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What Do You Want to Do with the Rest of Your Life?
ALL ALONG, doctors differed on Rusty Hammer’s prognosis. One told his wife, Pamela, “If he lasts five years, he’ll be lucky.” Another kept reassuring Rusty, “You never know. You’re doing fine. Just get more rest.”
He did last five years, and Pamela will always wonder whether the treatment was worth the torment.
Rusty was diagnosed with acute myelogenous leukemia, a rare and aggressive blood cancer. By the time he died, on Monday, Jan. 28, 2008, he had taken more than 250 medications, received more than 350 blood transfusions, had a stem cell transplant, and spent nearly 600 nights in six different hospitals. He developed severe diabetes and osteoporosis, heart and lung failure. He needed an oxygen tank to breathe and a shunt in his brain to relieve the pain. Visiting the doctor took all day, with the wheelchair, the drive, managing a hospital bed on the other end. It left them both exhausted, and hopeless that their family’s suffering would ever end.
But hospice care brought them comfort and calm. In the last six months of his life, Rusty enjoyed the company of family and friends. He explored his religious heritage. He wrote a book, and in a strange way he also became the author of his own experience a person again, not a medical record number or an object to be handed from one specialist to another for yet another blast of debilitating treatment. The hospice team listened to him. Pamela found herself becoming a better listener, too.
This was not how Rusty thought of hospice when a friend first suggested it. He did not imagine an opportunity to reclaim his life, let alone do something new or grow. He thought of hospice as a place you go to die, and he was appalled.
Table of Contents
Foreword Joan Halifax, Ph.D. xiii
Part 1 The Choice 1
1 What Do You Want to Do with the Rest of Your Life? 3
2 Birth of a Movement 13
3 Cure Versus Care 33
Part 2 The Patients 49
4 Evelyn Landes: House Calls 51
5 Alice and Ying Wun: A Fragile Family Peace 63
6 Peter Serrell: Final Fast 73
7 Fred Holliday: Inside the Catch-22 of Hospice 83
Part 3 The Survivors
8 Up from the Abyss 97
9 Turning Points 109
Part 4 The Providers 119
10 The Gift of Grace 121
11 New Course for Doctors 135
12 Dying for Dollars 149
13 Cultural Revolutions 167
14 Not If, But When 177
About the Authors 225
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
It's never too late and this book taught me that. It will open your eyes on how mortal we are all. The real life stories in the book will hit you like a cold shower, but they needed to be told. Appreciate the small moments, always have compassion, and change the way you die with this book.
I have not had a loved one admitted to hospice care, but my mom, who has been an RN for more than 20 years, has worked in home health care for the past six years. She doesn't talk much about losing her patients, but what I could get from what she did say was that their deaths saddened her. After reading the book, I understand much more about her everyday world than she could ever tell me and have actually passed along this book to her to read. I'm sure she will love it as much as I did (the personal stories were what hit home for me).
An important book, well informed and well-researched, I admit I was turned onto holistic care. It was never actually something I had considered until I picked up this book. It's well worth a look.