said than done—especially if you're prone to social anxiety.

Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has. With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the reader through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and—at long last—exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781250122223
Publisher: St. Martin's Publishing Group
Publication date: 05/14/2019
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 79,722
Product dimensions: 5.30(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, Savvy Psychologist, and through Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD). Ellen’s scientifically-based, zero-judgment approach is regularly featured in Psychology Today, Scientific American, The Huffington Post, Susan Cain's Quiet Revolution, and many other media outlets. Savvy Psychologist, which has been downloaded over 5 million times, was picked as a Best New Podcast of 2014 on iTunes and was Otto Radio's Best Healthcare Podcast of 2016. Ellen earned her Ph.D. at UCLA and completed her training at Harvard Medical School. She lives in the Boston area with her family.

Table of Contents

Prologue 1

Part 1 I Thought It Was Just Me! Introducing Social Anxiety

1 The Root of It All: How Social Anxiety Takes Hold 23

2 Social Anxiety Is Like an Apple Tree (or, Why Social Anxiety Has Stuck Around for Millennia) 41

3 Your Brain on Social Anxiety 59

Part 2 Looking Inside Your Head

4 How Our Inner Critic Undermines Us 71

5 Think Different: Replace 89

6 Think Different: Embrace 98

Part 3 Heading Out into the World

7 Get Started and Your Confidence Will Catch Up 117

8 No False Fronts in This Town: Play a Role to Build Your True Self 124

9 Mountains to Molehills: It Gets Easier Every Time 137

10 Putting It All Together: Your Challenge List 142

Part 4 Busting the Myths of Social Anxiety

11 How (and Why) to Turn Your Attention Inside Out 171

12 Seeing Is Believing: How You Feel Isn't How You Look 181

13 "I Have to Sound Smart/Funny/Interesting": How Perfectionism Holds Us Back 197

14 Why You Don't Have a Social Skills Problem (You Heard That Right) 215

15 The Myth of Hope in a Bottle 227

Part 5 All You Have to Be Is Kind

16 The Building Blocks of Beautiful Friendships (They're Not What You Think) 233

Epilogue 255

My Quiet Road to How to Be Yourself 263

Author's Note 273

Acknowledgments 274

References 277

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