Embrace forgiveness as a spiritual principle and discover a new closeness with the Divine.
Forgiveness is a spiritual path that you embark on with intention and vision, purposefully seeking to bridge the gap between your hurt and suffering and your sense of wholeness and resilient inner lightthe light of God.
This inspiring guide for healing and wholeness supplies you with a map to help you along your forgiveness journey. Deeply personal stories, comforting prayers and intimate meditations gently lead you through the steps that allow for the evolution of forgivingloss, anger, acceptance, learning, forgiveness and restoration. Tapping both ancient and contemporary sources for the nourishment and strength needed as you seek to rekindle inner peace, this book tenderly whispers encouragement as you are brought toand realize you are able to crossyour own bridge to forgiveness.
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About the Author
Rabbi Karyn D. Kedar teaches matters of the spirit to groups throughout the U.S. She is senior rabbi at Congregation B'nai Jehoshua Beth Elohim in the Chicago area, and the inspiring author of The Bridge to Forgiveness: Stories and Prayers for Finding God and Restoring Wholeness; Our Dance with God: Finding Prayer, Perspective and Meaning in the Stories of Our Lives and God Whispers: Stories of the Soul, Lessons of the Heart and contributed to May God Remember: Memory and Memorializing in Judaism Yizkor; Who by Fire, Who by Water Un'taneh Tokef and All These Vows Kol Nidre (all Jewish Lights).
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THE BRIDGE TO FORGIVENESSstories and prayers for finding God and restoring wholeness
By KARYN D. KEDAR
JEWISH LIGHTS PublishingCopyright © 2007 Karyn D. Kedar
All right reserved.
Forgiveness is a path to be walked.
There are steps along the way:
loss, anger, acceptance, learning,
And along the way, you will come upon a bridge.
When you step upon it, it will carry you,
support you, connect you to another side of life,
a side waiting to be discovered.
Forgiveness is a perpetual journey.
There are many bridge crossings.
Each restores a bit more of what you have lost.
Forgiveness is a like a bridge. It carries you over an expanse to the side of life that is softer, kinder, easier to bear. It is a shift of perspective, a new way of seeing our world, a different way of experiencing our inner life. If life is really a journey, then forgiveness is a main avenue, a path to life renewed. And along the way, there are stepping-stones to carry you through: loss, anger, acceptance, forgiveness, learning, and restoration. With each step, a new perspective is gained.
Forgiveness is often understood as an act of unselfish, unconditional love, an act in which we learn to "forgive and forget," maybe even to "turn the other cheek." That is not what is described in this book. After bearing witness to evil such as the Holocaust, genocide, and other acts of terror, we search for a new paradigm. There should be no forgetting of evil acts, no condoning of offense, sin, hatred. To forget is to run the risk of allowing these evils to happen again. Yet at the same time, to hold within us the horror and pain of every offense diminishes our lives. Resentment, anger, and fear must be released from within us so that we may restore our inner light, regain a sense of life's purpose, and reinvigorate our energy and optimism, so we can live with goodness and love.
I have come to understand that this journey, this path, this way of being in the world has many stages. They are steppingstones in a journey that is perpetual and unending. Each step restores a bit more of what we have lost. Each step leads to greater wisdom and understanding, to a deeper sense of life's meaning and purpose. We do not forget. Rather, we take what we have experienced and learn to live a different way. We do not turn the other cheek; we take the pain of an assault and understand that to live a loving life we must release the anger. We do not condone; we accept our lives and search for ways to restore the light within us that has been diminished.
Every offense leads to a sense of loss. A bit of wholeness is cracked or chipped or shattered. We lose a bit of trust, security, or faith. Or some of our sense of wonder. Every pain inflicted upon us may cause us to lose our way, to forget the meaning and purpose of our lives. But mostly with every hurt, the light that is within us is darkened or dimmed.
Understandably, loss creates anger. We are justified in our anger when we experience hurt and pain. We are certainly justified in being angry at the injustices of the world. I have come to believe that anger is a necessary step toward forgiveness; without it, there is a certain denial or repression. But anger is also dangerous. Though we must feel the anger, we must also know when to release it before it consumes us. We must learn to turn anger into motivation, lest it devour us. We long to rid the world of insanity, to rid our lives of all that is not good, of whatever does not serve the good in us. The search for God is the fight to relieve ourselves and the world of suffering. With every breath, we inhale the possibility of healing and of holiness. Loss then becomes anger, and anger can then motivate us toward change. And once we can release the anger that we have felt, we can begin to understand the need for acceptance.
To live life fully is to accept what has become of you. Acceptance is not acquiescence. It is not giving in, and it is not giving up. Acceptance is the compassionate embrace of yourself and your place in the world: without judgment, without fear, without regret. You are who you are. You are not who you are not. Every story has pain and loss and, despite all this, our life force is resilient. The soul yearns to reconcile the curses and the blessings of life by finding meaning and purpose. Everything that you have experienced has led you to this moment in time. And this moment in time has the potential to be filled with blessing and with an awareness of life's wonders and miracles.
Forgiveness is not condoning the wrong in the world or the offenses we experience in our lives. It is not forgetting. Forgiveness is a state of being. It is a bridge that carries us over the hurt we have experienced, leading us to a life of greater peace and acceptance. If you step upon it, it will carry you, support you, and connect you to another side of life, a side waiting to be discovered.
Always, there is the bridge to be crossed-an arch high above an abyss of fear and mistrust that carries you away from loss and anger and toward more acceptance, toward a life of learning. We can learn from everything that life presents to us. We learn from loss, from anger, from survival, from perseverance. Life is learning and growing.
And in the learning is an opportunity for restoration. You can restore your faith, your trust, your optimism, your sense of beauty. You do not go back to the way you were when life seemed simpler, because now you know that life is not simple. It is a complicated path of pain and joy, of disappointment and achievement, of betrayal and love. And now that you know that, and accept the impact that it has on you, you can regain a sense of wholeness and restore the light within.
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Table of Contents
Like a Strand of Hair xiii
The Bridge 1
The Stepping-Stones 3
It's a Matter of Principle 6
My Rock 8
An Invitation to an Awakening 11
Love and Fear 13
The Call 15
Forgiveness Is Not an Emotion 19
Path in the Ice 21
The Ghost of Love 23
Moments Are Finite, Yet Forever 24
Diminished Light 26
The Darkness of the Soul 29
Forgiveness and Evil: A Paradigm Shift 33
The Commandment to Act 35
The Paradox of Fire 37
Light and Warmth 41
The Case for Anger 42
Life Defined 44
Searching for Focus 45
Amen: Saying "Yes" 48
Pragmatic Spiritual Peace 55
The Truth 56
The Moon 57
Tip Toward Compassion: Concede the Moral High Ground 59
Why Is Not the Question 62
Struggling with God 65
Moving On: The New Home 66
Dance Through the Pain 69
Holding On, Letting Go 79
I Know Nothing 80
The Choice to Be Sustained 82
The Gates of Repentance 84
"Esa Enai-I Lift My Eyes" 86
Looking for Light in the Shadows: Rakefet 88
In the Shadow of Your Wings 91
The Cemetery 92
From a Mother to Her Girls 94
Letting Go 99
With All My Being 101
God, Divine Source of Love 104
Learning from It All 105
Ambiguity and Control 107
Where Is God? 109
Learning to Yield 111
Redemption: The Day Lilies 115
Forgiving God 125
Beaver Creek 128
Zero Visibility 132
Fear and Hope 134
The Silence Behind the Quiet 135
Quiet My Soul, O Holy One 137
The Bridge 141
Perpetual Crossings 143
Suggestions for Further Reading 145