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A survivor of domestic violence offers women the tools needed to work through the excuses they tell themselves that keep them in abusive relationshipsand to make positive changes in their lives.
He loves me. He has a really sweet side. I am all he has. If only his boss wouldn't put him under so much stress. At least he doesn't hit me. He won't do it again. I can't do anything right.In this compassionate book, Joanna V. Hunter helps women face, head on, the excuses they tell themselves that keep them in abusive relationships. Using expert advice complemented by her story and the stories of dozens of other women who have survived and turned away from domestic violence, Hunter teaches women to identify the lies they've accepted, understand what healthy thinking sounds like, stop taking the blame for their partner's behavior, identify power and control plays, and stick up for their own needs and plans for their safety.With each self-defeating message addressed in But He'll Change,Hunter offers counter messages designed to help women build strength and hope. Readers will develop the tools to operate not as victims, but as survivors, understanding the power that they hold to change their lives.
|Product dimensions:||5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Joanna V. Hunter is a popular speaker, volunteer, and trainer on domestic violence who works with victims and those who serve them. Her work is informed by her experience as a survivor of abuse. Hunter lives in Oregon, Wisconsin.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
'But He'll Change' communicates that the change must begin in the victim: the abused becomes the rescuer. The author states that victims of abuse suffer chronic low self-esteem - and even the first steps at re-building it will be the first steps out of a hostile relationship. I remember an instance where my children told me they weren't hungry - that they didn't want supper and my first thought was 'Oh no, guess I won't be eating tonight.' Fortunately, I heard myself and made a delicious meal which I set at the table - with napkins. Within minutes of sitting down to eat, my children joined me and we had a nice time together. This book teaches that even in the smallest of gestures, you begin to save yourself. Eleanor Cowan, author of : A History of a Pedophile's Wife: Memoir of a Canadian Teacher and Writer