About Love: Reinventing Romance for our Times

About Love: Reinventing Romance for our Times

by Robert C. Solomon
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Hackett Publishing Company, Inc.
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About Love: Reinventing Romance for our Times

This book offers insightful observations from a broad range of sources--literary, historical, and personal--to explore the volatile blend of passion, expectation, and confusion that characterizes this most exhilarating and excruciating of human passions--love.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780872208582
Publisher: Hackett Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date: 09/30/2006
Pages: 352
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

Table of Contents

Preface to the Madison Books edition11
Introduction: Reinventing Love13
The Foggers and the Facilitators20
A Theory of Love23
1.The Elusive Emotion
The Critical Question31
"I Love You"35
Love and Reciprocity38
Romantic Love42
Other Cultures48
The History of Love54
Love as Identity62
The Paradox of Love64
2.Getting Clear (About Love)
Is Love a Feeling?76
Love and Relationships82
All or Nothing: The Idealization of Love88
Love Stories97
Beauty as the Basis of Love103
Beyond Romeo and Juliet: Love Among the Elderly117
3."Falling in Love"
Love and its Vicissitudes: "The Real Thing"129
The Joys of Sex134
Love at First Sight140
The Perils and Pleasures of Romantic Attraction: Why We Fall in Love147
Reasons for Love153
Love and Fantasy160
From Falling to Being in Love: The Coordination Problem168
Sleeping Together: Snugglers and Solipsists174
Loving and in Love179
4.The Self in Love
The Identity Theory of Love194
The Indeterminacy of the Self199
The Romantic Creation of the Self204
Sex and the Shared Self209
The Importance of Privacy217
Romantic Roles223
The Dimensions of Identity ("Do Opposites Attract?")231
Private Virtues238
From Dialectic to Dynamics249
5.The Dynamics of Love: Making Love Last
Caring and the Myth of Selfishness255
Love and Time262
Equality and the Problem of Power283
Possession and Possessiveness300
The Importance of Fights in Love310
Friendship as the Foundation of Love313
The Meaning of Fidelity323
The Waning of Love, and Keeping Love Alive329
Reinventing Love343

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