Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

by Harriet Lerner
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ISBN-10:
006091565X
ISBN-13:
9780060915650
Pub. Date:
08/01/1989
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
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Overview

Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this ngaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780060915650
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 08/01/1989
Series: Perennial Library Series
Edition description: Reissue
Pages: 256
Product dimensions: 5.37(w) x 8.04(h) x 0.67(d)

Table of Contents

Prefaceix
Acknowledgmentsxiii
1The Challenge of Anger1
2Old Moves, New Moves, and Countermoves17
3Circular Dances in Couples: When Getting Angry Is Getting Nowhere41
4Anger at our Impossible Mothers: The Story of Maggie67
5Using Anger as a Guide: The Road to a Clearer Self88
6Up and Down the Generations: Katy and Her Aging Father108
7Who's Responsible for What: The Trickiest Anger Question122
8Thinking in Threes: Stepping Out of Family Triangles154
9Tasks for the Daring and Courageous189
Epilogue: Beyond Self-Help222
Notes225
Index233

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Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book many years ago when it was recommended by a therapist. I immediately knew it was going to help me. I read it again and again thru the years....sometimes start to finish....sometimes sections I knew I needed that day. I recommend it to everyone. The simplest yet most difficult truth to absorb....you can only change yourself!
juliecr More than 1 year ago
I have read this book and listened to it on tape a number of times. I recommend it to my clients, and not just women. It is very helpful in negotiating difficulties with relationships and difficult relationships. Lerner provides insight and helpful steps to hold on to yourself while keeping the relationship intact.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book changed my life. I have a grasp on how to respond to negative people. I don't engage in the dance of argument. I just say "I" know that you are upset, but "I" don't like it when to speak to me that way. They don't know what to say back and "I" have difused the argument. Once you learn how to put "I" first, then you are ahead of the argument. Try it. It really worked for me.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was fabulous and it is great one of showing of we women fell into a dance pattern and never get what we want - without realizing that we can ultimately control the dance by changing the steps and better for us longterm
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this book my senior year of high school (about 6 years ago) an it really helped me be a better girlfriend, daughter, and sister. I even used it as a reference in a communications class the following year. I was constantly lashing out at the people I loved most (not my acquaintances) and saying what I said just to hurt them, not to prove a point. Now I feel like I can better deal with my emotions and help the people I love instead of hurting them with words or silence. It doesn't tell you to bury the hurt but instead express it to your person in a more healthy way. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to develop a healthy pattern of expressing hurt in their most important relationships.
jowejr More than 1 year ago
Don't let the title fool you. While this book may be written from a woman's perspective, it contains some very insightful material regardless of who you are. I am a mature male adult who was raised by a strong independent single parent - my mother. Perhaps that is the reason why I personally identified with most of the content contained in "The Dance of Anger". In any event, I would honestly say that this book has made a positive impact on my life and that I am looking forward to reading it again.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book really hit home for me. It's almost as if this book was written just for me. I read the book straight through - I couldn't put it down. I have learned so much about myself and how I deal with anger. This is a must-read book for every woman!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was first published in 1985. I read it First in the 80s and now just recently read it Again. It is a great book...for men and women It is great to see ur pattern of anger and Learn to develop healthier ways to handle Ur responses. A must read for women And men.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is right on..........excellent read and extremely helpful.
Chapulina More than 1 year ago
This is one of those books everyone should read.... men included! I am looking forward to practice what I learned, I'm sure it will be very helpful. Don't miss it!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book works for men also. This book was invaluable for me as I am a male in a long term relationship who has allowed himself to be dominated by a female. Then I read The Art of Love by Erich Fromm, and oh boy, what a difference two books can make.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I found this book quite good... did open my eyes to myself and family connections.
monroe More than 1 year ago
This book does not offer any further insight into understanding anger and how it affects relationships than what has already been written and widely circulated for years. It was an okay read, but no new information was garnered from it.
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This book was recommended by a healthcare professional. VERY helpful...
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