Anger: Taming the Beast

Anger: Taming the Beast

by Reneau Peurifoy
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Anger: Taming the Beast by Reneau Peurifoy

DON'T LET ANGER CONTROL YOU!

If you or someone you love is experiencing difficulty coping with their anger, this useful and practical book is the first place to turn to for help. With its clear, evenhanded approach, this book will show you o Why you handle anger the way you do, and how to change o How to manage anger in positive ways o When anger is a fitting response o How to express anger appropriately and effectively o How to handle frustration and resolve conflicts o How best to cope with stress, embarrassment, and shame

Whether you have an explosive temper or are brooding over suppressed anger, the questionnaires, step-by-step exercises, and strategies outlined in Anger: Taming the Beast will teach you how to change the way you experience and express anger. You will learn how to speak up strongly and effectively, set limits and say no to unreasonable demands, and relate your feelings to others without losing your cool.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781568363219
Publisher: Kodansha International
Publication date: 03/08/2002
Pages: 304
Product dimensions: 9.10(w) x 6.10(h) x 1.30(d)

About the Author

RENEAU Z. PEURIFOY, M.A., M.F.T., is an internationally recognized expert on anxiety and the author of the best-selling Anxiety, Phobias, & Panic. A marriage and family therapist, he designs and conducts programs on anxiety, anger, assertiveness, and stress management. He lives with his wife and two children in California.

Table of Contents

Author's Noteix
Prefacexi
Acknowledgmentsxiii
1Where Does the Beast Come From?
Is There a Positive Side to Anger?2
What Is Anger?3
How to Get the Most Out of This Book4
Summary of Key Ideas5
Recommended Activities5
2Facing the Beast
Appropriate vs. Inappropriate Anger11
Two Roadblocks to Change12
Abusive Behavior13
Time-Out15
Summary of Key Ideas18
Recommended Activities19
3The Nature of the Beast
What Are Emotions?26
Three Common Myths about Anger29
How Anger Is Expressed31
Learn to Recognize the Different Forms of Anger32
Summary of Key Ideas34
Recommended Activities35
4Thoughts That Awaken the Beast
Six Common Types of Distorted Thinking39
A Three-Step Approach to Reducing Distorted Thinking46
Summary of Key Ideas49
Recommended Activities50
5Stress and the Beast
What Is Stress?57
Your Body Is a Machine with a Limited Amount of Energy58
Decompression Routines59
Managing Times of Excessive Stress60
Summary of Key Ideas65
Recommended Activities66
6Additional Thoughts That Awaken the Beast
Who's to Blame?68
Four Common Erroneous Assumptions That Trigger Anger71
Mind Reading74
Summary of Key Ideas75
Recommended Activities75
7How the Beast Is Shaped During Childhood
Creating a Record of Your Childhood85
The Time Tunnel93
Core Beliefs94
Summary of Key Ideas97
Recommended Activities97
8When the Beast Is a Ghost from the Past
Cultural Stereotypes103
The Legacy of a Dysfunctional Family105
The "What's Happening? What's Real?" Technique110
Summary of Key Ideas111
Recommended Activities112
9The Beast as Defender
The Motivational Side of Anger121
Anger as a Psychological Defense Mechanism123
The Price of Using Anger as a Defense126
Learning to Experience All Your Emotions128
Behavior as Coded Messages132
Summary of Key Ideas135
Recommended Activities136
10Learning New Ways to Resolve Conflicts
Three Styles of Conflict Management147
Five General Approaches to Resolving Problems and Conflicts149
Common Erroneous Beliefs about Assertiveness151
Rights and Responsibilities153
Hit-and-Run Situations154
D.E.R. Scripts156
Summary of Key Ideas160
Recommended Activities161
11More on Conflict Resolution
Five Common Forms of Resistance164
The Nonnegotiator173
Becoming an Effective Negotiator175
A Five-Step Approach for Resolving Conflict178
Summary of Key Ideas182
Recommended Activities183
12Embarrassment and Shame
Embarrassment185
Summary Sheets188
Shame192
Adding a Spiritual/Existential Dimension to Your Work195
Summary of Key Ideas199
Recommended Activities200
13Resentment, Envy, and Jealousy
Resentment203
Envy209
Jealousy212
Summary of Key Ideas215
Recommended Activities216
14Managing the Frustrations of Parenting
Children Are Not Miniature Adults218
Most Things Can Wait220
Becoming a Source of Encouragement220
Teachable and Unteachable Times225
Lower Your Action Point226
Natural and Logical Consequences227
Get Out of the "Crime and Punishment" Cycle229
Sidestepping Power Struggles230
Suggestions for Very Young Children233
Summary of Key Ideas234
Recommended Activities234
15Making Peace with Intimacy
Substitutes for Intimacy237
What Is Intimacy Like?239
Eight Qualities That Increase Intimacy240
Four Common Areas of Conflict250
Summary of Key Ideas254
Recommended Activities255
16On Your Own
Three Plans262
A Final Word265
Appendix 1Guidelines for Selecting a Therapist267
Appendix 2Locating a Self-Help Group271
Supplemental Material275
Recommended Reading277
Index283

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Anger: Taming the Beast 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Reancont More than 1 year ago
Dr Peurifoy gives us a magnificent, eloquent and practical program to tame anger!   Through the follow-up of four people in their anger management process, are shown different ways in which it is possible to tame anger, transform it into a positive force rather than an indomitable and destructive enemy. Dr. Reneau crumbles the two main causes that cause anger to be expressed in an inappropriate manner, and how we can develop this skill in a practical and affordable way. With great clarity and mastery we are guided, with suggestions, examples, recommended activities, through a self-help complete program to get results. It seems to me that Dr Reneau Z Peurifoy shows a genuine interest in people, he genuinely and profoundly attains to provide us with useful tools to generate permanent change. All people should be educated in anger management and this book is an excellent tool.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have been trying for months to get help with my anger and then I found this book in the library. I am now court ordered to attend a workshop and they use this book as the basis for their program. Having the book as a guide and a resource has been of great help to me. I am buying this one as soon as I am able. My friends who have children with anger issues are also buying this book. It is an excellent resource tool.