Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships

by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
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Boundaries in Marriage 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 21 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
All three of us married into the same family and loved our spouses. The parents of these 'adult' children never gave our marriage a chance to work. They trampled our relationship boundaries. They demanded our time, required our constant devotion and attention, and used us to fulfill their miserable lives and compensate for their empty shell marriage. This book has given us the insights into understanding the wreckage of our relationships. We learned, as well, that marrying a weak child in the guise of an adult will bring you unceasing misery. Good riddance to the remnants of that Rockport, Texas clan. Buy this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a licensed mental health therapist, I have had clients read this book and process it in session. The results have been changed lives, balanced marriages and persons finding their ownership of life in a way that also respects the other person.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I bought this book after having yet another fight with my husband about the same things. I expected the book to lay out specific techniques I could do myself to help solidify my marriage. Instead, I found myself reading it from my husband's point of view and thinking of all the ways HE could change. The underlying message of the book was good...but the strategies were very vague and did not work for me. I got about halfway through it and decided that I needed to stop reading, because I was actually feeling WORSE after reading each chapter. This book made me look not only at the actual problems that existed in my marriage, but also at things that could happen. This made me obsess about the 'what if's' instead of focusing on changing the few things that actually were problems. My husband and I do not have huge marital troubles, just minor things to work through. After reading this book, I felt like everything was wrong in my marriage. I also found a lot of the authors' points to be contradictory. One minute they say set a boundary to protect yourself, then the next they say don't ever focus on your own happiness. Very confusing. Maybe it was just a bad match for me, but I wouldn't recommend this title. I will continue to look elsewhere for guidance.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I love Cloud and Townsend's Boundaries books! I have been to a seminar by Dr Cloud and he is as enlightening in person as in the books. I bought this book for our daughter and future son-in-law. There are so many excellent things to think about pre-marital as well as once you've tied the knot. It's refreshing to have something written in plain English that applies to both parties. No blaming, no arguing, just learning how to work on having a healthy relationship.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is an excedllent book. Most of us lack or have weak boundaries in one area of our lives or another and this book instructs and informs us how to strengthen these boundaries so that we can know ourselves better and have healtheir relationships. This book is also important because boundaries are learnt and if not learnt then we don't know what our boundaries are or other's as well. This is a must read!!! Excellent!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Having been married for 18 years, this book addressed nearly every issue of problems we faced. The advice is not only reasonable, and realistic, it is the real basis for which one should approach such issues. I found that this book was something I wanted to hand every friend and family member, I know. It was that good. Watch out Dr. Phil!!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book, in conjuction with counseling, made a tremendous difference in my marriage. My wife and I both had control issues that we were not even aware of. My wife told me I was controling, but could not explain why. This book showed me what she was trying to tell me. It also showed her that she had control issues too. Highly recomend to anyone!
jayi More than 1 year ago
A real eye opener. I have read all of their boundary books and have bought multiple copies as gifts. This last one is a wedding present.
nrocpop More than 1 year ago
This book made me think about things in a different way than I ever did before. I have read many self-help books, too. I think the ideas in this book could, potentially, be very helpful. It would be hard to sort out, though, what is a solid boundary and what is selfish. I might need further help with that.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Helpful addition to our home library for future reference and for daily application to an interdependent growth mode relationship.
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Good book, haven't finished it. Thus far, I've enjoyed it and learned a lot - still have more to learn.
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After finding out my husband had cheated on me twice (one year physical affair and one two year fully involved affair) over an eight year period, we both started therapy right away, in hopes of salvaging our marriage. I have read several books, but feel this one is the most directive, easy to understand and apply, and reasonable. Some sections are "hard" to read, like I did have a small part in this. I didn't like reading that I had to take responsibility for my actions, but I have. We start couples counseling next week and our goal to have the marriage that we never had.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
The more I complained to my husband about my needs not being met, the more withdrawn he would become and ignore my requests. This book gave me a different approach. I learned that I could set boundaries and when I stuck with them, he soon realized that I wasn't complaining anymore. He began trying to meet my needs. It was amazing. This book made a 180 in our marriage.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing and so helpful. It is straight forward and gives pratical advice for both people in the relationship. I have read it over and over and continue to learn and re-learn new ideas and processes. I would recommend it to anyone in a relationship....good or bad.
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