Better Together: Because You're Not Meant to Mom Alone

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Better Together: Because You're Not Meant to Mom Alone by Jill Savage


Being a mom is hard, but it doesn’t have to be lonely.

Are you trying to do this mothering thing alone? So focused on the kids that you’re hungry for friendships of your own? Have good friendships, but you want to enjoy them more?

Jill Savage, mother of five, knows those challenges well, and she’s here to help. Presenting a compelling vision of motherhood as a group effort, Better Together shows how you can:

  • Combat isolation and enjoy a supportive mothering community
  • Increase your social confidence and stop the comparison game
  • Deepen your friendships as you share life with others
  • Strengthen trust and build friendships without fear
  • Increase your joy and thrive as a mom

All these things are possible. Dive into this storehouse of creative ideas for how to make mothering easier, richer, and more fun than you ever thought it could be.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780802413796
Publisher: Moody Publishers
Publication date: 03/01/2016
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 1,228,260
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 7.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author


JILL SAVAGE is an author and speaker who is passionate about encouraging families. She is the author of nine books including Professionalizing Motherhood, My Hearts At Home, Real Moms...Real Jesus, Living With Less So Your Family Has More, and her most recent bestselling release No More Perfect Moms. Featured on Focus on the Family, Crosswalk.com, and as the host of the Heartbeat radio program, Jill is the founder of Hearts at Home, an organization that encourages moms. Jill and her husband, Mark, have five children, two who are married, two granddaughters, and one grandson. They make their home in Normal, Illinois.

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Better Together

Because You're Not Meant to Mom Alone


By JILL SAVAGE, Anne McClane, Elizabeth Cody Newenhuyse

Moody Publishers

Copyright © 2016 Jill Savage
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-8024-1379-6



CHAPTER 1

Where It All Begins

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One year after our first Hearts at Home conference, I found myself driving across town alone in my filthy minivan filled with car seats and five weeks' worth of Sunday school papers. I was having a conversation with God about the unexpected place He had me. I was leading a moms group in our church that had held what was supposed to be, a one time conference for moms. We expected 400 moms to attend and 1,100 showed up. It seemed that God's vision was much bigger than mine. We were now within a few weeks of our second conference and over 2,800 women had already registered to attend! We had assembled a board of directors, incorporated as a nonprofit, and were growing faster than I felt I could keep up with.

"You have to be laughing, God," I exclaimed with a mix of humor and resignation. "You now have me leading a huge ministry to moms and I DON'T EVEN LIKE WOMEN!"

I'm a late bloomer when it comes to female relationships. Growing up, most of the kids in our neighborhood were boys. My two sisters and I played softball with the neighborhood guys in the empty lot next to our house nearly every night during the spring, summer, and fall. Even though I went to all twelve years of school in the same school district, I never had one girlfriend who was my "best friend since first grade" as some people have.

I did have friends who were girls. I went to a few birthday parties and sleepovers over the years. Some girls eventually moved into the neighborhood and we had fun together ... playing baseball in the side lot. I also had some girlfriends I ate lunch with in high school.

Maybe it was growing up in a neighborhood of boys, or maybe it was being attracted to the simplicity of guy friendships, but female friendships weren't exactly a priority for me. I liked my guy friendships because they seemed to be less complicated. These weren't boyfriends ... just guy friends who didn't get their feelings hurt easily, communicated at face value, and protected me fiercely. They were more like the big brothers I never had.

I met some friends late in high school and I spent a year living in a sorority my freshman year of college (that, honestly, never really met my friendship expectations), but I never seemed to really "click" with the whole girlfriend thing in my younger years. While I privately longed to have girlfriends to share secrets with, laugh together, and talk on the phone for hours, I summed it up in my mind that I just wasn't meant to have many girlfriends and I needed to be content with what I had.

And then I became a mom.

Suddenly I had this desire to spend time with other women who understood what my life is like. I needed to learn from them. I needed to know if what my kid was doing was normal. I needed to know if my feelings were okay. More than anything, I needed to know I wasn't alone! Seeking female friendships to meet those needs, I discovered that I longed for a mothering community around me, but I had no idea how to find one.

I stumbled my way through those early years of mom friendships. I lived far from family, so my friends became family. I experienced both the high of "doing life" with other moms and the low of being rejected by some I thought were my friends. I've made lifelong friends and experienced friendship "breakups." I've come to learn that my personality and temperament affect the number of friends I will likely have. I've discovered that some friendships are seasonal and others are lifelong. Finally, I've learned some strategies along the way for making friends, keeping friends, and even understanding when it's okay to let a friendship go. I hope you're ready to dig into all of that, because the truth is, we need each other. We need to be with other women who understand our world of mothering, but most of us struggle with some aspect of making those relationships work.

Friendships change as motherhood changes. That's why I'm glad to have my daughter Anne writing with me. Anne just turned thirty. She's been married nine years and is the mother of a preschooler and a kindergartner. Anne has moved to a new community in the past eighteen months and has been knee-deep in forging new friendships. She's also never known motherhood without social media and the reality of "friend" being both a noun and a verb. Anne is an at-home mom who runs a day care in her home. Her experiences and season of life will likely resonate with some of you.

I, on the other hand, am just on the edge of the empty-nest season of life. With my youngest in college, I'm discovering a new season of life where friendships are no longer knit together by our kids' activities. Many women in my season of life are working full-time, which greatly factors into this friendship thing as well.

Anne and I have collaborated throughout the book, but we've chosen to write only in my voice. Anne's stories are woven in and out of chapters, but some of Anne's are also set off by themselves in ways that will help present a concept you can think about more deeply. We hope this makes reading easier for you!

Anne and I asked our online communities what challenges they found in mom friendships and what topics they would like to see addressed on these pages. I bet you can relate to some of these:

• How can we pursue relational depth without the drama?

• What do I do when I feel left out even as an adult?

• How do I find time to build friendships?

• How do I take a friendship deeper?

• What do we do with the comparing we tend to do in friendships?


These are great questions and we're going to dig into every one of them plus more! Most of us face relational struggles in some way. Too often we think we're the only ones struggling, but that's not true at all. We're just not exactly willing to advertise, "Hey, I'm struggling with friendships" on Facebook, in our Bible study, or even in our moms group for fear of appearing like we don't have it together.

Looking back over the past thirty years of mothering five children, I can truly say I am who I am because of the women who have been in my life. I'm glad I pushed through the struggles, chose to risk again after being hurt, and learned some relational wisdom to navigate the sometimes-rocky waters. My mom friends have grown me in my organizational skills, my parenting, my marriage, and my spiritual life. I've been cared for, encouraged, corrected, and loved on by the women in my life. More than anything else, I've truly come to understand that we really are better together.


WHY ARE MOM FRIENDS SO IMPORTANT?

There's a new business in the community I live in that gathers women together to make freezer meals in a home party type of setting. I'm not a home party girl at all, but when I'm going to end up with ten meals in the freezer in less than ninety minutes and someone else does the shopping, food prep, and cleanup, you've got my attention! I put an event invitation out on Facebook and had twenty women join me at a party I hosted. Most of the ladies who came didn't know one another because they were all from different parts of my life — some from church, some from a moms group I used to go to, some from Hearts at Home where I work, some from online relationships I've built, and a few women came because they were friends of someone who was coming.

As we assembled the main dishes for these meals, we broke down into five groups of four. Each group was in charge of assembling two of the recipes. We formed an assembly line of sorts, putting together twenty of each recipe. After the first five minutes, you would have never known that these ladies didn't know each other. The buzz of conversation was electric. There was laughter, stories, and wisdom being shared. Toward the end of the party someone said, "This is so much fun! I'm sure this is what it used to be like when women would cook together more often."

A century ago, extended family often formed a woman's natural mothering community. While quilting with aunts and sisters-in-law, marriage wisdom was passed along. While cooking with your mom and grandmother, parenting knowledge was shared. While scrubbing clothes with sisters and friends, homemaking tips were discussed. If a mom was sick, her community helped care for her kids. When a new baby was born, the village fed and cared for the new mom and her family. When there was a big project to accomplish, her tribe of mothers pulled together to help.

Today, many of us live away from our moms, aunts, sisters, and in-laws. Families are more independent in carrying out their household responsibilities. Even if a mom lives near her family, many older women are now in the workforce and just don't have the time or the opportunity to be together in the day to day — which is what it takes for regular interaction and natural conversation to happen.

Because our mothering community is no longer formed naturally within extended family relationships, we have to pursue, discover, and assemble it ourselves. We have to recognize the value of it and make it a priority in our lives because we're stronger, wiser, and even healthier when we have a mom community around us.


THE BENEFITS OF FRIENDSHIP

It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said, "Many people will walk in and out of your life; but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart." Those footprints represent the impact, the influence, and the inspiration our friends give us. Exactly how are our lives enriched by friendship? Here are ten powerful benefits of friendship:

Benefit #1: Connection

Many women tell us that when they attended a Hearts at Home mom conference for the first time, they found themselves crying within the first few minutes of the conference. There's truly nothing happening that is that tear-producing, and many report that they are not really criers at all, but the impact of being with thousands of other moms and suddenly realizing you're really not alone is almost more than the heart can handle. The emotional response overflows in tears.

Being with like-minded people who really do understand your life in some way is very powerful. Having someone to talk with and share interests with adds so much richness to your life. Friendships keep us connected to the world outside of our home and family. They help us remember the important things in life and provide much-needed perspective no matter how we choose to connect.


Benefit #2: A Sense of Belonging

The human soul longs to belong. We want to know that people believe in us, approve of us, and accept us for who we are. Friendships provide a place where we're needed, we re contributing, and we re really known.

They also allow us to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. We can align with others who have the same beliefs, experiences, and interests. Sometimes we band with others to accomplish something together that we couldn't accomplish on our own. The "team spirit" we experience contributes to our sense of belonging. "We did this together!" might be said internally or aloud.

However, belonging doesn't just come from being a part of a group. It can be felt in smaller circles of friends as well. Small gestures, like when a friend sends you a text that she's thinking of you, communicate you're important to someone, being thought of, and are a part of their world.


Benefit The Ability to Give

When you care about and care for other people, it brings a sense of satisfaction to your own life. Your contribution to another person's well-being, your encouraging words, your physical help all contribute to your feeling of being needed.

We all need relationships we can contribute to. Yes, as a mom you're giving all the time, but that kind of giving is somewhat "required." When you give to a friendship, it's usually because you want to.

When we give to others, we feel closer to them. That "interconnectedness" builds a sense of community in our life. Giving time, energy, and encouragement enriches our lives and increases our capacity to love.


Benefit #4: The Ability to Receive

Most of us are much more comfortable giving than receiving. Yet, if we refuse to receive, we rob others of the joy of giving. A healthy friendship is a dance between the two.

We might receive comfort, encouragement, wisdom, knowledge, a shoulder to cry on, or practical help from a friend. Seasons of crisis may be times of receiving more than usual.

Friendships provide opportunities for us to admit our need for help. They give us the opportunity to open up our hands and our heart and allow others in. We benefit from learning to both give and receive!


Benefit Sounding Board

A good friend is the perfect person to run ideas past. She can listen, share in your excitement, or bring some much-needed perspective. Sometimes we need the wisdom of others or the viewpoint of someone who isn't as close to a situation as we are to help us keep our head on straight.

Friends are the ones with whom we can also share our dreams, frustrations, and fears. They provide a safety zone where we don't have to worry about being judged. With honesty in place, a good friend can also provide much-needed accountability. Sometimes we need a swift kick in the seat of our pants if we're off track in our thinking or need to look at something from another angle.


Benefit #6: Wisdom and Experiences of Others

My friend Tonya, who has a special education degree, shared with me wisdom about learning challenges our adopted son was facing as he learned a new language at the age of nine. My friend Lora helped me sponge-paint my hallway after she perfected her technique on her living room walls. My friend Julie, who is a doula, prepared me to be Anne's birth coach along with her husband, Matt. My friend Becky is a natural organizer who shares her wisdom when I'm overwhelmed and need help with a home reorganization project.

On the day I received my breast cancer diagnosis, I was an emotional mess. I ended up on my friend Crystal's doorstep. Crystal, a former nurse-practitioner-turned-homeschooling-mom, and I have been friends for many years. I needed Crystal's comfort as a friend and her wisdom and medical knowledge as an NP. I sat at her kitchen table, called my doctor's office back, and asked them to give Crystal all the info on my biopsy. She knew and understood the medical terms and she knew the questions to ask.

Friendships fill your gaps. They allow you to tap into the strengths of others. They broaden your knowledge in so many ways.


Benefit Marital Health

Husbands make terrible girlfriends, and honestly it's unfair to expect them to be something they're not meant to be. Women and men communicate differently. If he's like the majority of men, your husband will likely communicate factually. He'll want to fix any problems you talk to him about. He's great at giving you three ways to proceed.

A girlfriend, however, will likely communicate emotionally. She'll listen and empathize with your challenges. She'll make sure you know you're not alone as you journey through motherhood.

Not only that, but there are activities that your husband may not enjoy as much as you do, that a girlfriend might enjoy doing with you. If your husband isn't into going to the theatre, picking strawberries, or garage sale-ing, it might be better to do those things with a girlfriend who enjoys them as much as you do!


Benefit #8: Spiritual Health

A good friend can encourage you to keep your eyes on God's truth when you're tempted to believe the lies of the enemy. She can pray with and for you. She can send a Bible verse just when you need it.

The Bible tells us "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10a NIV). When faith is part of a friendship, you're able to share what God is teaching you and spur each other on to grow deeper spiritually. This benefit shores up the foundation of our life. Even if the friendship fades, the spiritual benefit can last a lifetime.


(Continues...)

Excerpted from Better Together by JILL SAVAGE, Anne McClane, Elizabeth Cody Newenhuyse. Copyright © 2016 Jill Savage. Excerpted by permission of Moody Publishers.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1        Where It All Begins

Chapter 2        Who Are You “Momming” With?

Chapter 3        Variety Is The Spice of Life!

Chapter 4        Learning Together: What a great idea! I can’t wait to try that out!

Chapter  5       Helping Together: You don’t need to do that job alone. I’ll help you!

Chapter 6        Caring Together: You’re not alone. We’re here for you.

Chapter 7        Sharing Together: Really? You feel that way too?

Chapter 8        Praying Together: I’m standing in the gap for you.

Chapter 9        Forgiving Together: I’m sorry, I let you down.

Chapter 10      Encouraging Together: You’ve got this! You can do it!

Bonus Features:

Appendix A      Conversation Starters

Appendix B      Mothering Personality Inventory

Appendix C      Mom Co-ops

Appendix D      33 Bible Verses to Share with a Friend Going Through a Hard Time

Leaders Guide

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Better Together: Because You're Not Meant to Mom Alone 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 40 reviews.
LWater More than 1 year ago
Hey Moms! Raise your hand if you would choose to do the most difficult job in the world, Motherhood, all by yourself? Whether, you’re married, single, working or stay-at-home, I don’t think ANY of us would willingly want to tackle raising children alone. And in fact, that is NOT how we were created to be! But many of us get hung up on just HOW to connect with friends and neighbors, allowing a reciprocal relationship to encourage and lift us up when we need it most. Jill Savage’s latest book, “Better Together” is a practical, easy-to-read, wise guide-book on how to create and maintain the Godly mom-relationships that we are meant to have. I highly recommend this book to moms of ALL ages and stages!
Catj33 More than 1 year ago
Being a stay at home mom has been so lonely. I wish I had read this book so much sooner. With practical tips on finding friends and the importance of friendship and not "momming alone" This book is a diamond in the rough. Find out what kind of mom friend you are as well as tips for expanding your friendship circle. There are also many great ideas for making motherhood easier because lets be honest it is not for the faint of heart. I think the thing I will take from this book that I didn't realize is that I am a terrible receiver of help. I am so set on trying to do it all myself (impossible to say the least) that I often turn away much needed help. This not only makes my life harder but also takes away someone else opportunity to give. I definitely recommend this book as a must read for moms!
sjobabe86 More than 1 year ago
If you are a mom, this book is for you! You are not alone in this thing called motherhood. This book shows you what other moms are experiencing. This taught me the different "levels" of friendship and how to transition as each stage is reached with different friends. I cannot give this book enough praise! It's a must read for ALL MOMS!
Elginswife More than 1 year ago
I joined the launch group to read a pre-release copy of better together with the intention of a good book and being able to read it first. I was surprised at how truly amazing and accurate this book was for a mom of 3 kids. As I read about friendship dynamics and the loneliness we all deal with, I was humbled and grateful to finally have the words to express how I had been feeling for years. I became a stay-at-home mom 9 years ago when my daughter was born. I now have 2 boys, 6 & 4 years old. My husband is in ministry and we have moved to a new city 5 years ago. This book has helped me to find strategies for friendship and to trust in my relationship with God to meet some of my needs (instead of relying on friends to fill that gap). It's a practical read with something for every stage of mothering and grandmothering. We really are better together!
ErinCorb More than 1 year ago
This book was great. It gives practical advice on how to reach out and make new mom friends, strengthen relationships with mom's you are already friends with, and how to be a great friend. So many times in our busy lives, we feel so alone. Jill and Anne remind us that we are all facing the same issues and stresses and when you can talk about those and rely on others around you for help when you need it, the burden is so much lighter. This book gives ideas for how to start conversations with other moms and go out of our comfort zones to hopefully meet more people to invite into our mom circles. This book has reminded me that even when things are busy and stressful to really reach out to my friends and make the extra effort - because we are not meant to do this mom thing alone - but with one another! Very much recommend this book to any other mom in any stage of motherhood!
InspirationClothesline More than 1 year ago
Practical and beneficial. I’m blessed to have used and implemented these ideas in my own life for a couple of years, but seeing her suggestions and strategies for connecting – through motherhood – recorded all in one place excited me for women to dive in and TRY THIS in their own lives. It’s an easy and quick read about connecting. My favorite portion of the book was called “Variety Is the Spice of Life!” It was all about mom personalities and while I found it insightful in my relationships with others I also found it helpful in learning about myself as a mom, woman, and friend. I think overall this book could be titled “Better Together: Because you are not mean to WIFE Alone” or even “WOMAN alone.” It really does touch on a few specifics for moms, but would also be just as beneficial to wives and women in general. I loved the practicality of this book, especially the information in the appendixes. I can always use a good conversation starter, love quick lists of Scriptures I can share, or ideas for fun cooperative activities to do with other moms. Household goods swap with girlfriends – yes please! I was also so appreciative for the chapters about how to help others. This is such a critical part of motherhood and I recognize this, but also know that not everyone (myself included) is fluent in each of the love languages of “gift giving,” “acts of service,” “quality time” or “words of affirmation” but this book can help you develop those skills. Beyond all of this… I was so blessed to see these principles in action in my life. I have moms who truly are the “spice” in my life. They are incredible models of the very principles in this book and are constantly teaching me, helping me, forgiving me, and encouraging me as this book suggests we should. I am grateful. I was recently able to get away with some of them for a day or two. We cut loose, relaxed, and had adult only conversation. We challenged each other, laughed a lot, talked even more, and left refreshed and with priceless memories. And in these moments when blessed with a gift from one lady or “sisterhood of the traveling socks” from another, I am reminded that we need each other. That in fact we are “better together: because we are not meant to mom alone.” There is a reason “it takes a village to raise a child.” I believe it also takes a village to raise and grow a mom. It is the village that helps us love people and love Jesus more. It helps us change, embrace difference, and love more fully. And so I ask you, to grab the book. And also take the chance to reflect on who you are as a mom, who you can reach out to and support, and how you can grow. This togetherness thing is for all of us, but it isn’t easy. Jill Savage covers forgiveness for a reason. As you help and encourage you’ll also face challenges and in those moments how you respond says a lot about true togetherness. I received a copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of this review.
CCatlin More than 1 year ago
I read this book a couple of months ago. Then I was impressed with how much I learned about myself and how to be a better friend. As someone who lets the busy world interfere with life, this book really made me think about how I need to be a better friend rather than how someone might be failing me as a friend. We as moms are suppose to be doing this motherhood together - so why aren't we? This book helps us understand wall we may not know we have put up and simple things we do that close ourselves off to even our neighbors. Better Together is an excellent book for a women's group or just yourself. Jill and her daughter Anne have done it again.
KHTaylor More than 1 year ago
"Better Together: Because You Aren’t Meant to Mom Alone” by Jill Savage with her daughter Anne McClane offers practical, encouraging insights to why having a tribe of moms to share life with is healthy and helpful. It’s the kind of book every new mom should have and one that helps those of us who have been here awhile too. There are ideas for co-ops, encouragement if you’re facing hard times in friendship, an informative Mothering Personality Inventory, and Biblical truths of what friendship matters in our everyday life and our faith journeys.
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LWelch More than 1 year ago
I very much enjoyed this book by Jill Savage. Filled with a "realness" you rarely find these days!!! Practical ways and encouragement for moms to reach out and just support one another. "We were not made to mother alone!" We moms truly are Better Together! Let's "build bridges" moms. Thank you Jill, for wonderful lessons, reminders, and just being real with us!!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be encouraging and inspiring. As a busy mom, (aren't we all) I often find myself feeling like I don't have the time and energy to really invest in my friendships the way I would like. This book gave practical advice on making, cultivating and growing friendships. Some of the ideas in the book were new to me, while some were a great reminder of things I already knew. This book is a worthwhile read for any mom who wants to gain and grow friendships.
bp0602 More than 1 year ago
I was so happy to be part of the Better Together launch team. Through the years I have read many books by Jill Savage and have always, always been encouraged. These are books I like to go back to and reread. We need encouragement as Moms to be reminded we aren't alone, and Jill Savage always does a great job at this. This new one is a great addition to the Jill Savage section of my personal library. My thoughts: Better Together by Jill Savage with Anne McClane (her daughter) is a wonderful resource for Moms. I highly recommend this book to you. It would be perfect for a Mother's Day gift for yourself or a Mom friend. Also, it would be great to do in a study with friends or a ladies class. Why did I like this book? The information and stories are practical and from real Moms who understand the challenges we face as Moms. We NEED the support of friends. Friends can help us when a crisis arises or just be there in the day to day routine. Also, I learned that we have different types of friends, which are classified in the book. We are also all different types of Moms. This was very insightful to me to take the Mothering Personality quiz and learn more about myself. Visit the Better Together website here to learn more. Get your copy of this fabulous book today! #bettertogether #bettertogetherbook (I received a copy of this book as part of the Better Together launch team. Thank you.)
RMDoan More than 1 year ago
Well written book that, I believe, speaks to the heart of mom's in any season of life. I personally connected well with this book, and found it to be an easy read. Many of the shared bible verses spoke to my heart. A great resource filled with tips of how to connect with other moms and build meaningful healthy mom friendships. Disclaimer: I read this book as part of a launch team prior to its March 1, 2016 release. I was encouraged to provide an honest review. Above comments are my own reflections and observations having read it.
rkestes07 More than 1 year ago
I truly enjoyed reading this book cover to cover. Inherently, we know that many things are better when you have someone to do them with. "Momming" is no exception to that rule, but many of us struggle with sharing our hearts with others, letting others see our struggles, and quite frankly, simply stepping out of our comfort zone to make new friends. As a full-time working mom of two, I struggle finding the time to invest in friendships. This book was encouraging in so many ways. It offers practical and spiritual advice on developing friendships (both old and new), how to build on them, and how to sustain them. One of the things I loved the most was the examples in the book -- real moms with real problems -- everything was so very relatable. Both Jill and Anne do a wonderful job of speaking directly to your heart.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you are looking for a book to confirm the importance of friendships and give guidance and ideas of ways to increase connection with the friends in your life, this is the book for you. If you're looking for ways to make those connections, you will be mainly disappointed. This is touched on, but most of the book presumes you already have some friendships you are looking to take to another level, not make friends. In terms of finding friends, if you haven't examined some of your personality traits, Chapter 3 and the inventory in the appendix could lead to some interesting insights.
KelliGood More than 1 year ago
"Because You're Not Meant to Mom Alone" is something that's been on my heart for, well, all 4 years I've been a mom. Just like, as believers, we're not meant to do life alone, mommyhood shouldn't - and doesn't have to be a solo journey into space! This book not only speaks truth from God's Word and gives examples from Jesus' life, but gives you very practical ways to do life together. Not sure how to make mommy friends, or where to start? Start with Jill and Anne in Better Together. It's a perfect book for any setting, individually or with a group, and the friendship assignments at the end of each chapter really gets you started on the right foot for lasting relationships! Invest in the book and invest in your friendships with other moms, because we're better together!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed this book but felt I would have REALLY enjoyed it at the beginning of my mothering years. Jill and Anne have done a fabulous job at putting together a super practical book on how to do "mothering" together, using the community of Christ as the support system it was meant to be. Though the words were not new concepts to me, it was refreshing to read stories and bouts of wisdom that made me think "oh, so I'm not the only one". Moms are so apt to buy into the lie that we are supposed to be able to handle it all-- whatever the "it" in your life is...but we weren't created do to that! Jill and Anne gently remind us of the Truth that we were meant to live in community and then lay out practical steps to take so that no matter where you are in your mothering journey you can take another step forward towards more community.
LS123 More than 1 year ago
I had the opportunity to read this book and loved it! Though I already knew a lot of this information, it was refreshing to hear another's perspective on making friends. This book is a must have for new mama's, great baby gift. Jill Savage's fresh perspectives, personal stories and biblical advice is a must have.
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KNKmommy More than 1 year ago
Better Together is a motivational, inspiring, honest, powerful, faith led and funny easy-to-red book. Parenting is hard, it gets messy, we often feel like we're doing it all wrong. Jill and Anne show us how all moms feel that way from time to time. It takes a strong mommy community to raise a child. This book will guide you through mommy friendships, play dates, giving and receiving and the inevitable friendship breakups. We weren't meant to mommy alone. New mom, old mom, stay at home mom, single mom, 2 jobs mom and even grandma moms this book is for you!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was a great read and come at a much needed time in my life. I was in need of some inspiration as to how to start friendships as well as how to develop deeper relationships with other moms. This book was encouraging to me. There are many good ideas on ways to meet moms as well as questions to start the conversation with other moms. Would highly recommend it.
BClair More than 1 year ago
This book affirmed what I think we all intuitively know, that life wasn't meant to be lived all alone, but also delved into so many practical "hows". How to make friends as an adult..in a new community, how to navigate conflict with a friend, how to help a friend in crisis, how to allow others to help when you're in crisis...and more. The challenge was realistic and I've felt empowered to act on what I learned. Better Together is personal, vulnerable, and will change how you think about having and being a friend.
Jenn_Bettinger More than 1 year ago
This book is a must read! I can't stress that enough. If you don't read any further than the first line or two of this review, I want you know that this book is a must-read! You won't be disappointed! Jill Savage and her daughter, Anne McClane, have co-authored this fabulous book about friendship and how we aren't made to mom alone! The book is well written, sincere and real, and full of so many tools to help us moms on our journey. I have moved quite a few times in my life and it's been so hard to make new friendships and keep the ones I've had (now long distance). This book really helped me to put into words what I have felt and the understanding of how to deal with transition that my relationships have gone through. It helped me to better understand what my mothering personality is, my strengths and weaknesses from that personality, how to be a better friend and the importance of having my "mom tribe." Not only is this book super encouraging but it's also extremely practical - of which I love having both! It's a great resource to have on your nightstand, to go through in a moms group, to read through in a book club, or to give as a gift!
jensil More than 1 year ago
Better Together is a great book for all moms. Whether you are a new mom or have a few kids already this is a must read. Jill Savage and her daughter Anne McClane share practical ways to start conversations with other moms that can help a friendship grow. They share how we have those friends that are there for a reason, a season of life to help us through the ups and downs of parenting. We are NOT meant to mother alone and truly are Better Together.
hannah_rm More than 1 year ago
this book is an amazing, step by step guide to help meet, make, keep, and deepen friendships. It is challenging, funny, and helpful. I loved every minute of this book and it was easy to apply to my real life friendships. Totally worth the read, you won't be able to put it down.