Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy

Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy

Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy

Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy


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"Your guide to transcendent sex.”
—Ian Kerner, author of the New York Times bestseller,
She Comes First

In this playful and sexually savvy guide, “Dr. Cheryl” Fraser presents enlivening mindfulness exercises, techniques from couples and sex therapy, and the wisdom of Buddhist teachings to help you spark the passion and thrill you’ve been seeking in your relationship. With this book, couples can break free from the monotony of familiar routines and bring a little nirvana back to the bedroom for a more exciting, loving, and fulfilling connection.

The beginning of a relationship is always thrilling—butterflies in the stomach; that sense that someone really gets you; that “love drunk,” “walking on air” feeling. But as time goes by, and the tedium of daily life intervenes, you may find yourself too busy, tired, or just unmotivated to devote quality time and attention to the connection you crave. So, how do you uncover the passion and thrill you’re longing for, and how can you make it last?

Inside Buddha’s Bedroom, you’ll discover how the essential Buddhist teachings of mindfulness and awakening can be applied to your love life—showing that true passion absolutely is sustainable, if you’re willing to shift your perspective. By exploring your deepest desires and expectations, and also learning to see your partner as they really are, without the need for them to change, you’ll be able to create a deep and mindfully loving connection for a fabulous relationship. And with these spiritually scintillating tips and techniques, you’ll have the keys to igniting and sustaining all the thrill, intimacy, and sensuality you seek.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781684031184
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Publication date: 01/02/2019
Pages: 216
Sales rank: 428,425
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Sharp, frank, and fearless, Cheryl Fraser, PhD, is a Buddhist psychologist and sought-after relationship expert. She has helped thousands of couples jump-start their love life and create passion that lasts a lifetime.

A highly successful and awarded Fulbright scholar, she has conducted extensive research on sexual behavior and what causes love relationships to succeed or fail. With her groundwork, she created the Become Passion online workshop for couples. She has a thriving private practice in sex and couples therapy.

A former talk radio host, Cheryl is a dynamic guest expert for television and radio, appearing on multiple programs, including The Experts, CBC Marketplace, Air America, the Loving Well podcast, and many more.

As a columnist for Mindful and Best Health magazines, Cheryl explores love, sex, relationships, and the human experience. Her approach to life and to helping others is based in her practice of meditation and Buddhism, which she has studied for twenty-five years in both the Tibetan and Theravaden traditions. She was given permission to teach by her root teacher Namgyal Rinpoche, and she is resident meditation teacher for Island Dharma. Her work is encapsulated in the teaching of Mindful Loving, where she brings the Buddha’s teachings into the bedroom.

When Cheryl is not in India, Tibet, or at a three-month silent Buddhist meditation retreat, she lives on Vancouver Island, BC, Canada, with her man and their menagerie, practicing the passion she preaches.


Jack Kornfield, PhD, is cofounder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and a founding teacher of Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, CA. He is author of many books, including A Path with Heart and The Wise Heart.

Trudy Goodman, PhD, is a senior Vipassana teacher in Los Angeles, CA; cofounder of the Growing Spirit program; and contributing author to several books, including Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy, Clinical Handbook of Mindfulness, and Mindfulness and Psychotherapy.

Table of Contents

Foreword vii

Preface ix

Introduction: The Buddha Ruined Love Songs 1

Part I Why Buddha's Bedroom?

1 Sex, Love, and Meditation 16

2 Buddha's Cure for Lovesickness 28

3 How to Bring Buddha into the Bedroom 40

Part II Thrill: The Mindful Loving Path

4 Loving View: Don't Change Your Mate, Change Your Mind 54

5 Loving Intention: Falling in Love Is Easy, But Staying in Love Takes Mindfulness 68

Part III Intimacy: The Mindful Loving Path

6 Loving Action: Demons and Antidotes-Think Before You Act 84

7 Loving Speech: What Would Buddha Say? 102

8 Loving Livelihood: Make Your Love Life a Hobby 119

Part IV Sensuality: The Mindful Loving Path

9 Loving Mindfulness: Slowing Your Mind Is Great Foreplay 136

10 Loving Effort: Seven Steps to Enlightened Sex 152

11 Loving Concentration: Tantric Meditation and Orgasmic Bliss 170

Conclusion: Rewrite Your Love Story, Mindfully 187

Acknowledgments 194

References 196


Fraser resides in Vancouver Island, BC, Canada.

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