An Imperfect Woman: Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Together
An Imperfect Woman: Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Together

An Imperfect Woman: Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Together

by Kim Hyland

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ISBN-13: 9780801075162
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 02/06/2018
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 428,939
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Kim Hyland is a writer, a speaker, and the founder and host of Winsome, an annual retreat for women that celebrates authenticity, diversity, and truth. She also speaks at national retreats and conferences, where she encourages women by sharing her imperfect path and God's perfect plans. Originally from the DC metro area, she now lives with her family on a mountain overlooking the Shenandoah Valley in Virginia. Connect with Kim at WinsomeLiving.com.

Table of Contents

An Imperfect Woman's Manifesto 9

Part 1 The Gospel's Proclamation 13

1 The Gospel, a Perfect Fit for Your Reality 17

I will reject spiritual perfectionism and embrace gospel grace.

2 Humility's Good Fruit 33

I will reject pride and embrace humility.

3 Guilty? Yes. Condemned? No Way! 51

I will reject condemnation and embrace forgiveness.

Part 2 The Gospel's Promise 69

4 That Peace 71

I will reject anxiety and embrace true peace.

5 His Sovereignty, My Security 93

I will reject false security and embrace God's sovereignty and provision.

Part 3 The Gospel's Price 111

6 Ideal or Idol? 113

I will reject idols posing as ideals and embrace sacrifice, suffering, and hope.

7 Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire 137

I will reject dressed-up lies and embrace naked truth

8 Women in Combat Boots 153

I will reject safety and embrace the battle.

Part 4 The Gospel's Power 173

9 Your Beautiful "Once upon a Time" 175

I will reject comparison and embrace my story.

10 Heavenly Minded 195

I will reject myopic, earthbound plans and embrace grand, eternal destinies.

Acknowledgments 213

Notes 219

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An Imperfect Woman: Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Together 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 12 reviews.
seekinggraceandgratitude More than 1 year ago
I am a self-proclaimed recovering perfectionist and a follower of Christ who has found freedom in my battle with perfectionism by identifying as being imperfectly perfect – perfectly designed by God, yet humanly flawed. I certainly am no expert on perfectionism but as someone who is bent towards it I strongly acknowledge that the struggle is real. The book asserts the reader will find freedom by acknowledging their limitations and embracing the perfection of God through His grace. While it did deliver on that promise, I felt the rest of the book fell short on addressing the deep urge a true perfectionist battles with – the internally forceful need to seek and obtain perfection in every little thing and in every possible aspect of life. An Imperfect Woman’s own tagline is Letting Go of the Need to Have it All Together. I felt there was no connection between the content and the tagline of this book and in fact felt like the content was all over the place. On a more positive note, I thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated the personal reflection questions that followed each chapter as well as the biblical material presented. I felt like both the scriptural references and reflection questions addressed the heart of the message while the rest of content missed the mark in painting a more relatable picture of the daily struggle that many women face –seeking perfection in an imperfect world. Would I recommend this book? Eh. Truthfully, I thought it was so-so for where I am personally as a recovering perfectionist. If you are someone who occasionally gets caught up in comparison or in setting unrealistic expectations in hopes of achieving perfection, then maybe this book is a good read for you. If, however, you are someone who has a deep internal conflict with perfectionism (like myself prior to discovering freedom by accepting God’s beautiful gift of grace), then this book is like popcorn at a movie that you can mindlessly munch on but receive little fulfillment. *Please note: I received this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review
seekinggraceandgratitude More than 1 year ago
I am a self-proclaimed recovering perfectionist and a follower of Christ who has found freedom in my battle with perfectionism by identifying as being imperfectly perfect – perfectly designed by God, yet humanly flawed. I certainly am no expert on perfectionism but as someone who is bent towards it I strongly acknowledge that the struggle is real. The book asserts the reader will find freedom by acknowledging their limitations and embracing the perfection of God through His grace. While it did deliver on that promise, I felt the rest of the book fell short on addressing the deep urge a true perfectionist battles with – the internally forceful need to seek and obtain perfection in every little thing and in every possible aspect of life. An Imperfect Woman’s own tagline is Letting Go of the Need to Have it All Together. I felt there was no connection between the content and the tagline of this book and in fact felt like the content was all over the place. On a more positive note, I thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated the personal reflection questions that followed each chapter as well as the biblical material presented. I felt like both the scriptural references and reflection questions addressed the heart of the message while the rest of content missed the mark in painting a more relatable picture of the daily struggle that many women face –seeking perfection in an imperfect world. Would I recommend this book? Eh. Truthfully, I thought it was so-so for where I am personally as a recovering perfectionist. If you are someone who occasionally gets caught up in comparison or in setting unrealistic expectations in hopes of achieving perfection, then maybe this book is a good read for you. If, however, you are someone who has a deep internal conflict with perfectionism (like myself prior to discovering freedom by accepting God’s beautiful gift of grace), then this book is like popcorn at a movie that you can mindlessly munch on but receive little fulfillment. *Please note: I received this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review
Pattistep More than 1 year ago
If you’ve ever struggled with being a perfectionist; had a problem comparing yourself negatively with other women; or had a “to-do” list to appear that you have everything together, this is a book you should read. Kim Hyland writes in a candid manner about her struggles with those issues and how it affected her life as well as the life of her family. It was only when she began to see herself as God sees her that she could allow His overflowing grace in her life. This is a well-written book filled with Scripture and encouragement. It was comforting and challenging. I look forward to reading more from this author. I received a copy of this book from the publisher. I was not required to give a positive review. This is my honest opinion of the book.
Pattistep More than 1 year ago
If you’ve ever struggled with being a perfectionist; had a problem comparing yourself negatively with other women; or had a “to-do” list to appear that you have everything together, this is a book you should read. Kim Hyland writes in a candid manner about her struggles with those issues and how it affected her life as well as the life of her family. It was only when she began to see herself as God sees her that she could allow His overflowing grace in her life. This is a well-written book filled with Scripture and encouragement. It was comforting and challenging. I look forward to reading more from this author. I received a copy of this book from the publisher. I was not required to give a positive review. This is my honest opinion of the book.
KMarkovich More than 1 year ago
What an amazing book! The author gives women permission to not be perfect because “maybe my despised imperfections had the potential to become something of beauty.” I loved how the author wove stories from her own life with Biblical principles and Bible verses to create a book to encourage women. Kim, the author, writes from her heart, sharing her struggles – “Sometimes I forget and see only my and others failures and shortcomings. But when I remember we are created for eternity, I can see the potential and opportunity in conflicts.” It felt so good to read this book – wish it had been written sooner! I recommend it! I received a copy of this book from the publisher. I am freely writing a review - all thoughts and opinions are my own.
dhiggins4 More than 1 year ago
“An Imperfect Woman” by Kim Hyland is just that book I needed to read. I have always suffered from perfectionism and am always comparing myself to others. Kim offered so many good words of advice on this subject and reminded me of things I already knew but forgot! Kim shows us how there is a difference between perfection and perfectionism. Perfectionism is our attempt to achieve perfection on our own strength. She shows us how to achieve perfection through God’s grace. I love how she uses the Garden of Eden, and how it all started with Eve not being satisfied to be in the beautiful Garden of Eden. I never thought of it like that. I would definitely recommend this book to any woman struggling with perfectionism, which is probably most of us! This book really puts things in prospective and frees us of perfectionism, which is really paralyzing! I received this book from Baker Books for my honest opinion.
MrsBishop More than 1 year ago
*Disclosure- I received this book as a part of Baker Books Bloggers. All opinions are my own.* When I read the title of this book, I thought, “Hmmm, did I write this?”. It was meant for me. I’ve been feeling like I HAVE to have it all together all of the time. And as we know, that is very much NOT the case. Once I cracked open the cover and began to dive between the pages, there was so much truth that I needed to hear- so I had to share some of those truths with you. “…the reality is that when I refuse to address anxiety, I surrender ground. Anxiety thrives in the darkness of denial. But when I face anxiety with the light of truth, it runs.” I’ve shared my struggles with anxiety on multiple occasions. Kim Hyland totally hit the nail on the head. I fought with my anxiety for a long time. Tried to ignore it, tried to shove it down deep. And it only festered and got worse. Not until I acknowledged it, sought others who’ve been through it, and prayed continuously about it, did I feel any relief. I’m not perfect. I suffer from anxiety. But, that doesn’t mean I am unloved. I am not alone. And just like Kim points out, “[God’s] power and presence are our ultimate security.” I have no reason to fear! She really helped me to realize that I don’t have to seek perfection. No one is perfect, and I don’t have to be feel bad for being me. She also pointed out a trend that I’ve been noticing more and more each day- “Quite often, our idols pose as ideals. They come in every shape and size. Ideals are what sell our books and determine our culture’s trends. They promise health, knowledge, beauty, esteem, security, confidence, happiness, and more.” I can easily turn the things that I’m seeking from ideals to idols. She reminds us that idols don’t serve us, they rather enslave us. They become more important than everything. Whether that be goals that I’ve set, or time I spend doing things that maybe I shouldn’t be doing. These idols can be anything, even things that are good- we can turn them into things we seek before God, and then they become detrimental to us. Back to that pesky anxiety. And fear. She was speaking directly to me when she said this: “Of course we work hard at being safe. But when safety becomes the filter through which we make all our decisions, we not only eliminate a risk but also eliminate opportunity and purpose…The most rewarding and purposeful parts of your life were most likely also the riskiest- sports, competitions, auditions, tests, college and job applications, marriage, childbirth. Almost everything we work hard for entails great risk. The risk and even the danger are what makes it rare, worthy, and of value.” I spend a ridiculous amount of time avoiding the things that scare me. I could easily lock myself away and never put myself out there. How much will I miss out on if I am unwillingly to take risks? I met my best friend because I went to a Book Club with no one I knew. I went on a date with a friend even though I was terrified, and I ended up marrying him! I struggled with infertility and loss for years before finally getting our precious son. I took a chance and wrote down my thoughts, and now I get to share my blog and so many wonderful things with you. ALL scary things. But, they’re also some of the GREATEST things in my life! The truths in this book, that Kim spoke right to me, have really helped me see some changes I want to make in my life. I’m embracing my imperfections and letting go of my weakness
EDParker More than 1 year ago
When I heard the title of Kim Hyland’s book I knew the content would resonate – An Imperfect Woman – Letting Go of the Need to Have it All Together. Yes, I have definitely suffered from the idea that if I could just be a better wife, mom, friend, volunteer, all would turn out perfectly, just as I’d imagined! My marriage, my children, my friendships…all perfect! I’d feel a sense of worthiness and accomplishment. I’d escape a dreadful ongoing sense of “never good enough.” If I just tried harder, did more, showed up, said yes over and over again, I’d be of great value to others and to God. I’d feel totally and completely accepted and loved. As Kim puts it, “I came to equate pleasing with love.” But the truth is, I will never be enough, “it” will never be enough, because “Nothing on earth will fill my heart’s cry for Eden.” Kim’s book starts with a powerful relatable Imperfect Woman’s Manifesto, supported by exacting Scriptures, fleshed out through personal stories, and applied with questions that call me to consider where I honestly am on this journey of hope and freedom in Christ alone. A smart, insightful, challenging read! I am a Mentor Mom with our local MOPs group and can’t wait to share this book and its truths with these younger moms. It’s a message they need to hear NOW!! An Imperfect Woman: Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Together
summer_no9 More than 1 year ago
This was an inspirit book writing and compelling to read with also had a message from the Author of this book to sharing from her experiences through a remarkable story from a part of her life that we are all had same bind as her from perfectionism, comparison, performance to become and see more clearly with this will helping to everyone to be a better understand and embrace in gospel freedom. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Baker Books Bloggers program for this review “.
KristinSmith More than 1 year ago
The struggle with perfectionism is alive and well in the hearts of so many women these days and I am no exception. When I heard about Kim's book An Imperfect Woman I knew that it was something that I had to read. The first chapter had me in tears, reading another woman's story that so mirrored my own caused a wash of feelings. But this book is one filled with hope. Kim weaves her own personal stories with those of the Bible, reminding us that as long as the world has existed, humans have struggled with this "not enough" feeling. I loved this truth early on..."Eve didn't think she was better than God....she just believed the lie that she needed more than God. He wasn't enough." How often do we believe that lie, and oh the rabbit trails those lies take us down! Each chapter ends with some questions for reflection, some opportunities to look deeper into those struggles you may be facing and find freedom from them. An Imperfect Woman is a must-have for every woman that has struggled to do more, be more, present well, parent perfectly and appear to have it all together. It is a chance to take a deep breath and remind ourselves that we can let all of that go. Get this book today!!
Tiffany Edmonds More than 1 year ago
Breaking the shallowness of many a Christian women's book, Kim digs deep. One of the things I appreciate most about this book is the sound theological foundation on which a pertinent struggle is addressed. This read is meaningful, sweet, genuine, and captivating as you are weaved gently through Kim's personal experiences and the truth of God's Word and His powerful gospel. I'll be revisiting An Imperfect Woman often as the reminder is one we women need again and again! Thank you Kim!
JViola79 More than 1 year ago
In a perfect world, I would possess the power (aka – control) to keep my loved ones safe from all hurts and difficulties. But I don’t live in a perfect world, nor am I a perfect woman. It does not take much for me to go down the slippery slope from anxiety to fear. Yet the reality is - there truly is not a single thing I can do to keep all of them safe at all times. "...our reality is that we are not alone! Jesus is Emmanuel, God with us, His power and presence are our ultimate security. His love for us is sure and has been proven." (page 77) This book brings much needed words of life and breath. Each chapter holds a message every woman needs to be encouraged, and reminded, the struggle is real but we need not face it alone. It’s truly a must read for every woman. **I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. The views expressed in my review are my own.