"I dug a deep hole in the back of my mind to place a shoebox of all the bullying memories that happened to me growing up in Lexington, Massachusetts. By making this hole and burying these memories, I hoped to forget what had happened to me and move forward with my life. I covered the hole with a lid and spray-painted the words "ANXIETY and DEPRESSION. DO NOT OPEN!"
But memories don't just go away ...
This true and inspirational story of Alan Eisenberg's life offers a raw and honest portrait of a bullying survivor and takes you on a journey that, in the end, leads to recovery and solutions to help heal from the trauma of the long-term effects of bullying. The issue of the long-term effects that bullying has on people is brought to life through Alan's story and how he tried to suppress the childhood trauma brought on by bullying, but finally had to confront it when anxiety, self-esteem issues, and finally depression set in. How childhood bullying affects us into our adult years.
In his quest to find answers to what happened in his early life, Alan shares his discoveries of what Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is. How to recognize it's symptoms. Alan also shares how he learned to make peace with the past in order to move forward and not let it haunt him any longer.
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About the Author
Alan has been featured in "The Boston Globe" on "NPR" and several other podcasts discussing the issue of bullying. More recently, Alan has written a biography of his experience dealing with the C-PTSD, anxiety, and depression that developed due to the years of bullying he experienced as a youth. Alan is married and the proud father of two grown young men.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
In A Ladder in The Dark, Alan Eisenberg writes a very personal story that offers those with similar tragic stories a path for exploring their own stories and climbing up their own ladders. Says Alan, “I hope to forget what had happened to me and to move forward with my life. I covered the hole with a lid and spray-painted…DO NOT OPEN! But memories don’t just go away.” When an author tells a true story it’s raw and real and resonates with others who’ve survived. As an author myself of a book on managing, surviving and changing workplace bullying, I applaud Allan’s honest story of how he survived repeated childhood bullying. Alan’s book is poignant and reveals the changes in self-esteem and personality that can come from repeated bullying. Readers gain a window into the pain that bullying produces. The book makes them wonder where were the parents and the teachers, the adults who could have intervened. Alan is committed to ending bullying in his lifetime. Congratulations, Alan, for an honest book, and thanks also for posting on bullywhisperer.com. You remind us all that the truth sets you free.
Amazingly Honest and Courageous First Person Account of Bullying Alan Eisenberg’s intimate portrayal of his life experience as first a bully victim, then as bully, leading to healing recovery, is a sometimes shocking story of what it means “to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.” The relentless bullying Mr. Eisenberg reports is all too common in our society and unfortunately for him, the bullying resulted in complex traumatic levels of anxiety and depression. Fortunately, although Alan leads the reader through his trail of tears, fears, anxieties and multiple assaults upon his being, in the end, his story is one where light does indeed appear at the end of the tunnel. Although there are many books on bullying, reading about Mr. Eisenberg’s unique journey provides a powerfully empathetic glimpse into what it means to let fear and anxiety run rampant in your life with few checks and balances. Again, fortunately, there’s a happy ending to Alan’s story since he not only was able to successfully deal with his resultant anxiety and depression but also light a path for others to follow so that they can begin to heal and recover from their own bullying experiences. In fact, given the order of magnitude of the events reported by Mr. Eisenberg, I have only admiration and awe for his ability to overcome such substantive odds stacked up against him. Indeed, Alan’s book is a testament to his stress hardiness and the power of the human spirit to overcome seemingly overwhelming odds that could have had an opposite outcome. Throughout the undeserved and continual assault upon his being, Mr. Eisenberg demonstrates that “hanging in there” and tenacity are key traits we should all strive to model and implement in our lives especially when facing unfair situations such as incessant bullying. A Ladder in the Dark is an extraordinary find. If you have ever been bullied or know someone who has been bullied, then reading this book will help move you forward in your life in more ways than one. Of course, it would make a great gift to any teen that may be experiencing bullying in school or on social media platforms so that they would know that their experience is not unique and there is nothing “wrong” with them! Additionally, since bullying knows no age limits, this book would make a great gift to any individual who is dealing with bullying incidents including those in the workplace or within their families. Highest recommendation! Robert “Bob” Wright, Jr., Ph.D., COFT