Blending Families responds to the need for a book that explores step-parenting by starting with the marriage as the central relationship in a new blended family unit. Just as you are better able to help your child in an airplane emergency if you put your oxygen mask on first, you are better able to blend two families if you take care of the marriage first.
Starting with a discussion of attachment styles, the authors explore how those styles translate into the new family unit when trying to forge a new marriage while parenting tween and teen children in a family unit that is new to them as well. They provide parenting guidance premised on the fact that parenting occurs within a context, and in this case, a context that is unfamiliar territory for everyone involved. Using true stories throughout, they explore the variety of challenges that may arise, such as sibling rivalry, puberty, dating, emotional and intellectual differences, and preferential treatment, and offer suggestions for overcoming obstacles to fully blending. By focusing the light on the marriage as the most important source of stability, the authors encourage readers to develop a style of parenting that works for everyone and brings a sense of unity and strength to the household.
|Publisher:||Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||5.70(w) x 8.70(h) x 0.10(d)|
About the Author
Trevor Crow Mullineaux, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the co-author with Maryann Karinch of Forging Healthy Connections. She has a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fairfield University, Connecticut, and also holds an MBA from Harvard University and a BS from Parsons The New School for Design. She practices and resides in Southport, Connecticut.
Maryann Karinch is the author of 24 books, including Forging Healthy Connections, which she co-authored with Trevor Crow. Most of books and presentations focus on human behavior. In recognition of her work as a dedicated explorer of the psyche and mind-body interaction, The Explorers Club (most known for its membership of astronauts, anthropologists and explorers of terrain) took an unusual step and elected her to membership in 2010. Her website is www.karinch.com. She lives in Estes Park, Colorado.
Table of Contents
Author’s Note: Trevor Talks about Her Own Blended FamiliesPast and Present
Introduction: Who Needs This Book?
Part I: A Spectrum of Opportunities and Challenges
1: The Practical Meaning of Attachment Styles
2: Understanding Parentingand Step-ParentingStyles
3: Key Challenges to the Blending Process
4: Step-Parenting Issues with Pre-Teens
Sidebar: An Essay about a Half Sister Being a Whole Sister
5: Step-Parenting Issues with TeensRisk and Reward
Part II: The Five Things You Must Have to Succeed
6: Trust and Trustworthiness
7: Vulnerability and Emotional Strength
8: The Bridge to Empathy
9: Truth as a Gateway
10: Structure with Feeling
Part III: Stories and Practical Insights
11: Challenges , Options, and Solutions
12: Advice from the Front LineBlending D's and DON’Ts