Childfree, childless ... these are the labels society gives to women who do not bear children, due to choice or genetics. Being Fruitful without Multiplying started as one woman's quest to come to terms with her decision not to bear children. In conversation with Renee and Janice--two close relatives from different generations--Patricia found that they shared another, unexpected bond: each belonged to childless or childfree social networks. All three were weary of questions from well-meaning people who wondered why they had not born children. As they began to reach out to others in earnest, they found that many who belonged to their diverse online communities were eager to share their stories. Some had chosen to be childfree and some were childless because of biological factors but grew to appreciate the advantages. Some of those who chose not to reproduce still decided to become stepparents or adopt. Over sixty women and a few men added their voices to those of the three main authors. The result is this rich and varied anthology, which includes stories from many different countries, cultures and income groups. Gold Medal Winner (Women's Issues) in the 2014 Independent Publisher (IPPY) Book Awards.
|Publisher:||Epicenter Press, Incorporated|
|Product dimensions:||5.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.52(d)|
About the Author
Patricia Yvette holds an advanced degree in information technology and marketing and currently works for a Seattle-based aerospace corporation. She has been married for twenty-five years.
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Those six years of babysitting adventures were more than enough to help me realize all the time, effort, and money required to raise children. Sure, the kids were sometimes adorable and fun to be around, but they also required major disciplining. Every girl should babysit during her teenage years. Babysitting may well provide the best possible incentive to postponing sexual activity.
During my babysitting jobs I saw a lot of poor parenting. Once I actually called my mother to have her bring over food supplies for the kids I was caring for, because there was nothing in the refrigerator but old take out and several bottles of beer. It was truly pathetic.
Witnessing this kind of neglect made me pity the girls in high school who purposefully or accidentally became pregnant. I was hugely motivated to practice abstinence--not the easiest thing to do when you are surrounded by friends engaging in sexual activity, insisting that you are missing out. One of my best friends discovered she was pregnant by a boy who had also impregnated another teenage girl. Her life changed instantly. It was about this time that I focused my energy on finding work and didn't look back.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
As a child-free blogger myself, I am always running into folks sharing their reasons for not having children with me -- and I am continually fascinated by the many motivations that cause my compatriots not to breed. This book is a shining example of the diversity of stories behind the child-free community -- it's true that while we share some core values, no two no kidders are alike! For those who claim the choice to be voluntarily childless is a selfish one, just read a bit about what those without offspring are doing with their lives (the ways in which they are contributing to the world, and most importantly, making contributions that those with kids could never dream of because of their attendant "kiddie baggage") -- and you will change your mind. For those who question whether someone can (or should be allowed) to decide not to have kids from an early age, see how many CFers knew from childhood that parenting was not the path for them -- and marvel in the strength behind their decision to buck the system and follow their own hearts. I was pretty certain my life was meant for other things besides breeding (namely full-time RVing, social commentary, helping others organize/simplify their lives, and sharing the insights my husband and I experience through travel) as far back as I can remember -- and I praise those who know themselves well enough even as teenagers to make a commitment to a truly fulfilling life, rather than following the herd and making a mistake that they would later regret. Rather than being vilified, the child-free should be praised for making conscious, rational, well-thought-out decisions about what they want and don't want (if more folks did that instead of acting like sheep when it comes to important life choices, our country wouldn't be in the mess it is right now!) Read this wonderful collection of tales, then go find a no-kidder to thank!