Beyond the Tiger Mom: East-West Parenting for the Global Age

Beyond the Tiger Mom: East-West Parenting for the Global Age

by Maya Thiagarajan

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Beyond the Tiger Mom: East-West Parenting for the Global Age by Maya Thiagarajan

How do Asian parents prime their children for success from a young age by encouraging them to achieve academic excellence? Why do Asian kids do so well in math and science? What is the difference between an Asian upbringing and a Western one?

These are just a few of the fascinating questions posed and discussed in Beyond the Tiger Mom, a captivating new book by educator, author, and mother, Maya Thiagarajan. In this research-backed guide, she examines each of the "tiger mother" stereotypes and goes beneath the surface to discover what happens in Asian parenting households. How do Asian parents think about childhood, family, and education and what can Western parents learn from them? And what benefits does a traditional Western upbringing have that Asian parents, too, may want to consider?

Some of the takeaways from this parenting book include:

  • The best of Asian parenting practices — such as how to teach children math, or raise tech-healthy kids
  • Teaching your child to broaden his or her attention span
  • Finding the right balance between work and play, while including family time
  • Helping your child see failure as a learning experience
  • And many, many more insights
Each chapter offers interviews with hundreds of Asian parents and kids and ends with a "How To" section of specific tips for Asian and Western parents both to aid childhood education and development inside and outside the classroom. Woven into this narrative are her reflections on teaching and parenting in locations that span the East and West.

In this book, Thiagarajan synthesizes an extensive body of research on child education and Asian parenting both to provide accessible and practical guidelines for parents.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780804846028
Publisher: Tuttle Publishing
Publication date: 02/23/2016
Edition description: Hardcover with Jacket
Pages: 224
Product dimensions: 4.80(w) x 8.10(h) x 1.30(d)

About the Author

Maya Thiagarajan was raised in Chennai India, by her South Indian father and American mother. After high school, Maya left India and moved to the US. She earned a BA in English from Middlebury College and a Masters in Education Policy from Harvard University. Maya started her teaching career at a tough urban public school in Baltimore City and later went on to teach at some of America's most prestigious independent schools. In 2009, Maya moved to Singapore where she now teaches students from around the world at an international school. Over half her students are South Asian or East Asian, deepening her understanding of Asian family values and Asian approaches to education. Maya has two children aged 5 and 8.

Table of Contents

Introduction Homecoming 7

Part 1 Academics 19

Raising Strong Mathematicians, Passionate Readers, and Knowledgeable Thinkers

Chapter 1 Why Are All the Asian Kids on the Math Team? 20

"And what do you do for math?" 20

Why do Asian kids excel at math? 26

What Asian moms say about math 28

Math in the twenty-first century 31

Building mathematical homes 35

Is early math important? 38

Teaching visual-spatial skills 39

Scripting math education 40

Tips: How to build a math-rich home 45

Chapter 2 Raising Readers: Is West Really Best? 49

Let's start with A-B-C 49

The reading wars 53

Vocabulary acquisition 55

Reading with my son 59

Reading in Asia 64

Exploring the roots of the reading issue 67

Reading magic 71

Tips: How to build a language-rich home 74

Chapter 3 Memorization, Practice, Exams, and Other Things That Asians Love 78

A history of memorization in education 79

From the oral tradition to print to a digital world 81

Memorization 84

Exam systems 91

TIPS: How to help your child memorize information 98

TIPS: How to encourage critical thinking skills 99

Part 2 Achieving Balance 101

Making Time for Work and Time for Play, and Supporting and Motivating Our Children

Chapter 4 Where Are All the Children? 102

Night-owl schedules 104

The tuition treadmill 106

Do students really need tuition? 109

Western trends in education 111

Why do schools and governments dislike tuitions? 114

What Asian mothers say about play 115

Finding a balance 120

The benefits of unstructured time 124

TIPS: How to supplement your child's education 128

Chapter 5 Raising Resilient Children: How Do We Deal with Failure? 137

Sugary candy or healthy (sometimes bitter) vegetables? 137

"And what do you do when your child does badly on a test?" 141

What the kids say 143

Conflicted, stressed, and seeking balance 145

Failure and fear in the twenty-first century 146

Fixed mindsets versus growth mindsets 147

American parents and the rhetoric of victimization 152

Self-esteem and happiness 156

Paying the ultimate price 159

Achieving balance 160

TIPS: How to help your child develop a growth mindset 162

TIPS: How to know your child 163

Part 3 Myth, Media, and Metaphor 167

The Stories We Tell and the Language We Use

Chapter 6 Myth and Media: The Stories We Tell and the Scripts They Give Us 168

A Bollywood moment 168

Auntie-uncle cultures in Asia 169

Roots and seatbelts 172

The parent-child relationship 174

The stories we tell and the scripts they give us 179

Secure families versus intellectual freedom 182

Twenty-first-century Asian families 184

Questions for twenty-first-century global parents 185

Tips: How to create a supportive community for your children 186

Top Picks: Foundational stories from East and West 189

Chapter 7 Twenty-First-Century Challenges for East and West: The Metaphors We Make, the Technology We Use, and the Purpose of Education 191

Shared challenges in a globalized world 191

Leaving the Garden of Eden 196

Ready, set, go 198

Corporate metaphors and the purpose of education 200

Finding an alternative purpose 201

Do our metaphors matter? 203

How is technology changing our metaphors? 204

Educational metaphors 207

A culture of reverence, a culture of skepticism, and shared challenges 211

Conclusion Looking Back and Looking Forward 213

Acknowledgements and Thanks 217

Bibliography 219

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Reviewed by Maria Beltran for Readers' Favorite Beyond the Tiger Mom: East-West Parenting for the Global Age is a parenting book that tries to strike a balance between the Asian and Western ways of raising children. Author Maya Thiagarajan is a practicing teacher and has experienced both worlds, and this gives her book the credibility that is wanting in many other parenting books. Starting with math, she observes how Asian parents especially favour the subject because mastery in math could mean good paying jobs, and that it is an exact science so there is a clear line between the right and wrong answers. This is in contrast to the Western mother’s emphasis on reading and forming your own personal opinions. She also tackles memorization, playfulness, and the important effect of culture in raising children. Maya Thiagarajan’s book, Beyond the Tiger Mom: East-West Parenting, is a must-read for all parents. Very few self-help books are as witty, informative, frank, and entertaining as this one. Contrasting the objectivity of Asian moms to the directness of the West, the author presents the two contrasting styles without directly favoring any of them. Personally, reading this book makes me think that a healthy balance between the two opposing systems is ideal, but this is better said than done. Every parent should try to provide their children with the environment that helps them achieve their full potential, and Beyond the Tiger Mom sincerely tries to help. This is a parenting guide that does not pretend to have all the answers, but you can be sure that, after reading this book, you will have a better idea on how to deal with the bittersweet job of being a parent.