Dare to Grow Up: Learn to Become Who You Are Meant to Be

by Paul Dunion

Overview

People often think that maturity is something that you gain over the years, that by simply living long enough, you’ll end up a mature person. But it’s an achievement, one that not only takes time, of course, but effort and courage as well. Paul Dunion compares this process of growing up to the cultivation of crops: “Some seed can simply be tossed about and regardless of light, water and nutrients, this seed will prevail and come of age,” he says. “The rest of us resemble the seed in need of stewardship, where attention needs to be paid to weeding, watering and enriching the ground that holds us.” Dare to Grow Up offers a unique study into the psychology and culture surrounding maturity, from personal shortcomings that stunt growth to wider societal attitudes that limit the discovery of our true selves. If you are willing to open your mind to the mysteries of life and enrich your life with all that the world has to offer, you can begin to discover who you were meant to become.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780910155878
Publisher:	Bartleby Press
Publication date:	04/12/2016
Pages:	318
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Paul Dunion is a teacher, author, and transformational coach committed to remaining mindful of life as a mysterious and unpredictable journey. He offers consultations, transformational coaching, and seminars internationally aimed at deepening our capacity to receive the mystery of life and to travel our unique path.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Foreword Thomas Moore xi

Introduction 1

The Lost Art of Maturing 3

Mentors, Ritual and Community

Cultural Interference 25

A New Cosmology

Leaving Home

Anatomy of a Boundary 43

How Do Boundaries Work?

Three Types of Boundaries

Quality of a Boundary

Finding Our Love

Receiving Boundaries

Self-Loyalty 77

Faithfulness and Devotion

Self-Betrayal

Creating Self-Loyalty

Discernment and Boldness

A Proper Time for Power 115

The Nature of Personal Power

The Anatomy of Abuse

Abuses of Power

Abdication of Power

The Challenge

Personal Power and Autonomy

Moving Out of Victim Stories

Death of the Inflated Heroic

A Sacred Reference Point

Time for Healing 161

The Wound

Resistance

Feeling Vulnerable

The Medicine

The Wounds Gift

Wounding and Healing as Initiatory

The Many Faces of Healing

Forged by Intimacy 209

Emotional Intimacy

What It Isn't

What Is It?

A Cornucopia of Proper Times

Can There Be Too Much Diversity?

Emotional Generosity

Wind and Breath 245

Three Faces of Spiritual Immaturity

Spiritual Food

Betrothed to Life

The Novice Mystic

Initiated by Life

Life Offers Initiation

Fate's Assistance May Not Be Obvious

Calls to Spirit 273

Abdication of Power or Victimization

The Adventurous Life

Seeking Faces of the Self

Circling Back