Informative, inspiring, and enlightening, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be provides parents with the building blocks they need to discover their own parenting philosophy and develop effective parenting strategies. Through in-depth information, practical suggestions, and many lively first-person stories, the authors address the many dilemmas and joys that the parent of young children encounter and demonstrate a range of solutions to the major issues that arise in the raising of babies, toddlers and preschoolers. Full of warmth, clarity, humor, and respect, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be gives parents permission to be human: to question, to learn, to make mistakes, to struggle and to grow, and, most of all, to have fun with their children.
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About the Author
Janis Keyser is a parenting educator and program director. She teaches in the Early Childhood Education department at Cabrillo College in California and has been conducting workshops and facilitating parenting classes for twenty years. She is the mother of three, the stepmother of five, and the grandmother of twelve.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I was lucky to get this book when I was a new mom and feel even more grateful now that my first is 19 and off. Having kids in an unconventional setting, with no extended family to bounce ideas off, it really did help me think about my ideals, and now I feel like I substantially reached them. The book helped me feel reassurance every time I reached for it, and provided lots of insights. In particular, I have always been grateful for its encouragement to "observe your child," not judgmentally, or with aspirations, but simply to really know this person. I think cultivating this habit, which I might not have stumbled upon otherwise, has been a great factor in the happiness of my two kids, my partner and myself. Nothing else compares with it as a perspective-giver, in my opinion.
I haven't read the book cover to cover, instead I like to look up issues as needed. I like the ideas the book has on how to be a good parent. Everything the authors say is backed up by stories. It is very nicely written. I really like reading this book and everything it talks about is in a kind voice not a "NEVER do this, ALWAYS do that" voice. They offer suggestions to build on what already works for you.
The authors have done an excellent job describing and explaining early childhood! Each time I have come to this book looking for help & information, I have been impressed with the respectful solutions to problems and the positive approach to raising children. Intelligent and warm--a must-have book for parents of young children.
Some of the research is out of date. For example, it is not helpful to hit pillows and objects when one is angry, because it promotes and escalates anger rather than dissipating it. Over and over, the book claims this to be a help for caregivers and for children. Not so, research has shown! Also, I feel that there are too many personal examples from the author about her own child, and I expect to hear from a variety of families. I feel like I know too much about the author and her family. I feel like this book is designed to help people feel normal, but a lot of the examples are disturbing. A parent is still dressing his four-year-old child and doesn't understand why the child reacts and insists on dressing himself. Another ignores her kids and was unavailable during a period of grief, and I don't feel comforted by these ideas or examples. You can't just 'check out' as a parent because you're hurting or keep the child from independence as long as possible. The book seems to say that any background or challenge is okay, and I just don't think all behaviors can or should be normalized.