In 2012, journalist Arleen Spenceley outed herself as a twenty-six-year-old virgin in a Tampa Bay Times op-ed that went viral. In Chastity Is for Lovers, Spenceley expands on that piece, advocating Catholic teaching on sex and marriage with candor and humor, and without judgment.
In her debut book, seasoned journalist and self-professed "happy virgin" Arleen Spenceley offers a mature, funny, and relatable vision of Catholic teaching on chastity for young adults. Chastity Is for Lovers provides perspective on a variety of topicsthe difference between chastity and abstinence, how virginity is an affirming and valuable life choice, how the word "purity" can be harmful in ministry settings, how to date well, and why sexual self-control is the best form of marriage preparationand gives single adults the best possible chance to find true love. She carefully avoids using language that shames readers and instead presents a view of chastity that is joyful and positive.
|Publisher:||Ave Maria Press|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.50(d)|
About the Author
Arleen Spenceley has written professionally since high school. Her work has appeared in the Tampa Bay Times and the Chicago Sun-Times, and online at Relevantmagazine.com, Chastity Project, and Busted Halo. She has a bachelor's degree in journalism and a master's degree in counseling, and blogs about love, relationships, and sex.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Call this your “Sarah said so” must-read for 2014. I laughed, I cried, I pre-ordered two copies for my nieces. This is some of the most important writing I’ve read on the topic of sex…ever. (JP2 might have her beat with TOB, but let’s not get picky.) Spenceley cuts to the heart of the matter, and she does it with grace, style, and a smile. I found myself crying–and don’t you DARE blame hormones!–because I so wish I had been told this, had read this, had heard this beautiful truth BEFORE NOW. (OK, so I have. But not when I was her age.) This book is courageous and wise. It’s logical and methodical, even as its softer side is strewn throughout, weaving it together. Truly, a masterpiece. I couldn’t put it down, and I can’t recommend it highly enough. Go forth and order it!
It's all very well to say that you'll save yourself for marriage when you're young. After all, you figure it'll only be a few years til your magical wedding--and after that, no objection to having sex. But life isn't a fairy tail--some girls never get the gold ring. It's a very lonely life when you see your friends getting married and starting families. If you're truly committed to "no sex without marriage", kudos to you and your committment. For most girls, tho--I think thry have no idea how lonely being an "eternal virgin" is. No husband, no kids...probably not what you were expecting from life. But of course no one ever mentions this possibility.
Arleen articulates what I have felt for years, but have never been able to put into words. It is by far one of the best books written on chastity during our generation and puts Arleen in the same league with Fr. Benedict Groeschel and Fr. Thomas Dubay. I highly recommend it.
Arleen Spenceley really captures and helps explain what the true Catholic view on Chastity, Virginity, Sex, Purity and Love is. Her use of humor helps lighten the mood and is well placed. Also she does a great job at not shaming the reader. “Chastity is for Lovers” is a great book and I would highly recommend it for any youth or young adult. Just in case you are wondering, like I did, the book works for both men and women. I am Catholic guy and a young adult.