Blood, Marriage, Wine, & Glitter

Blood, Marriage, Wine, & Glitter

by S. Bear Bergman


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S. Bear Bergman is an acclaimed writer and lecturer who travels regularly across North America to speak on trans issues. Bear’s first two books, Butch Is a Noun and The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You, are considered seminal texts on the subject of trans life. In his third essay collection, Bear enters, describes, and rearranges our ideas about family as a daughter, husband, father, and friend. In Bear's extended family "orchard," drag sisters, sperm-donor's parents, Sparkles and other relations provide more branches of love, support, and sustenance than a simple family tree. Defiantly queer yet full of tenderness and hilarity, Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter is a beautifully thought-provoking book that redefines the notion of what family is and can be.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781551525112
Publisher: Arsenal Pulp Press, Limited
Publication date: 10/15/2013
Pages: 240
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

S. Bear Bergman is the author of two books, the Lambda Award-nominated The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You (Arsenal Pulp, 2009), and Butch is a Noun, first published by Suspect Thoughts in 2006 and reissued in a new edition by Arsenal Pulp Press in 2010. Bear is also the co-editor (with Kate Bornstein) of the Lambda Award-winning anthology Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation (Seal, 2010). A longtime activist and public speaker, Bear continues to work at the intersection between and among gender, sexuality, and culture. Originally from Connecticut, Bear now lives with hir husband and son in Toronto.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

The Really True Story, Once and for All, of How We Got Stanley (with Footnotes) 13

Starting a Family 21

Constellation of Intimates 31

Sperm Agreement/Holding the Line against Grandparents 39

Comforter 49

Karma 57

What They See 65

(interstitial) 69

Are You Raising Him … I Mean, Them … Gender-Neutral? 73

Dear Parents Who Have Written to Me 83

What Is It? 93

What Are You Talking About? 101

The Package Deal 109

Inappropriate Intimacies 117

Gay Married 125

How to Keep Your Man Happy 133

Machatunim 137

Hiddur Mitzvah 145

Engagement 151

Sharon, Who Never Visits 157

Let Them Be a Symbol Before Your Eyes 163

Get Up Everybody and Sing 169

Shake the Queer Tree 175

Brother Dog 185

Just the Thing 189

The Intimacy of the Pack 201

Diesel Femme 209

Gathering Light Out of Darkness 213

When I Am Old and Grey and Full Of Sleep 221

Please, Let Me Stay This Lucky 229

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