-Dr. Christine Carter, Author of Raising Happiness and The Sweet Spot
Parenting is a wonderful and challenging job, and managing negative behavior is one of the most difficult parts. Many parents find themselves running out of ideas when it comes to helping their kids develop maturity and self-control, and this is where Better Behavior becomes invaluable.
This book is not just about behavior, though, it's also about strengthening relationships. With equal focus on behavioral guidance and emotional attunement, Better Behavior holds the unique position of blending aspects of positive parenting with behavior modification techniques to help parents hold authority while also creating emotional connection. This balanced approach is the recipe for creating lasting behavioral change. It also promotes mutual respect and a desire for cooperation between parents and kids, which prevents many negative behaviors from occurring in the first place.
Written by Noah Kempler, a successful child and family psychotherapist, published author, and parent educator, Better Behavior provides a complete set of strategies and advice to help both parents and kids develop the skills needed to get along well. Key concepts include:
• Helping kids develop the 5 core skills that create emotional and behavioral maturity: Understanding Feelings, Communication, Flexibility, Respect, and Problem-Solving.
• Helping parents practice (and balance) the two arms of parenting: Empathy and Authority.
• Using Empathy to create connected, cooperative and strong family relationships.
• Balancing Empathy with clear, effective and consistent Authority to help eliminate negative behavior.
• Understanding how critical factors such as: temperament (both parent and child), parenting skills, couple-care and self-care impact family life.
• Illuminating behind-the-scenes family dynamics such as: structure, communication, boundaries, and family roles that together contribute to both parents' and kids' behavior patterns.
• Helping boost self-esteem, self-confidence and resilience for kids.
The principles in this book have proven effective in helping children with a wide range of issues, including: oppositional defiant disorder, ADHD, anxiety, social skills, low empathy, impulsivity, negative mood/attitude, sibling conflict, low self-esteem, and more. Presented in an engaging and easy to use format, Better Behavior comes complete with real-life examples and practical tips for creating harmonious family and social relationships. All types of families, with kids of all ages, have benefited from these ideas- and you can too. Get started making family life better now.
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About the Author
Noah's methods for creating change come from a unique blend of developmental, attachment-based, emotionally-focused and behavioral models of therapy. Noah has spent the past decade developing a consistently effective set of principles to help parents create lasting behavioral change and positive family relationships. His ideas have been published in several professional journals including The Journal of Developmental Processes and are now available in one volume titled Better Behavior: Helping Kids Create Change and Improve Relationships.
Noah has a successful child and family psychotherapy practice and also runs social skills groups for young children. He conducts staff trainings and parent presentations at schools on a variety of developmental and behavioral topics. Noah's blog, The Better Behavior Blog, features articles and resources for helping parents guide their children to improved behavior and better relationships. Noah is married with three children and lives in Marin County California.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Balance! I’ve been looking for a book that could help me as a parent bring balance to my (and my child’s) life. The author’s ideas about maintaining balance in our parenting and also helping our kids develop their own sense of balance in their lives is so helpful. It’s also helpful to get some advice on how to preserve yourselves as a couple. Having kids can test a marriage and Noah’s advice on maintaining balance as a couple was very helpful. Great book.
Honestly, I thought this was going to be just another parenting book that would make me feel bad by pointing out all of the things I’m doing wrong. This is not that kind of book. It’s got a nice, respectful way of speaking to parents and helping them build their own set of skills for being better parents. It’s helped me see that some of the things my kids do are not actually because of my bad parenting but because of their temperament. There’s lots of work for me to do, but it’s nice that there’s a book like this that helps parents understand everything that’s involved.
A great parenting resource. Helpful, clear and specific to many of the problems parents face today. It has helped me tackle some very challenging issues in our family. I especially like the chapter on balancing empathy and authority in parenting.
The nice thing about this book is that there’s a lot in there for parents. When your kid is having problems, it means that there are things for you as the parent to work on. This book seems at first glance to focus on the kids, but much of the material actually focuses on helping parents change. This is the thing that sets this book apart from other parenting books I’ve ready and is why it gets my 5 stars.