For anyone caring for someone with dementia, this book is a bridge of hope. Kate Hanley takes us on a journey where we witness her caring for her aging parents, while trying to balance the demands of her own busy work and family life.At times, full of frustration and despair, Kate wanted to give up, but knew that was never a choice. As her story progressed, along with her mother’s dementia, Kate discovered a cache of daily love devotionals her dad had penned to her mother every morning on a paper napkin. The discovery of these love sonnets was the key to unlocking the window into her mother’s soul, and gave Kate glimpses back into the world of who her mother once was.A beautiful story full of love, laughter, and possibility, Kate inspires others walking this path to know and believe that even in the darkest times of despair, there is reason to hope and remember that love is never forgotten.
|Publisher:||Green Writers Press|
|Product dimensions:||6.30(w) x 7.40(h) x 0.30(d)|
About the Author
Kate Hanley'sdiscovery of her parent’s unique love language set her on a path she never anticipated—writing a book. Yet these beautiful “paper napkin sonnets,” and the story that surrounds them, were too precious and inspiring not to share, as they offer hope for anyone in the throes of caring for someone with dementia. Kate lives in Old Forge, New York, with her husband and two dogs. Her two grown sons come home as often as possible to enjoy the peace and beauty of the Adirondack Mountains.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I read this from the perspective of someone who has never experienced a loved one being diagnosed with any form of dementia. Just this past year, one of my colleagues disclosed to me that her dad is diagnosed with dementia in addition to post-traumatic stress from the Vietnam war, and has talked about how increasingly difficult it has become, for all of them. I say all of this because I’ve had limited exposure myself but in reading Kate's book, it was extremely eye-opening to the experiences one has as a family-member watching his/her parent go through the various stages of dementia. Equally tough, watching the other parent suffer through this loss and the health battles that accompany it simultaneously. Breakfast Memories: A Dementia Love Story book is written from a place of authenticity. Kate doesn't hide her feelings of confusion, anger, hopelessness, determination, reflection, and many others. She highlights what I imagine many people going through the heartbreak of a loved one diagnosed with dementia has/are/will experience. People don’t want to feel alone in their experiences; this book lets people know that many of the hard decisions, emotions, and thoughts they’re having are not abnormal, wrong, and in fact, are universal. Kate then goes on to describe her growth throughout the process and moments of clarity, such as when she spoke a different language with her father and began to understand his love language. It was vulnerable and strong. I enjoyed that this book seemed to circle back to a few key phrases and images — ones that author wanted to leave on the reader’s mind. Kate somehow found a balance between pages where we as readers have tears streaming down our faces, to cracking a smile on the next page (example: pg 74-75 the experience in the car with her mom after Poughkeepsie, to her asking if any of you became priests/nuns). It was such a treasure to read about Kate's parents' love. You don’t see that kind of devotion as often anymore and this is just beautiful. I feel that Breakfast Memories: A Dementia Love Story has the power to touch many people.