Why? Why does it happen to almost everyone? We each suffer frequent bouts of self-doubt, often for no clear or sensible reason. We struggle against brutal self-criticism, the voices in our heads that insist we are not good enough. "Something must be wrong with me!" We sabotage our best interests. And we consider all this to be the necessary price of living with our past, simply a byproduct of human nature. But "Beyond Me" argues that it isn't a necessary aspect of human nature at all. We each are struggling to confirm through the judgments of the outside world a broad collection of self-images that are entirely irrational. When we can’t do it, we each become sick. Year by year by year, sick at heart, sick of mind. We constantly look for our true selves in the eyes of others, but the truth isn’t there. This book is the product of five years of writing and 45 years of intense research. "Beyond Me" explains that many of humanity’s worst problems are caused by this malady, which the author has named "Identity Failure." This powerfully insightful book explores in great psychological detail our human tendency toward self-doubt, self-criticism and self-sabotage. And it demonstrates convincingly that this nearly universal problem is learned, directly resulting from the many significant but irrational self-images that individuals attempt to validate through outside appreciation by others. "Beyond Me" shows why this effort can never fully succeed, leaving individuals to flounder emotionally and society to suffer the subsequent consequences. The book explores Identity Failure’s sweeping destructive impact on individuals and society in a story told often through the author’s intense personal experiences and uncompromising, highly original self-analysis. But "Beyond Me" also finds an innate love within every individual, the desire to be, to exist in ways that satisfy our deep need to feel our life is worth living. And the book presents a new full-blown philosophy called Rational Faith based on this innate love, offering that rational approach to living as a solution to Identity Failure. "Beyond Me" is a supremely hopeful fresh view of humanity. It shows that human beings can enjoy healthier, more fulfilled lives and raise healthier, well-balanced children through transcending the ego’s immediate self-interest in favor of a deeper, innate love that inspires individuals to help other people unconditionally.
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Table of Contents
Preface Writing for a different reader. A broad overview of Beyond Me.
Chapter 1: Me, Until I’m More A search for individual identity. Profound selfobsession, profound self-doubt. Identity Failure introduced, an unrecognized human
illness. Identity poses introduced. The new philosophy of Rational Faith offers one cure for Identity Failure. Identity Failure in bullet points.
Chapter 2: Untying The Knotts An author’s experience steeped in the self. Learning to explore within. “Why Method.” Dialogue, me with me. Testing the observations. A powerful introspection: “intrasentience.”
Chapter 3: The Microscopic Me Websites of the mind. Nexes introduced, five categories of emotional strength. Vericepts introduced, “truth concepts.” Quancepts
introduced, particles of mind. Small things making big things within the mind as elsewhere in nature.
Chapter 4: Fundamentally, Me Psychogravity introduced, a gravity of the mind. Connection with quancepts, vericepts, nexes. Emotions through numerical values. Tigertails introduced, the refusal to let go of pain. Most Immediate Emotional Necessity. A Fundamental Law of Mind. Will to live.
Chapter 5: Deeply Determined Deepwanting introduced, a profound motivator. The difference between what we say we want and what we truly want. Dominance of the necessary. The 1 – 1,000 scale of emotional strength. The Free Will Paradox.
Chapter 6: To Me Or Not To Me Identity Failure and the Fundamental Law of Mind. Identity Failure defined in detail. Self-confusion. Identity Failure as “normal.”
Chapter 7: A Fitting Experience The Grand Trio introduced. Identity poses explained. Irrational fixed identities based on realities. Origin of identity poses.
Pose-weakeners and pose-strengtheners introduced, making psychological compromises. Identity Failure as a cause of repressed emotions
Chapter 8: All Too Normal Tick-tock, Identity Failure explained through a unique minute by minute drama and the use of numerical values.
Chapter 9: The Why Within You Identity Failure in others, observed and analyzed. Voices of the mind as Identity Failure. Identity Failure in you: a test. Will to die. The Fundamental Question, introduced. A thought experiment: the mud hut and you. Questions for you.
Chapter 10: A World Of Me Identity Failure as a new lens to understand our world. The lust for money and lust for power. Hitler and history’s despots. Of terrorists, gangsters and thrill killers. Of slavery and racism. Dr. King and the “drum major instinct.” Of patriotism, war and soldiers. Of sexism, abuse, addiction and self-harm. The new distractions.
Chapter 11: The Other Half Isolation and Identity Failure. Romance and romanticism, holdovers from the past. Being “unforgettable.” Romance as addiction. Of sex and Identity Failure. Of gender roles and sexual identities. Extra
challenges for the LGBTQ community. The romantic view of life. Primary emotions. Finding the innate love within each individual. The desire to be.
Chapter 12: A Bitter Pill The mindbody. Dr. John E. Sarno’s great insights. Repressed Emotion Transfer introduced. The physical response to rage. Illness as the mind’s misguided effort to help the individual.
Chapter 13: Physics Of The Mind Insights from within. Psychophysics 101. The details explained, combining the psychological concepts of Beyond Me into a unified theory. Chain of consciousness explored in detail. A logic of the mind. Of conditioning, coincidence and chance. A summary. An equation of human value.
PreScript: Rational Faith explained, its system and tenets. Seven articles of Rational Faith.
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