A survey, undertaken specically for this book, shows that 40% of women earning $50,000 or more a year are childless at age 45. So why is the age-old business of having babies so very elusive for this generation of high-achieving women? Why is it that all the new power and prestige does not translate into easier choices on the family front ? It seems that women can be astronauts, CEOs, Secretaries of State, but increasingly, they cannot be mothers. Sylvia Hewletts powerful book looks at the hard and disturbing facts and goes on to advocate a new way of approaching the question of motherhood vs. career for a new generation of women.
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Table of Contents
|1||Stories from the Front Lines||33|
|2||The Sobering Facts||85|
|3||High-Altitude Careers and the "Price" of Motherhood||121|
|4||Predators and Nurturers||161|
|5||Infertility: the Empty Promise of High-Tech Reproduction||203|
|6||The Time Crunch||255|
|7||Having It All||291|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I found that the book provided interesting insight. Women today are so educated on when to have kids and how many by what age. No one really discusses the effects of children on your life as a whole; your work life, your home life and you social life. Mrs. Hewlett discussed this point in great detail. It made me relize that a plan is necessary, even when you're young. I would recommend this book to women looking for a way to plan when getting started in life. Don't wait till it's too late.
This book is an eye opener to say the least. It talks about the odds that the women of today face. Whether it's long hours on the job, no time for a social life, misfortunes during a pregnancy, or the problem of infertility, women seem to be on the wrong end of things. One example of the statistics presented is the percentage of professional women working long hours and earning high salaries while raising a family versus women with less demanding jobs while taking care of their families. This was a wonderful book, which included stories from women, and even some men. It will make you think twice about the important aspects of your future. She has come up with detailed lists and descriptions of how to manage your life in order to achieve your career dreams as well as personal goals. The only negative of this book was that it seemed a bit repetitive in places. That should not discourage you from reading this book, however. It is a worthwhile read for anyone who is starting out in a career and hoping to become a parent someday. It is wonderfully informative about the conditions women who dream of being mothers one day face in this demanding working world.
Actually, the author's findings are pretty much on target when it comes to what is taking place all over the country. If you are 35 or older, ask your own doctor. Just like me, millions of women wanted to have babies later in life. My OBGYN said at 35, it was very risky but not totally out of the question. AT 35! Wake up ladies - want a safe pregnancy and healthy babies who progress into normal children - get started straight away before age 30! If not - don't blame people who warned you.
Hewlett's claim that she wanted to write a book about successful women and then uncovered the tragedy of how many of them 'forgot' to have children is disingenuous. She has an ax to grind - she can't stand the fact that some women haven't reproduced (the author herself just HAD to have a baby at age 51 despite her husband's reluctance). So she gathers data from discredited studies, asks misleading questions, and then draws her so-called conclusions. For instance, she says only 14% of women she surveyed wanted to be childless yet almost 50% of those surveyed were. Yet she arrived at that 'conclusion' by asking women if, while they were in college, they thought they would have children. But, interestingly, she does NOT ask them if they still think they want children. She just assumes they do and, q.e.d. they're unhappy and unfulfilled. Too bad this author gets so much spotlight. She has so little to say, and no data to support it.