Cupid Is a Procrastinator: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life

Cupid Is a Procrastinator: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life

by Kate Hurley


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Cupid Is a Procrastinator: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life by Kate Hurley

Where's My Love Story?

It's your third wedding this year. You are livening up the dance floor with a stirring rendition of "YMCA." Suddenly, the moment comes that separates the crowd like black and white socks. The Slow Dance. This one's in a pair, this one's not in a pair.

You are not in a pair. You thought you would be married much sooner, but it hasn't worked out that way. "This is not the life I imagined," you whisper as you eat your wedding cake.

This book was written with you in mind. Kate Hurley doesn't offer a magic formula that will bring your spouse to you, nor does she ask you to be content with your "gift" of singleness. She gives you permission to grieve your unmet expectations while opening your heart and life to unforeseen possibilities.

Includes a Group Study Guide

The author is committed to giving twenty percent of her profits from this book to AIDchild (, an orphanage in Uganda for children living with AIDS, and iEmpathize (, an organization that fights to eradicate child exploitation.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780736962261
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
Publication date: 02/01/2015
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 790,108
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Kate Hurley is a worship leader, singer-songwriter, and teacher based out of Boulder, Colorado. She writes the popular blog The Sexy Celibate and has a passion to care for the poor through her art and her friendship. The mission statement for her life is "to paint an accurate picture of a passionate God."  Visit her at

Table of Contents

Preface: Ghost Ship 5

Introduction: Do I Really Need a Minivan in the Game of Life? 7

Chapter 1 If You Can't Marry 'Em, Write a Book about 'Em 13

Chapter 2 Kate: The Musical 23

Chapter 3 The Rant Chapter 35

Chapter 4 The Lonely Doll 51

Chapter 5 The Trouble with Expectations 59

Chapter 6 Confession, Reality TV, and the Space In Between 67

Chapter 7 The Case for Thankfulness 77

Chapter 8 The Great Name Changer 87

Chapter 9 What Singles Wish Married People Knew 97

Chapter 10 What Married People Wish Singles Knew 109

Chapter 11 Throw Away Your List (Or Just Rewrite It) 127

Chapter 12 90s Dating Gone Bad 137

Chapter 13 Hold the Ones You Love 153

Chapter 14 Pity Parties and Prodigals 163

Chapter 15 How to Build Your Own Family, Part 1: Giving Yourself to Others 175

Chapter 16 How to Build Your Own Family, Part 2: Living in Community 185

Chapter 17 Thirty, Flirty, and Fertile 193

Chapter 18 The Deepest Love Story 203

Afterword 213

Group Study Guide 215

Notes 231

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Theophilusfamily More than 1 year ago
I read this book several moons ago now, and I hesitated to review it because I had loved it so much that I didn't think I could do it justice. In the inhospitable landscape of dating advice, we all might need Kate's words to reassure us. I needed her straight-talk, and her sense of humor, and her strong grip on both spirituality *and* reality. Particularly, I needed her bravery when she said that while singleness is certainly no curse, it's also hard. It's probably harder for a mature adult single person, rather than for a young adult, but still- you feel an absence. We belong to a species that was designed to be paired, and we feel separated when we're not. I look at couples, and families, and I want that belonging. I want to be a link in the chain of generations. Acknowledging this deeper hunger means being vulnerable, and that takes guts. Kate has them. And it takes another dose of guts to say "I'm going to own this longing, and not attempt to satisfy it with substitutes, and I'm going to live well in this tension and find goodness in this life of mine, whatever my relationship status." Kate has a suitcase of that kind of guts. Without platitudes, or sentimentality, or self-pity, or browbeating, Kate leads us to think about purpose and satisfaction and opportunity and gratitude and grace, all without sounding like a zillion other "Christian Dating Books." Really, this is much more a book about being a healthy, whole human being. But there's plenty of talk about Love and Relationships too- you won't feel cheated if you're one of those singles who compulsively reads relationship books. :-) Because this is a book about living life well, Kate invites us into her personal journey of growing closer to the heart of God. And, like the best of storytellers, her reflections and questions lead you to your own. I thank Harvest House Publishers for my review copy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Can I tell you why I love this book so much? It’s because FINALLY, someone said it: “Being single sucks.” That so needed to be said. Kate tackles all of it: dating, loneliness, church, life, freedom, longing, friendships, expectations, grief, hope - everything! – with wonderful candor, wisdom, and honesty.  And the best part of it is: she wrote her book to married people, too. I’ve read a lot of books about singleness – but I’ve yet to read one as comprehensive, compassionate, and hopeful as Cupid Is A Procrastinator. There isn’t a single formula or platitude in it. It’s just…well, real. Kate gives us permission to own it that sometimes, being single just sucks. That it’s okay to grieve the loss of something we don’t have. But at the same time she reminds us that there’s “hope that is still hope”, even if it doesn’t end with wedding bells. That Jesus truly is enough. And that ‘family’ doesn’t need to be as narrowly defined as we think it is. I hope you’ll pick up a copy – for yourself, or for a friend!