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The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

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by Shefali Tsabary

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Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes


Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes for dysfunction. In Dr. Shefali Tsabary's conscious approach to parenting, however, children serve as mirrors of their parents' forgotten self. Those willing to look in the mirror have an opportunity to establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness. Once they find their way back to their essence, parents enter into communion with their children, shifting away from the traditional parent-to-child "know it all" approach and more towards a mutual parent-with-child relationship. The pillars of the parental ego crumble as the parents awaken to the ability of their children to transport them into a state of presence.

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Shefali Tsabary, PhD, received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University, New York. Dr. Tsabary was exposed to Eastern mindfulness at an early age and integrates its teachings with Western psychology. Blending East and West, she lectures extensively on mindful living and conscious parenting around the world and is in private practice. She resides with her husband and daughter in New York.

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The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 8 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is empowering for any parent, new, facing the terrible twos and trying to connect with your teenager child. This has been very helpful. 
860850JC More than 1 year ago
My 17 yr. old daughter mentioned to a friend the other day. "I don't know why but my mom and I don't fight as much as we used to" I smile. She knows that I have been less reactive and more responsive, less constricted and less stressed. Since reading the Conscious Parent the question is not- why read it? but when? Since this profound book has entered my life it has turned it around. Now I approach this life from a better place and that changes the whole dynamic of my family. Instead of coming from fear and control and parent that way I am becoming better at listening to the needs of what my child is saying and operating from a deeper place. Like Einstein said if you keep doing what your doing and expect different results that is the definition of insanity. So now when things "Go wrong" and they go wrong quite often I find myself operating from a more attentive responsive place. So if you are in the market to empower your child and transform yourself I would ask you to carefully consider Dr. Tsabarry's book. I assure you to become the better person & parent you long to be.
CynthiaSueLarson More than 1 year ago
If you're seeking quick and easy ways to change your children's behavior, or get them to do what you say, this book is not for you. Becoming a conscious parent requires looking deeply and honestly within oneself, delving into one's own fears and shortcomings. The Conscious Parent invites parents to become more mindful of their daily interactions with their children so that rather than seeing children's actions as "misbehavior," parents can recognize an opportunity to be kinder and more open themselves. The central premise of The Conscious Parent is that children provide parents with mirrors of their own subconscious issues, and parents who understand this can enter into a state of heart-to-heart communion with their children, learning and growing alongside their children, rather than continuing habitual reactive patterns that tend to perpetuate family cycles of power, control and dominance. As author Shefali Tsabary points out, this shift from an egoic state of mind to one of authentic being "... isn't an easy one for a parent to make." While much of the Conscious Parent contains the kinds of tips and pointers Tsabary provides for her clients, this book really shines when Tsabary shares her first-hand experiences as a mother. Parents seeking ways to bridge the gap from parenting similarly to how they've been raised and achieving a Zen-like state of mindfulness in parenting will delight in the examples and suggestions Tsabary shares for how they might actually manage to incorporate some of the lofty ideals of mindfulness to parenting, and how it feels as a parent to deal with one's own internal doubt, fear, and resistance. Tsabary discourages parents from using praise and scolding to mold children into doing and being what most pleases the parents, and recommends that parents grant their children the freedom to become the best they can be at who they truly are. Tsabary suggests that parents can set high standards in some areas, such as for: speaking from their authentic voice, being kind, expressing feelings directly, helping others, and engaging in daily dialogue and conversation with them. The Conscious Parent is highly recommended for readers dedicated to living their lives mindfully who are eager to have functional, rather than dysfunctional families. This book inspires parents to set examples for children by embracing imperfections, and staying open-hearted, open-minded, and truly present and engaged. If all families adopted just some of the ideas from this book, it seems clear that the world would be a much better place.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I love this book! It is a must for any parent. It is not only helpful for your relationship with your children but can be applied to all of your relationships. It has transformed me not only as a parent but personally as well. By chapter two, I could tell it was already making a difference and I was feeling more at peace and parenting in a more conscious way. My relationship with all of my family has changed for the better. :)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is one of the BEST books for parents I have read. Dr. Tsabary helps parents understand themselves and their children in a way that is so important and key to improving their relationships. It was very meaningful and helped me understand where I am as a parent and guided me to where I want to be.Her understanding of the parent-child dynamic and how it creates and contributes to the frustrations we experience is absolutely on target.I HIGHLY recommend this book to ALL parents!
5kidsnow More than 1 year ago
As a mother of five (oldest is 26, youngest is 9) when I saw Dr. Shefali on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday I was immediately drawn to her work. I ordered this book right after the show and literally devoured it once it arrived on my doorstep. Almost every page is written on, or high-lighted in some way. If we choose to embrace the ideals and methods Dr. Shefali is proposing, I believe it could literally revolutionize the role of parent! And, let's face it, we really need to make some serious changes in raising our youth (and ourselves) TODAY! I am continuing to read through and work towards implementing her theory about our children really raising US in my everyday parenting life with my children who still live under our roof. Like yoga, this is a "practice" not a destination. Terrific read, very worth your time!
MomsChoiceAwards More than 1 year ago
The Conscious Parent is a recipient of the prestigious Mom's Choice Award. The Mom's Choice Awards honors excellence in family-friendly media, products and services. An esteemed panel of judges includes education, media and other experts as well as parents, children, librarians, performing artists, producers, medical and business professionals, authors, scientists and others. A sampling of the panel members includes: Dr. Twila C. Liggett, ten-time Emmy-winner, professor and founder of PBS's Reading Rainbow; Julie Aigner-Clark, Creator of Baby Einstein and The Safe Side Project; Jodee Blanco, and New York Times best-selling Author; LeAnn Thieman, motivational speaker and coauthor of seven Chicken Soup For The Soul books. Parents and educators look for the Mom's Choice Awards seal in selecting quality materials and products for children and families.