Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict

Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict

by Melody Stanford Martin
Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict

Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict

by Melody Stanford Martin


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When we disagree about fundamental issues, especially issues such as politics or religion, it can be incredibly difficult to maintain close interpersonal relationships. These differences have ended friendships and caused rifts in families. We need a tool to help us build more resilient relationships despite real and present differences. In Brave Talk, communications expert Melody Stanford Martin offers just such a tool: impasse. By learning to treat every conflict as if it's an impasse and temporarily suspend our desire to resolve differences, we make space for deeper understanding and stronger ties.

Brave Talk offers hands-on skill-building in critical thinking, power sharing, and rhetoric. Combining real-life storytelling, engaging illustrations, and rigorous academic sources, this book blends humor, creativity, and interactive learning to help everyday people develop better skills for navigating conflict in order to build stronger relationships and healthier communities.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781506462448
Publisher: 1517 Media
Publication date: 09/22/2020
Pages: 300
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Melody Stanford Martin is a social ethicist and communications expert helping people of all ages develop skills of courageous dialogue and conflict transformation. She is the Founder and CEO of Cambridge Creative Group, an organization specializing in nonprofit messaging and outreach, and a founding co-host of Irenicast, a podcast on faith and culture. She is a graduate of the Religion and Conflict Transformation program at Boston University School of Theology. Stanford Martin lives in Portland, Maine, with her husband, Corey, and their dog, Benedict Cumberbatch.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii

Introduction xi

Part I Understanding Impasse 2

1 Three Secrets of Impasse

Engaging the Elephant in the Room 3

2 Unraveling Fear

Trimming the Taproot of Conflict 27

3 Conflict and Power

Goliath and the Hare 47

Part II Engaging Impasse 76

4 Why We Need Disagreement

Leaping from the Trapeze 77

5 A Guide to Great Questions

Common Cures for Loud-Thought Syndrome 107

6 Dealing with Feelings

Too Many *%$@! Blue Cars 121

Part III Transforming Impasse 152

7 Assumptions and the Awesome if

Singing to Worms 153

8 Build a Better House

Rhetoric and Argumentation for the Rest of Us 175

9 Creating Resilient Relationships

How Do We Live the Dream? 211

Epilogue: Epic Impasse Pep Talk 242

Appendices: Tools for the Real World 244

Appendix A Brave Talk Base Camp

A Group Exercise for Practicing Courageous Dialogue 246

Appendix B Top Ten Conversation Hazards 247

Appendix C Difficult Conversations on Social Media 250

Appendix D All Aboard the Talking Train Deciding What to Share, When 252

Appendix E Glossary of Awesome Words 255

Recommended Reading 265

Bibliography 265

Endnotes 270

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