Dad's Pregnant Too: Expectant fathers, expectant mothers, new dads and new moms share advice, tips and stories about all the surprises, questions and joys ahead...

Dad's Pregnant Too: Expectant fathers, expectant mothers, new dads and new moms share advice, tips and stories about all the surprises, questions and joys ahead...

by Harlan Cohen


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Dad's Pregnant Too: Expectant fathers, expectant mothers, new dads and new moms share advice, tips and stories about all the surprises, questions and joys ahead... by Harlan Cohen

Dad's Pregnant Too! is a first-of-its-kind guide written for expectant fathers, but also intended for couples.

From the first positive test, to the first time seducing your pregnant partner, to the first push, to the first week home following the birth, Dad's Pregnant Too! exposes and explores everything an expectant dad needs to know (but no one ever tells him). Dad's Pregnant Too! is the most comprehensive guide to help expectant fathers understand their partners, themselves, and what's really going on inside her belly.

  • Medically reviewed
  • Includes pictures of baby's development

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781402211331
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Publication date: 06/01/2008
Pages: 560
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 6.90(h) x 1.30(d)

About the Author

Harlan is a nationally syndicated advice columnist (Help Me, Harlan!) and author of the bestselling book, The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College (Sourcebooks) and Campus Life Exposed: Advice from the Inside (Petersons). He is a contributor to Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul III, an occasional contributor to the Chicago Tribune, and has written a monthly column for the Classroom Edition of The Wall Street Journal. His expert advice expert has been featured in Psychology Today, The New York Times, Seventeen magazine, and Details magazine. When not writing his column, Harlan speaks across the country, consults regarding young adult issues, appears on radio and TV, writes and performs music from his new album, Fortunate Accidents, and expands his award-winning Web sites. He is also the founder of Rejection Awareness Week (R.A.W.) and the president of the International Rejection/Risk-Taking Project.

Harlan lives in Chicago, IL with his wife, daughter, newborn son, and dog.

Read an Excerpt

Chapter 1: The First Few Weeks ...
Shock, Joy, Surprise, and Things You'll Want to Do

Tip #1:
You can take a pregnancy test yourself, but only hers counts.

The first four tests she took were all positive, but the indicator strips were extremely light. That's when I took a fifth test to act as a control test to make sure the results were accurate. She laughed at first but generally thought I was an idiot for doing so. She stood next to me as I took the test (she turned away when I peed). After dipping the stick, my wife watched as the indicator light revealed the results. As predicted, the results were a bright negative. For some reason, I had to test it. I just couldn't believe it.
-Scott, daughter 23 months

The lack of control begins with her urine. My wife hoarded her pee-she insisted it was too early to take a pregnancy test and refused to pee on a stick for me. I insisted that even though it was too early, taking a pregnancy test is too much fun to pass up. How many times in our life do we get to do this? I like to think of taking a pregnancy test like being on a game show without the game show music in the background (although next time I think I might play music during the test). The prize is that you get to have a baby (or two or three). I explained to her that it wasn't fair that she was hoarding her urine. She then explained that she didn't want to be disappointed if the test was negative like the previous month's round of testing.

After explaining to her that a negative result is the most likely result, and that it would be too soon to be disappointed because it's so early, she yielded and reluctantly offered me some of her possibly pregnant urine. She then dipped the pregnancy test stick and we huddled around the urine-soaked magic wand.

Pregnancy tests work by detecting the pregnancy hormone hCG. HCG begins to be produced when a fertilized egg implants in the uterus-about 6 days after conception-and then continues to increase during pregnancy. Most pregnancy tests give the most accurate results once hCG reaches high enough levels in the urine to be detected, about one week after a missed period. Early pregnancy tests can be used to tell if you're pregnant up to five days before a missed period. Once we dipped the stick and waited two minutes, we saw what appeared to be the faintest blue line. I bought a cheap test because...I can be cheap at times. The line was so faint it almost wasn't there. It definitely wasn't negative, but it was barely positive. We angled it, we put it under a bright light, dipped it in the urine cup on the counter-still, we thought the results were unclear.

I then peed on one of the sticks to see if they were defective (surprisingly a number of guys do this). Fast forward 15 minutes, and I returned home from the drugstore with three deluxe digital home pregnancy tests. She peed again, we huddled again, and then, the word pregnant flashed on the screen. We took another test and it said not pregnant. She then took another digital test from a different manufacturer, and the results flashed pregnant. We figured two flashing pregnant sticks meant that she was really pregnant.

I've heard that tests rarely ever give false positives. (hCG levels can vary from day to day, which can make someone have a positive test one day, and then a negative test the next.) So a positive result normally means that you can be pretty sure she is pregnant. My wife took another test with hermorning pee, and we were 100 percent positive. Four cheap tests and three digital tests later (a total of $75 worth of sticks), we finally believed she was pregnant. So much of pregnancy is about facing the unknown and accepting your lack of control. As a man, we don't even have control over the test-that's how little control we have from day one. But if you accept this fact and embrace the reality that you will experience an incredible amount of surprise during pregnancy-some surprises difficult, but most extremely good-you quickly learn how to get comfortable with the uncomfortable right from the start.

Put your urine away and go with her flow. There's no controlling the future even if you pee on a control stick.

Table of Contents

The Conception
How It Happened
Welcome Expectant Fathers
Welcome Expectant Mothers
Welcome Health Professionals
How This Book Was Put Together
How This Book Was Researched
What Makes This Book Unique
About the Tips and Stories
About the Content and Word Choices
Nope, This Isn't a Medical Guide
The First of Many Editions
We Are Pioneers
Chapter 1
The First Few Weeks...
Shock, Joy, Surprise, and Things
You'll Want to Do
1. The Magic Urine
2. Reacting to the News
3. Sharing the News
4. Who Will Deliver?
5. Where to Have It
6. How to Pay for It
7. Feeding Your Pregnant Partner
8. The Pregnancy Card
Chapter 2
The Doctor Will See You Now
Or Whoever Delivers Your Baby
Will See You Now
9. Your First GUYne Exam
10. The Rest of the Doctor Visits
11. The Ultrasound
12. Prenatal Testing
13. Complications and Second Opinions
14. Miscarriage Tip
Chapter 3
The Baby's Development
This Part Has Pictures
Chapter 4
The Many Faces of the Expectant Father
Inside the Male Mind and Body
15. The In-Awe Expectant Father
16. The Rejected Expectant Father
17. The Accidental Asshole Expectant Father
18. The Scared Expectant Father
19. The "Fighting Change" Expectant
20. The Educated Expectant Father
21. The Always On-Call Expectant Father
22. The Demoted Expectant Father
23. The Getting Fat Expectant Father
24. The Do-It-All Expectant Father
25. The Protective Expectant Father
26. The Calm Expectant Father
27. The Me Too Expectant Father
28. The Emotionally Reserved Expectant Father
29. The Not Happy Expectant Father
30. The Two for the Price of Two Expectant Father
31. The Adoptive Expectant Father
Chapter 5
The Body of the Pregnant Woman
Like Puberty All Over Again
32. The Body of the Pregnant Woman
33. The Big-Breasted Pregnant Woman
34. The Vomiting Pregnant Woman
35. The Feeling Fat Pregnant Woman
36. The Farting Pregnant Woman
37. The Hemorrhoidal Leaky Pregnant Woman
38. The Spotting Cramping Pregnant Woman
39. The Never-So-Tired Pregnant Woman
40. The Snoring Restless Pregnant Woman
Chapter 6
The Mind of the Pregnant Woman And the Expectant Mother Thong
41. The Happy Pregnant Woman .
42. The Hormonal Pregnant Woman
43. The Strong Pregnant Woman
44. The Cranky Pregnant Woman
45. The Angry Pregnant Woman
46. The Irrational Pregnant Woman
47. The Scared Pregnant Woman
48. The Nesting Pregnant Woman
49. The Depressed Pregnant Woman
Chapter 7
Spoiling Your Pregnant Partner
Helping Her Feel as Good as She Feels Big
50. Dating a Pregnant Woman
51. The Babymoon
52. The Prenatal Rubdown
53. Maternity Clothes
54. The Push/Pregnancy Present
55. Doing the Little Things
Chapter 8
Pregnant Sex
Having It, Not Having It, Fantasizing about Having It
56. Pregnant Sex 101
57. A Guide to Pregnant Sex (Version 1.0)
58. Men Who Don't Want Sex
59. Men Who Have Sex Alone
Chapter 9
Shopping for Baby
Something So Little Needs So Much
60. Shopping for Baby
61. The Emotional Purchase
62. The Perfect Stroller(s)
63. The Crib, Furniture, and Nursery
64. The Car Seat(s)
Chapter 10
Passing the Time
Things to Do During the Second and Third Trimesters
65. The Baby's Sex
66. The Name Game
67. Hanging Out with Her Belly
68. Hanging Out with the Guys
69. Ultrasound for Kicks
70. Unsolicited Advice
71. Packing for the Trip
72. Paternity Leave
Chapter 11
Labor and Delivery Prep Time
Things to Help Prepare You for Labor and Delivery
73. The Birth Plan
74. The Birth Class
75. The Labor Partner
76. Working the Door
77. Cord Blood Banking
78. The Pediatrician
79. Managing Her Pain
80. You Run the Show
81. Getting It to Come Out!
Chapter 12
The Birth Day
From Your Door to Delivery Room and Back Again
82. Going into Labor
83. Passing the Time
84. The Birth
85. The C-section Section
86. The Conehead
87. Preg-Man-See
88. Lights, Camera, Action!
89. What Happens Next?
90. Leaving the Hospital
91. The Drive Home
Chapter 13
After the Baby is Born
The Fourth Trimester Begins
92. What No One Tells New Dads
93. The First Night Home
94. Help Wanted
95. Nursing and Bottle-feeding
96. Take a Shift a Week
97. Sleeping and Not Sleeping
98. Working at Home
99. The Stay-at-Home Dad
100. Working on the Road
101. Having Sex Again (with Her)
102. Dating Your Pregnant Partner Again
103. Your Tip and Story Go Here
Expectant Dad's Dictionary
About the Author

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

"Pregnancy books are usually aimed at women, obviously, though there are a few notable exceptions, like Christopher Healy's Pop Culture: The Sane Man's Guide to the Insane World of New Fatherhood and Dad's Pregnant, Too by Harlan Cohen." - Boston Globe Parenting Blog

"The book is not a manual, but it is a guide for dads to be and the book's light-hearted nature will keep a smile on your face from start to finish!" - Dad of Divas Blog

"This book answers so many of the questions that dads have in a straightforward, matter of fact way. In every chapter, there is a tip, a story, and the bottom line." - Empowering Mommy Blog

"Dad's Pregnant Too is a great read for any dad to be! This is the season for baby showers (I have at least two!) and would be a great gift for the Dad to be so he can feel included!" - Mami's Time Out

"Comic and comprehensive, DPT offers useful information with lots of humor - so it will probably stick. A great gift book for any expectant dad - especially first time - but even the 7th, 8th, 9th and beyond" - The Mommy Life

"A must-read, step-by-step guide for dads-to-be...provides a realistic picture of what expectant fathers will see, hear, feel and touch." - New York Post

"While it may not be a good title for an expectant mother or female audience, it is about time we have a book all to ourselves and Cohen gives a great effort to make fathers a better equipped part of the pregnancy process." - The Father Life

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