LAMBDA LITERARY AWARD FINALIST
From one of the world's foremost intersex activists, a candid, provocative, and eye-opening memoir of gender identity, self-acceptance, and love.
My name is Hida Viloria. I was raised as a girl but discovered at a young age that my body looked different. Having endured an often turbulent home life as a kid, there were many times when I felt scared and alone, especially given my attraction to girls. But unlike most people in the first world who are born intersexmeaning they have genitals, reproductive organs, hormones, and/or chromosomal patterns that do not fit standard definitions of male or femaleI grew up in the body I was born with because my parents did not have my sex characteristics surgically altered at birth.
It wasn't until I was twenty-six and encountered the term intersex in a San Francisco newspaper that I finally had a name for my difference. That's when I began to explore what it means to live in the space between gendersto be both and neither. I tried living as a feminine woman, an androgynous person, and even for a brief period of time as a man. Good friends would not recognize me, and gay men would hit on me. My gender fluidity was exciting, and in many ways freeingbut it could also be isolating.
I had to know if there were other intersex people like me, but when I finally found an intersex community to connect with I was shocked, and then deeply upset, to learn that most of the people I met had been scarred, both physically and psychologically, by infant surgeries and hormone treatments meant to "correct" their bodies. Realizing that the invisibility of intersex people in society facilitated these practices, I made it my mission to bring an end to itand became one of the first people to voluntarily come out as intersex at a national and then international level.
Born Both is the story of my lifelong journey toward finding love and embracing my authentic identity in a world that insists on categorizing people into either/or, and of my decades-long fight for human rights and equality for intersex people everywhere.
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About the Author
Hida Viloria is a writer and intersex activist, chairperson of the Organization Intersex International (OII), and founding director of its American affiliate the Intersex Campaign for Equality, also known as OII-USA. Hida's mission is to obtain equality for intersex and nonbinary people as part of a broader vision for a world that accepts and values difference of every kind.
Table of Contents
Author's Note ix
Chapter 1 The Hazards of Being Female 3
Chapter 2 A Herm Grows in Queens 18
Chapter 3 A Hermaphrodite by Any Other Name 43
Chapter 4 Metamorphosis 56
Chapter 5 Gendercide 77
Chapter 6 The Grass Is Not Always Greener 95
Chapter 7 Finding the Vocabulary to Talk about Being Intersex 109
Chapter 8 Invisibility 118
Chapter 9 Girl/Boy, Lesbian/Gay? 136
Chapter 10 Nonbinary Blues 144
Chapter 11 Burning My Man 159
Chapter 12 Going Public 175
Chapter 13 The Lows of Being Out 189
Chapter 14 The Highs of Being Out 207
Chapter 15 The Struggle at Home and Abroad 221
Chapter 16 City of Intersex Angels 259
Chapter 17 Practicing What I Preach 284
What People are Saying About This
“Hida Viloria's touching and generous memoir shines a beautiful light of understanding not only on what it's like to discover, explore, and own one's identity as an intersex person, but also on what it means to be human. Through heartbreak and humor, Viloria writes with welcome candor and insightand shows us that there is so much more beauty, brilliance, and complexity than can ever be contained in the categories 'male' or 'female.'” -Sam McConnell, producer of HBO's The Out List and The Trans List
“How do you discover who you are when you are born outside of what culture has decided is possible? Hida Viloria answers this question with this moving and essential memoir, a personal history that is also something of a history of America's blind spots around gender and sex.” Alexander Chee, bestselling author of The Queen of the Night
“BORN BOTH is a courageous and compelling personal story that helps give us the necessary knowledge and understanding of the complex topics of intersexuality and gender fluidity. Hida Viloria has boldly brought us along on this journey of understanding and pushes us forward to become a more inclusive culture where we value everyonenot in spite of our differences, but rather because they make us perfectly and uniquely us. A must read.” Jane Clementi, co-founder of the Tyler Clementi Foundation
“Words come alive in BORN BOTH, which Hida Viloria has written with intellectual sophistication as well as passion for intersex activism. In this memoir, Viloria eloquently tells a deeply personal story within larger structural narratives of race/ethnicity, gender, and class, making for a simultaneously pleasurable and informative read. This book will not only captivate those interested in intersex activism and gender revolution but also those who enjoy skillful storytelling.” Georgiann Davis, PhD, Assistant Professor of Sociology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas and author of Contesting Intersex: The Dubious Diagnosis