From the Introduction by Tim Conway
"I have encountered only two people in my life who have the kind of charisma Bob does: Frank Sinatra and John F. Kennedy. He is truly an extraordinary man....With no pressure, without the slightest hint of coercion, Bob Meehan gets young people to stop taking drugs.
This book does two important things; first, it creates a sense of urgency. We have a very serious drug epidemic among our youth, yet people seem content to ignore it. Second, this book offers solutions. I have read many books about drugs in the past few years, but I always put them down thinking, ‘Fine, but what can parents do when their children take drugs?' When I finished Beyond the Yellow Brick Road, I had answers. And so will you.
I firmly believe that this book will make a significant difference in a lot of people's lives.
About the Author: Bob Meehan, considered the true "Father of Drug Intervention," has been involved in the field of recovery for the past 30 years, after 14 years of his own chemical abuse. He is 58 years old and has been married to the same woman for the last 30 years; their daughter, granddaughter, and son-in-law live next door to them in Arizona. His programs of "enthusiastic recovery," and programs modeled after this philosophy, have helped nearly 100,000 families recover from the devastation of teen chemical abuse. Additionally, he has opened six hospital units and three residential programs for recovery. His experience made it necessary for him to stop long enough from helping others to write Beyond The Yellow Brick Road, because there simply was nothing else available to assist people.
After helping tens of thousands of individuals recover from chemical addiction, Bob has come to the conclusion that the main element of an addictive personality stems from a lack of self worth. Having witnessed the same problems, but with a slight spin and a lowering of the bar, over the past three decades, Bob subsequently took the time to write Bumper Stickers. This, his second book, discusses how the mind, body, and spirit work in a positive conspiracy to help people stay focused and achieve their own goals.
In a world of spins and scams, Bob's approach is fresh and down to earth, because that is where he lives. His books do not beckon the reader to buy subsequent books or tapes; they are self-contained self-treatment programs written in a conversational tone that makes them remarkably accessible. Further, Bob's books don't merely highlight problems, they offer practical solutions.
Bob currently works as a consultant to corporations and other large organizations as a lecturer and helping them with their employee assistance programs.
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I am a drug addict. I am an alcoholic. I am a burglar. I am a thief. I am a con. I am also a father of two children, a happily married man, and the founder of the largest and most successful drug rehabilitation program that ever existed.
I used to shoot heroin. At one time in my life, I would drink six or seven bottles of Robitussin AC cough syrup (active ingredientcodeine) a day. I used to snort cocaine, smoke pot, eat speed, and drink alcohol, sometimes all at the same time. I used to rob people, hurt people, and scare people. I no longer do those things, because I have found a way to live that is better than the way I lived before. In the 28 years that have passed since my last "high," I have tried to show some 60,000 teenagers and parents what I've learned about myself and about peopleparticularly those with addictive personalities. My guess is that two-thirds of these people have been successful in changing their lives.
I have seen the whole gamut of drug problems; from the teenage boy who smoked marijuana on three occasions and got caught each time, to the veteran heroin addict who roams the streets and steals hundreds of dollars a day to pay for his fix.
I have seen tragedy due to drugsI knew a young boy who mutilated himself under the influence of the horse tranquilizer/people killer, PCP; a successful doctor addicted to more drugs than you can count, who ended his life in suicide; a young man who damaged his already fragile psyche with seven or eight marijuana cigarettes a day, who ended up putting a shotgun into his mouth and pulling the trigger; a boy whose continual use of speed consumed his entire body and killed him; a teenage girl who shot dope into her hand and accidentally hit a nerve leading to one of her fingers, then had to watch a piece of her body slowly turn black and eventually fall off.
I said that I am a drug addict, I am a thief, and so on. And yet I also said that I used to shoot heroin, and I used to steal. I firmly believe that we are the sum total of our experiences, good and bad. I used drugs for 10 years, and spent three years in penitentiaries and jails. The experiences of those years formed my present psyche. I'm still an addict, but I don't do drugs. And I'm still a con, but I obey the law.
At one point, I actually counted the number of times people tried to help me get off drugsthirty-one! My parents tried, of course, and failed. Teachers were equally unsuccessful. A neighbor and friend of the family begged me with tears in his eyes to stop for the sake of my parents. I didn't. I tried a Christian group that told me to read the Bible and everything would be fine. But at that time, I was so sick and my eyes were so bad that I couldn't have read the Bible even if I'd wanted to, which I didn't.
I tried methadone. The doctors at Johns Hopkins Hospital thought getting high on that bitter stuff you wash down with Tang would be better for me than heroin. I always had the impression that doctors prescribed methadone so addicts wouldn't go out and steal their television sets. A chemical substitute for junk is certainly no solution. Methadone treatment is a bad jokeyou're just swapping out one high for another.
I have tried behavior modification, psychoanalysis, chemical therapy, hypnosis, confrontive therapy, and about every other method. My experiences in rehabilitation have ranged from comic to tragic to frustrating to downright bizarre. In any case, I have been a consumer of drug rehabilitation packages. None worked. Thirty-one attempts. But the thirty-second time...
Table of Contents
IN WRITING BEYOND THE YELLOW BRICK ROAD
CHAPTER ONE: THE BEGINNING
CHAPTER TWO: THE TEENAGE PSYCHE
THE EXISTENTIAL SEARCH
THE TEENAGER: A DIFFERENT ANIMAL
THE EMOTIONS/THE INTELLECT
WE FEEL INADEQUATE BECAUSE WE ARE INADEQUATE
NO SUCH THING AS GRAY
BEHOLD THE WALLS
CHAPTER THREE: REALITY IS FOR PEOPLE WHO CAN'T COPE WITH DRUGS, WRANGLERS, AND LEVI'S
WHY KIDS TAKE DRUGS
DRUGS AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH
HEARTS AND MINDS
A GENERATION WITH A LOW-GRADE FEVER
CHAPTER FOUR: THE PARENT CHAPTER
PART I: THE PROBLEM-YOUR KID GOT CAUGHT
THE GUILT GAME
SWEET SIXTEEN AND FREE
THE EMPEROR HAS CLOTHES AFTER ALL
WE ALL SCREAM FOR ICE CREAM
A TALE OF TWO MEN
THE PARENT PSYCHE
PART II: THE SOLUTION-LOVE MEANS NOT ACCEPTING WRONG BEHAVIOR
RISKING TO DO RIGHT
LOVE AND PERMISSIVENESS
IT'S ONLY HALFTIME
GET OFF YOUR REARING
STAY ON YOUR KIDS' SIDE
GET OFF YOUR ASPHALT
FOR PETE'S SAKE
SIX SHOTS IN YOUR GUN
WRONG MEETS RIGHT
WHERE ARE THE WALLS?
CHAPTER FIVE: MARIJUANA-THE CRAZE THAT'S NOT A PHASE
THE MOST DANGEROUS CHEMICAL OF ALL
GOOD BUZZ/MIND FUZZ
THE ROAD BACK
A WALL FOR ALCOHOL
CHAPTER SIX: DRUGS IN THE MEDIA
THE POPULAR MUSIC INDUSTRY
ARE WE HAVING FUN YET?
THE MASONS OF OUR MINDS
VOLUNTEERS OF AMERICA
CHAPTER SEVEN: SEVENTH INNING STRETCH
CHAPTER EIGHT: THE RECOVERY PHENOMENON
CHAPTER NINE: TRICK OR TREATMENT-HOW THE PROGRAM WORKS
NOTHING TO CURE
SOMETHING BETTER THAN DRUGS
IT TAKES ALL KINDS
SPECTATE OR PARTICIPATE?
SOBER IS NOT SOMBER
THE ART OF REHABILITATION
A WORLD APART
A FAMILY DIS-EASE
PINK CLOUD SYNDROME
IGNORANCE ISN'T BLISS
ADOLESCENCE IS NOT A TERMINAL ILLNESS
CHAPTER TEN: LOCAL DRUG PROGRAMS
NO FREE LUNCHES
MY ROAD LESS TRAVELED
CHAPTER ELEVEN: PREVENTION
TYPE ONE PREVENTION
TYPE TWO PREVENTION
STOLEN KEYS AND SPILLED MILK
THE TRAUMA BEGINS
TOO MUCH LOVE?
THE THIRD WORLD WAR
BROKEN HOMES/BROKEN BONES
WHATEVER IT TAKES
CHAPTER TWELVE: CLICK
What People are Saying About This
Every loving parent must read this book! If you have a child on drugs or you wish to prevent future disaster, this powerful classic can help you save your kid's life.
(Og Mandino, Author of The Greatest Salesman in the World)
No one else I have ever met possess Bob Meehan's understanding of adolescent drug abuse and how teenagers think and feel. This book lovingly explains that knowledge. Having a teenager using drugs and alcohol is one of the most difficult and heart-wrenching problems a parent can experience. This book offers understanding, support, and guidance.
(Steven J. Jaffe, Professor of Psychiatry at Emory University School of Medicine)
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I do believe that their are families in need of help with children that have addictive issues. But Bob Meehan is not the man you want near your child. He is charismatic and a very adept con artist. He will first separate you from your money and then from your child. I gave this book one star because it would not let me give it less and post about my journey with Bob's program. Please look up NA and AA groups and rehab programs that use their structure. I spent over two years in Bob Meehan's programs in that time I was cut off from school, family, and friends. I did get to know the man in person during that time. He does not use the standard 12 steps that are used by AA and NA. Instead he made his own that while similar differ enough to require dependence on the group and fear of the outside word. He outwardly teaches love and tolerance but that is all a sham. Behind closed doors he teaches racism and tells kids that it is not only acceptable to lie to their family but that it is expected. He will teach them to say what it is that you want to hear. He has had numerous centers that he ran closed by the states of California and Arizona for professional violations such as document fraud for the required training hours of staff. He also runs them illegally out of the states sight. I spent my final days under his control at one of his unlicensed centers. I witnessed and was victim of child neglect at the hands of Bob Meehan and his programs. I also witnessed inappropriate sexual relationships between staff and patients. He teaches that victims of sexual assault are to blame for what happened to them. He told me this to my face, "You must forgive who assaulted you because it was your fault." I was 16 years old at the time. The idea of blaming the victim is in direct opposition to what is thought by legitimate psychiatric services. I tried to leave and was told that my parents didn't want me. I was not allowed to contact my parents so I sneaked off to a phone at a grocery store to call home. I didn't know that the councilors, who were only 19 to 24 years old themselves, had called my parents and lied to them about my behavior. They told them I was using drugs when I wasn't and that I had threatened to harm people which I hadn't. Scared to death my parents refused to accept my calls at the councilors instructions and I slept on the street till I went back to the program. I had to beg to be accepted back in. I was 16 years old at this point had been moved by Bob's program to a state where I knew no one and had not seen my family in months. The fact that they threw me out was a violation of Arizona law. On my second attempt to leave his programs my parents thankfully went against Bob's direct advice to tell me to go to a homeless shelter. He even gave them a number to one for them to give to me. I was still a minor. I was now 17 and I was free from over two years of mental hell. I had an 8th grade education, a nearly destroyed family relationship, and was publicly shunned and at times threatened by members still loyal to Bob. I have been diagnosed by several legitimate councilors as having PTSD from my time in his program. Please go to Youtube and put in his name and you will find first hand accounts as well as tapes of the man himself spilling his real ideology.