Ask those who have achieved their ultimate dream—whether it's related to career, fortune, or fame—and they will most likely tell you that something is still missing. As Jeffrey Gitterman reveals, when it comes to success and happiness, we often find more exhilaration in pursuing our goals than in attaining them. So what does this mean for those of us who strive for fulfillment? We can't just stop trying, can we? Is there any way to truly feel fulfilled? Beyond Success presents simple principles to help us:
• redirect our efforts toward what we want to express in the world, rather than what we want to get or how we want to feel
• experience ongoing peace while still working toward our material goals
• map a plan for the future which embraces a continually evolving life story
• derive personal satisfaction through our affect on others
This book provides a down-to-earth process for finding peace and contentment within the real world...all the while redefining the meaning of success.
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About the Author
Jeffrey L. Gitterman (Freehold, NJ) is one of the few corporate leaders able to successfully bring a spiritual message to the traditionally materialistic business community. He is one of ING Financial’s top advisors, whose GoBeyond seminars have been the highest-rated training program at the company for several years. He has been interviewed and featured in TV shows and magazines including Money, CNN, and Fortune Small Business.
Read an Excerpt
I’m talking to everyone
. . . but you’re the one listening
BACK IN THE LATE NINETIES, I WAS INVITED BY A FRIEND TO
see the Blue Man Group perform in New York City. I’d heard great things about their shows, so I was excited at the opportunity to see them myself. We took our seats and waited for the show to begin. As the lights dimmed, the packed theater slowly fell silent, but nothing happened on the stage. People around me began talking and rustling popcorn bags. Then, all of a sudden, my friend asked me to switch seats with him. And to my surprise, I heard a quiet but distinct voice that seemed to be coming out of a plastic tube attached to the armrest of my seat, addressing me by name.
“Jeff! Jeff! I need your help.”
“What do you mean?” I asked
“Your friend who was sitting there before said you’re the guy who can help me. I need you to start the show!”
Taken aback, I looked more closely and saw that the tube went right down through the floor. That was where the voice came from a the voice that was now calmly explaining to me that every Blue
Man Group show starts with a member of the audience leading the entire audience in the “Blue Man Group War Whoop,” which I was then shown how to do.
All I could think was that this was some joke, that I was being set up to be humiliated in front of a fairly large audience. My heart raced and my palms started to sweat. Convinced I would end up looking like an idiot, I leaned down into the tube and said, “You’re out of your mind! And why are you talking to me, anyway?” And to this day, the reply I got was something I’ve never forgotten: “I’m talking to everybody, but you’re the one listening.”
Okay, I thought, so I got up out of my seat and yelled to everyone to follow me. Out of the few hundred people in the two- tier theater, perhaps twenty or so joined me in the war whoop. Embarrassed, a quickly sat back down.
The voice from the tube said, “Dude, that was lame.”
So I got up again and screamed and hollered and jumped up and down until everyone in the theater joined in. Literally, every person in each tier of the theater stood up as I demanded that they follow me or else I would not start the show for them. When I took my seat again, the voice said, “You da man.”
At the time, this event didn’t mean much more to me than any other uncomfortable situation. But some years later, I had a vivid fl ashback to that moment in the theater, and the words and events took on a whole new meaning for me. I realized that I had learned two very important things from that strange encounter:
1. The most important voice that is speaking to us is usually the one asking us to do something that takes courage, something that takes us out of our comfort zone. That’s why we so often ignore that voice and listen only to the endless chatter of our minds.
2. When we do listen to that voice and fi nd the courage to step out of our comfort zone, we discover that one person can have an extraordinary impact.
Over time, this incident has become my metaphor for life, and it informs all of the principles that I’ll be sharing in this book.
These principles are simple, but I fi rmly believe that if enough people adopted them, it could make a real difference in the world.
But changing the world starts with changing individuals. So I ask you to read this book not as an observer or a philosopher but as a change agent. The lessons I have learned over the past few years have allowed me to be more present in every aspect of life and to live my life more fully. I’ve also come to realize that everyone has this capability within. That voice that I heard is within everyone—
we just have to learn how to listen.
Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION: I’m talking to everyone . . . but you’re the one listening xiii
1. Redefining Success 1
2. A New Currency 17
3. A Core Investment Strategy 43
THE FIRST PILLAR: CONNECTING TO SOURCE
4. Saving and Spending in an Attention Economy 55
5. Pathways to Silence 67
THE SECOND PILLAR: OWNING YOUR UNIQUE EXPRESSION
6. Earning Energy 91
7. Expressing Yourself 109
THE THIRD PILLAR: REDIRECTING YOUR ATTENTION
8. Investing in a Future You 139
9. Success Is a Journey, Not a Destination 153
THE FOURTH PILLAR: EXPANDING YOUR AWARENESS
10. Giving 169
11. Beyond Success 177
12. Your Legacy 199
Recommended Reading 211