When you enlist in the United States Military, you don’t just sign yourself up for years of duty, you also commit your loved ones to a life of service all their own.
No one knows this better than Elaine Brye, an army-brat turned military wife turned military mom of four officers, each serving in a different branch of the military: Air Force, Army, Marine Corps, and Navy.
Brye’s father and mother met while both serving in the U.S. Army and her childhood was that of a typical army-brat, with frequent movessome to faraway countriesdinner-table conversations full of military lingo, an ever-present anxiety during her father’s deployments to Vietnam and elsewhere, and family vacations to national monuments and battlefields. In 1976the first year women were accepted in the service academies and ROTCBrye herself enlisted in the Air Force, where she would later meet her husband, an Air Force pilot.
Now Elaine Brye is a mom to four military officers, and for more than a decade she’s endured countless teary goodbyes, sparse communication from boot camps and training summers, deployments, emotional airport reunions, empty chairs at Thanksgiving dinners, and sleepless hours waiting for phone calls in the night. She’s navigated the complicated tangle of emotionspride, worry, fear, hope, and deep, enduring lovethat accompanies life as a military mom.
In Be Safe, Love Mom Brye reflects on her family’s military service and offers a lifetime’s worth of insight, comfort, wisdom, and a bit of humor to fellow military moms who are navigating the unpredictable life that accompanies having a childor children in uniform.
In intimate and instructive essayson topics ranging from that first goodbye on Induction Day to the comforting power of the military community, from the healing power of faith to coping with the enormous sacrifice military life requires Brye braids together her own personal experiences with those of fellow parents she’s met along the way, offering gentle guidance and hard-earned wisdom to those new to the sisterhood of military moms.
In this one mom doing her best to hold down the home front, readers will find a wise and endearing friend to guide them through the unpredictable life of having a child in uniform, all the while reminding us that within each military mom’s personal story lies universal experiences of courage, loss, loneliness, faith, pride, and ultimately, a parent’s unconditional love.
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About the Author
Elaine Lowry Brye grew up as an Army brat, married an Air Force pilot, and ultimately became a mom to four military officers, one each in the Army, Navy, Air Force, and Marine Corps. For the last thirteen years she has been mentoring parents as they make the adjustment to military-parent life through the USNA Parents List Serve and in other online forums. Her professional life has included a bachelor's degree in Medical Technology; a Master's in Business; training in Air Force ROTC; and certification as a Science Educator. In 2010, she spent a year teaching in Kabul, Afghanistan, gaining her own experience in a war zone. But the role she is most proud ofbesides “mom”and which has taken her to the White House and to the stage of the Democratic National Convention, is that of dogged supporter of military families. She lives with her husband on a farm in Northeast Ohio.
Nan Gatewood Satter is a writer and independent book editor. The daughter of a highly decorated Navy fighter pilot, she lives in the Hudson Valley area of New York with her husband and son.
Table of Contents
Author's Note ix
Letting Go 19
You're in the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines Now 21
Becoming a Warrior 31
Semper Gumby 43
From Ballet Slippers to Combat Boots 53
Oh, the Places They'll Go 73
You Are Not Alone 85
The Sisterhood and Bevond 87
The Biggest Family in the World 99
Love in the Mail 107
It's Okay If You Break Down in the Dairy Aisle 115
Support from Unexpected Places 125
What Holds Us Together 133
I Believe in Miracles 135
Climb Every Mountain 147
Nourish Your Soul 153
Sandals on the Ground 163
The Calling 181
Saying Goodbye Again and Again 193
The Things We Carry 203
It All Takes a Toll 215
The Sneaky Bastard 221
The Gold Star 229
No Guts, No Glory 237
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
As a military wife and Mom to now 3 members of the military both active and reserve, I find Elaine Brye to be a quintessential military Mom whose insights are spot on! Elaine and Nan both have brought forth a delightful book which is a must read for any parent of a military member. One of the challenges I had not fathomed about my new role as a military Mom, was the loss of daily connection with my child during their initial training, deployments made it even tougher. The authors speak to this with humor, understanding, and sometimes with a "get it together, Mom" attitude - which is so valuable. So many times found myself recalling similar feelings and situations as I read the book. The inclusion of the experiences of other Moms was heartening. Knowing their are "sisters" out there in the same situation is a sanity saver. If you know of a new military parent, get this book in their hands.
I first got to know Elaine through the US Naval Academy parents' list-serve, where she offered advice and support to all of us parents new to military life. She helped guide and mentor us to become "Semper Gumby" parents-always flexible! I am not from a military family, so to watch my son leave for the US Naval Academy was quite a shock. Elaine's book should be recommended reading for all parents who are letting go of their children as they enter military service. I laughed, cried, and felt supported reading her book, and especially know that I am not alone-I belong to the strong Sisterhood of Military Moms!
This book has helped me cope with my 19 year old son going into the army on my birthday last year. October 30th 2017. He has a three year contract and is in infantry third division military scout. He’s at Fort Hood Texas. I am so proud of him and I pray that he stays safe and when it’s time to come home he will be able to come home.