When does true love give in? When does true love push back? Break Through shows you how to love and how to set effective limits so that everybody wins.
Most of our relationships may be healthy and satisfying, but we often have one or two important people who change the rules and drive us crazy—a deadbeat dad, an alcoholic spouse, a wayward child, a demanding boss, a lazy roommate. Leading Christian counselor Tim Clinton and noted author Pat Springle, help you:
• Identify why you gravitate toward unhealthy relationships
• Redefine love, trust—and your responsibility to the people you care about
• Learn which choices and behaviors cause relationship troubles
• Experience the freedom of forgiveness
Learn to say yes when you want to and no when you need to. Give up your need to please, rescue, fix, or control anyone else. Study questions, checklists, and inspirational stories help you find the moment when you break through to the loving, healthy relationships with the people who matter most!
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About the Author
Dr. Tim Clinton, LPC, is founder and president of the nearly 50,000-member American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and Light University Online, which has over 160,000 students enrolled. Pat Springle was an executive with Rapha Treatment Centers and is coauthor of the classic work, Codependency.
Pat Springle was an executive with Rapha Treatment Centers and is co-author of the classic work, Codependency.
Table of Contents
Introduction: A New Day for Your Relationships v
1 In the Name of Love 1
2 Break Through to True Love 27
3 Where's the Payoff? 39
4 Answer the Wake-up Call 53
5 Dismantling Our Idols 73
6 A New Affection 93
7 Reflections of Truth and Love 113
8 Learning to Love Well 129
9 Gaining a Secure Identity 145
10 Learning to Trust Wisely 159
11 Balancing Our Responsibilities 181
12 Speakingthe Hard Truth 203
13 Square Off Against Evil 221
14 When the Way Ahead is Difficult 239
15 The View from Tomorrow 255
Appendix: Break Through to Great Parenting 267
How To Use This Book in Groups and Classes 273
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Description: Break Through is a Christian-based guide to healthy relationships and relationship maintenance that discusses the dynamics between husband and wife, parent and child, friend and friend, man and God, and all things in-between. "[All] the expert advise you need for knowing when to give in and how to push back for the best life you can have with the people you love most." (Back Cover Quote) Review: I tend to enjoy Christian Literature with a Biblical basis, so I was very pleased to receive a copy of Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back, a relationship guide full of scripture. Everyone has the occasional relationship snag, whether it's between couples, family, friends, or even God, but what is important enough to fight for versus ignore? Is it really worth it to put strain on your relationship just to be right, or to prove someone wrong? It is not okay to allow yourself to be treated in a way that you are not satisfied with; which is why I recommend Tim Clinton and Pat Springle's well-researched and Bible-based book of relationship advice. Break Through not only confronts relationship problems head on, (arguing, manipulation, distrust, excuses, etc...), but offers real-life examples of how to work through your problems with the help of God. I was impressed by the amount, and value of, the material presented. The format was easy-to-read, down-to-earth, and had an overall tone of honesty that really resonated with me. Their message to readers in any kind of relationship is one of inspiration - things can, and will, change for the better if you work on them. I enjoyed the self-evaluation quizzes as well, they really cemented the ideas from the chapter into my mind. The only aspect that I had problems with was the repetitive nature of the text after the chapter on "Learning to Love Well". I recommend this book to anyone who is having problems in their relationship and feels like they are making excuses for the other person’s actions; anyone can benefit from reading this book! Rating: On the Run (4/5) *** I received this book from the author (Worthy Publishing) in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.
Break Through is insightful and helpful book written for anyone who struggles with co-dependency. This book reminded me of another book I read and have recommended to many people, Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. However, Break Through goes deeper into defining what loving well looks like in relationships. Many of us believe we are loving others when we really aren't. We think we are being helpful, when we're actually not. This book helps expose the true dynamics in relationships. Whether the relationship is with a spouse, parent, friend or co-worker. I loved this entire book, but my favorite chapter is five: "Dismantling Our Idols". This chapter really opened my eyes to the function of idolatry in relationships. I was surprised by what I learned. Dr. Tim Clinton mentions the role in which parents play into these unhealthy dynamics. Parents frame how we relate to others. We mirror their example, whether it is functional or dysfunctional. I found this book especially helpful because I'm a parent. I don't want to pass along any of these learned behaviors, dysfunctional patterns or toxic functioning on to my children. Break Through gives good examples and teaches you how not to do that. Dr. Tim Clinton writes with sensitivity and compassion. He is not preachy nor does he condemn. He demonstrates grace to his readers and encourages that breaking free is attainable. If we do the work, we are guaranteed a break through. I highly recommend this life changing book. I believe everyone can benefit from it, I know I did. In conclusion, I want to thank Worthy Publishers and Handlebar Marketing for sending me a complimentary copy of this book to review.
"By the time you’re finished with this book…you’ll not only recognize love for all that it is, but break through the fog of your relationships into the light of an amazing new day for you and for those you love the most." Thus ends the introduction to Dr. Tim Clinton and Pat Springle’s new book, Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back. A lofty promise indeed, but one upon which Clinton and Springle deliver. In the book, the authors give insight into unhealthy relationships, such as codependency and abusive relationships. Why does a wife make excuses for an alcoholic husband? Why does a father continue to bail out a deadbeat daughter? The answer may surprise you. Using biblical insight and real-life examples, Clinton and Springle offer clear explanations for the real causes of unhealthy relationships and a clear path to forming healthy relationships. Each of the easily digestible chapters ends with a series of questions designed to make us think about our own relationships. The book also includes a guide for groups and classes who are looking to make the most of the book’s teaching. To say that I found this book enlightening would be an understatement. It has caused me to think about my own relationships – both healthy and unhealthy – and to start to address the areas of concern. I found the writing to be very easy to read, the print perfect for my lately very tired eyes, and on top of that I love the feel of the book jacket – very soft and nice to hold. Whether you recognize unhealthy relationships in your life or not, I highly recommend this book. You and your relationships will be changed for the better by reading it. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Handlebar Marketing. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
You can Break Through to a New Healthy Relationship and Heal your Soul BREAK THOUGH When to Give In, How to Push Back by Dr. Tim Clinton and Pat Springle Worthy Publishing Often our relationships are controlled by our misconceptions of what love is. We dominate or cower in the name of love, but the very nature of this love is destructive and unhealthy. When we allow ourselves to be enmeshed we rob ourselves and the object of our devotion of a healthy relationship and the joy and happiness that true love brings. This unhealthy dependency usually masks feelings of resentment, anger and eventually hate. But we can break through this destructive pattern and discovery what a healthy relationship is. We need to realize our true worth – that God wants more for us than to be trapped in an abusive relationship. We need to learn to step back and see where we are heading. Until we can see clearly the path of destruction we are on we cannot heal. We cannot fix other people, they have to face the consequences of their own actions. We cannot take on their consequences and expect them to ever be responsible. Nor should we expect someone to always be there to get us out of every little situation we find our self in. Throughout the world there are emotional twelve year-olds walking around in adult bodies seeking and craving attention, affection, and affirmation from irresponsible and untrustworthy people. When our relationships aren't what we expect them to be we feel broken and empty, so we attempt to fill the hole in our life with unhealthy relationships. We seek to fill an inner longing with one unhealthy relationship after another, but we must break the pattern we are stuck in. Do you want to break-free and experience a true relationship - one that is not codependent on others? You can change, but the change is gradual. You cannot expect an overnight instantaneous transformation. God is willing and able to help you, you need to listen to the His call. What we refer to as a crisis is often God's attempt to wake us up. True love is defined in First Corinthians 13. Love is unselfish, caring, forgiving and when you look to Jesus you see true love lived out. When we experience God's love we have hope and God is our center and the past has no claim on our today or our tomorrow. We must dig deep to to work our way back up. Trials come but they are a tool to deepen our trust in God and to serve as an example of encouragement to others who are on their own journey to freedom from unhealthy and addictive codependency. Break Through is your guide to breaking free so that you can make healthy relationship decisions. I received a copy of this title from the publisher Worthy Publishing for the purpose this review. A favorable review was not required.
Are you struggling with an abusive, controlling, or just plain unhealthy relationship? This book is all about having healthy relationships with people and when to give "tough" love and when to "give in". It's filled with practical advice, stories and thoughts on the correct way to handle relationships and love those around us. It's from a Christian perspective and would be gold for a person dealing with one or more dysfunctional relationships. Even though I, thankfully, don't have to deal with any of these issues, I still enjoyed the book. It wasn't too clinical or boring and was filled with stories to break up the advice being given. Definitely a book I would recommend if you are struggling with a relationship gone wrong. I received this book free of charge from Handlebar Marketing in exchange for my honest review.
I was completely impressed with this Biblically-based book about healthy relationships. And I don't mean just marital relationships, but all relationships. The authors give you practical tips on how to transform your relationships(and predominantly you)into what God wants them (and you) to be. The thing that impressed me more than anything was that the Bible was continually consulted as the primary source. So often in Christian counseling, there is too much emphasis on secular self-help strategies. The authors continued to bring us back to what Jesus did on this earth and what the apostle Paul wrote in his epistles. They do bring in other sources by various Christian theologians and even non-Christians, but everything is measured against the world. I did see some of myself and others in my sphere of influence. I plan to go back and do a rereading of various sections so I can apply many of their principles. In the end, it is good to know that in my experience, I am not alone. There are others who feel my pain and have walked in similar circumstances. And it is possible to change with the help of God. I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever had difficulties in a relationship. Isn't that everyone? I was sent of a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. I was not financially compensated in any way, and all opinions are 100 percent mine.
This book is so rich with practical advice on how to have healthy relationships Jesus' way. Reading this is a good first step into getting healthy relationally and how to invite those you love to do the same!
This book offers in depth information on how to set healthy boundaries and limit your time with people who are determined to cross them. It also contains stories from real situations that people were facing on setting boundaries and meeting disagreements head-on. I would recommend this book be read in a group setting to help the readers process their issues, or someone professional. This is a very detailed book and at times the reader could be overwhelmed with all of the information. However I do think this book does get a bit repetitive, it seems to repeat the same thing read three chapters ago, which was a bit of a turn off for me. I would give this book a 3.5 rating, a suggested read from me. I wish that I could have read this book about seventeen years ago, but I am grateful that I was offered a chance to read this book by Worthy Publishing in exchange for my review today.
Break Through When to Give in How to Push Back – by Tim Clinton, Pat Springle If you have ever grew up in an abusive family life, or have ever been in a bad relationship this book is just what you need. I really enjoyed this book. It was not just enlightening it actually explained why we react when our relationships are good or bad. I learned a word from this book it was the word enmeshed. That is exactly what we are. We become enmeshed with new relationships, and old. This book teaches you how to change the way react to our relationships to a healthy way of dealing with our friends, family, significant others even our children if you have any. I sure learned a lot about what makes people tick, but also I learned how God wants us to be. He did not create us so that we are dependent on others. He created us to be free to depend on Him. Sometimes we forget this, but Tim and Pat explain how God liberates us from this. I truly recommend this book. I do not want to give the book away but I did have something jump out at me and that was this scripture. Therefore He says “Awake you who sleep. Arise from the dead, and Christ will give you light.” Ephesians 5:14. You see God and this book is telling us. We cannot do anything without God. He is the creator of us all, and we cannot be enmeshed with those we are in a relationship with. We need to be enmeshed with God. How wonderful what a Breakthrough. I received this book for free I was not influenced to write a positive or negative review.