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How does one live out being a 'wise woman" This guide gives feet to the life-changing message of Becoming a Woman Who Pleases God. The authors have included practical ideas for personal growth based on Scripture's instruction to 'be wise'. This guide will challenge women to delve deep into the wonders and blessings of being a woman who pleases God.
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About the Author
LISA TATLOCK (B.S. Christian Heritage College; M.S., University of Nevada-Reno; Ed.D., Nova Southeastern University) is an associate professor of Home Economics at The Master¿s College in Santa Clarita, California. She has taught at the college level since 1988. Lisa is co-author of Becoming a Woman Who Pleases God: A Guide to Developing Your Biblical Potential and Designing a Lifestyle that Pleases God: A Practical Guide. During her childhood she lived in places as varied as Japan and Tasmania. In addition to her teaching responsibilities, Lisa is a full-time mother to two young boys. She enjoys historic costume and clothing design. She and her husband, Mark, live with their children in Valencia, California.
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Designing a Lifestyle that Pleases God
A Practical Guide
By Patricia A. Ennis, Lisa Tatlock
Moody PublishersCopyright © 2004 Patricia A. Ennis and Lisa Tatlock
All rights reserved.
THE WISE WOMAN'S LIFESTYLE REFLECTS HER HEAVENLY HERITAGE
Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness." GENESIS 1:26
As we begin this chapter, let me ask you a question—"Are you a Christian woman or a woman who is a Christian?" On the surface, both appear to be identical. However, it is one thing to describe yourself as a Christian, and it is another thing to be one through and through. A woman can call herself Christian but not really live according to scriptural guidelines and be transformed by the Spirit of God. She may be theologically sound but practically inept; and as James teaches, Christians are to, "prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves" (James 1:22). The second portion of the question describes the woman who, by her lifestyle, clearly demonstrates that her values and character align with the Word of God. Let's take a look at what God's Word says as you consider your response to my question!
A SNAPSHOT OF THE WISE WOMAN
The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands. PROVERBS 14:1
In the first chapter of Becoming a Woman Who Pleases God we introduced the woman whose lifestyle, values, and character align with the Word of God. We established that Proverbs 31:10–31 paints a word portrait of the character of the woman who is a Christian. We twenty-first-century women are challenged to follow her example. The immutability of God is in question if Proverbs 31:10–31 is not relevant. We looked at the six attributes of God that provide a solid foundation for our study of Scripture:
God's life does not change.
God's character does not change.
God's truth does not change.
God's ways do not change.
God's purposes do not change.
God's SON does not change.
Since God is immutable, a Wise Woman cultivates a lifestyle that reflects that she believes His principles are essentially the same realities for twenty-first-century Christians as they were for those of the Old and New Testaments. We learned that the description of the Wise Woman of Proverbs 31:10–31 is not designed to develop an inferiority complex within us—rather it provides a biblical foundation for the creation of principles by which we, as Wise Women in progress, prioritize our lives. We then examined eleven characteristics of Wise Women—Virtuous, Trustworthy, Energetic, Physically Fit, Economical, Unselfish, Honorable, Lovable, Prepared, Prudent, and God-fearing. Let's take a moment to reflect on the heart of these principles:
Virtuous (31:10) describes an inner quality that instinctively demands respect. Moral excellence characterizes all of this woman's behavior (Ruth 3:11).
Trustworthy (31:11–12) is indicative of the ability to keep another's confidence. Our Wise Woman's speech is encouraging, sympathetic, and tactful (Proverbs 25:11). Her love of the Lord is evident (John 14:15), and dependability is exhibited in her lifestyle (Proverbs 25:13).
Energetic (31:13–16, 19, 24, 27) suggests that our Wise Woman is a worker and not a shirker (Proverbs 10:4). Her Christianity is practical (James 1:17); she enjoys her work (John 4:36), and attacks it with a cheery attitude (Colossians 3:17).
Physically Fit (31:17) reminds us that to perform our duties efficiently we must be healthy. As Wise Women in progress we seek to understand our personal limitations and then work within them (1 Corinthians 6:19).
Economical (31:18) challenges our wise woman to refrain from wasting time, money, fuel, or any other resource. She operates her home on a budget (a plan for spending) and at the end of the month there is not "too much month left at the end of the money."
Unselfish (31:20) depicts her willingness to share her most valuable asset—her time—with others. Practically speaking, a Wise Woman is not so busy with her own affairs that she can't lend a helping hand to others. Her words bring comfort, hope, cheer, and, when necessary, correction to those who touch her life (Galatians 6:10).
Honorable (31:25) characterizes her choice to "abstain from every form of evil" (1 Thessalonians 5:22). She dresses modestly and understands the importance of maintaining a reputation of integrity (Proverbs 22:1).
Lovable (31:28–29) embodies the consistency of her lifestyle. She enjoys relationships that have depth because she seeks to sharpen her friends spiritually and intellectually (Proverbs 27:17).
Prepared (31:21–22) includes our Wise Woman's ability to cope with unforeseen circumstances with confidence (Philippians 4:13).
Prudent (31:26) implies that our Wise Woman is practically wise and careful of the consequences; that is, she is cautious. As she speaks she has the ability to be firm, yet kind (Proverbs 27:9).
God-fearing (31:30) suggests that her actions and lifestyle consistently reflect that she stands in awe of the Lord (Proverbs 1:7) and loves Him with all of her heart (Matthew 22:37).
We then examined Proverbs 31:31 which describes the reward of cultivating the eleven principles. The Wise Woman receives her rewards "in the gates," which refers to the public assembly of people; she is often rewarded in this life and always in the hereafter (1 Corinthians 3:10–15; 4:1–21; 5:10; Revelation 22:12).
"Jesus said, 'You were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things'" (Matthew 25:21 NKJV). He meant that a person who is faithful in serving the Lord here would be rewarded with an honored position in His millennial kingdom. Our Wise Woman lives in such a way that Jesus' words in Matthew 25:21 characterize her daily life.
THE WISE WOMAN PURSUES WISDOM
The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; And with all your acquiring, get understanding. PROVERBS 4:7
Becoming a Wise Woman was the theme of Becoming a Woman Who Pleases God, as it is in this volume. The book of Proverbs reminds us repeatedly that if we choose to live wisely, our lives can be rich and abundant now, as they will be forever in eternity. First Kings 3:3–15 describes a prayer of Solomon's which serves as a model for all Wise Women in progress:
1. Solomon loved the Lord and walked in the statutes of his father, David (3:3).
2. He was privileged to experience a unique, two-way conversation with the Lord (3:5).
3. He viewed his succession to David as evidence of the Lord's faithfulness to His promises to his father (3:6).
4. He humbly admitted his inadequate qualifications for the position the Lord asked him to assume (3:7).
5. He petitioned the Lord for an understanding heart to judge His people (3:9).
6. He received what he did not ask for (riches and honor) because he sought God's wisdom first (3:13).
Application of Solomon's prayer for twenty-first-century women may include:
1. Loving the Lord completely (Mark 12:30).
2. Communing with God through prayer (Philippians 4:6–7; 1 Thessalonians 5:17).
3. Believing that her heavenly Father will complete the good work He has begun in her (Philippians 1:6).
4. Understanding that she can only complete her Father's work through His strength (Philippians 4:13).
5. Seeking the Lord's wisdom rather than relying on her knowledge and experiences (James 1:5).
6. Trusting that God's ways are best (Proverbs 3:5–6).
While embracing the positive attributes exhibited by Solomon, our Wise Woman will be careful to avoid the fatal errors that were a part of his character. Though he walked in the statutes of his father and loved the Lord, his choice to continually worship at the high places demonstrated that he failed to follow Him completely (1 Kings 3:3). As well, he chose to live life on his own terms rather than personally applying the truth. A Wise Woman identifies the "high places" in her life, and she seeks, through God's strength, to "utterly destroy" them (Deuteronomy 12:1–7). She purposes to skillfully apply biblical truth to practical living (James 4:17).
THE WISE WOMAN IS GRACIOUS
A gracious woman attains honor. PROVERBS 11:16
Gracious is a word that we don't hear very often anymore. Biblically, the word gracious describes one who has a kind disposition and shows favor and mercy to another. For example, Boaz showed favor to Ruth (Ruth 2:10), and King Ahasureus' treated Esther graciously (Esther 2:17; 5:2). It is worth mentioning that these women treated these men with kindness and gentleness from the start, which in turn led to favor being bestowed upon them. Practically speaking, a gracious woman will be pleasant, kind, merciful, compassionate, and characterized by good taste.
Our heavenly Father sets the model for graciousness toward others in Exodus 34:6: "The Lord, the Lord God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth." Psalm 86:15 (NKJV) portrays God as "full of compassion, and gracious, longsuffering and abundant in mercy and truth." Psalm 103:8 (NKJV) declares, "The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy," and Psalm 145:8 (NKJV) affirms, "The Lord is gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and great in mercy."
The book of Proverbs provides several strategies for the integration of graciousness into the Wise Woman's life. She extends graciousness to the poor and needy (Proverbs 14:21, 31; 19:17), speaks graciously (Proverbs 22:11), and exemplifies graciousness in her behavior (Proverbs 11:6). John MacArthur's analysis of Proverbs 11:16 suggests, "While evil men may grasp at wealth, they will never attain the honor due a gracious woman." Elizabeth George assists us in understanding the characteristics of a gracious tongue:
Suppose you were in the presence of a woman who was thinking about God and enjoying sweet communion with Him as her thoughts ascended to His throne in prayer, who was continually absorbed in some portion of God's Holy Word, who was perhaps humming a hymn of praise to God. If you began to talk to one another, what do you imagine would come out of her mouth?
I think you can safely answer something like this: You would hear words of blessing, words filled with graciousness and sweetness from such a woman. Tumbling forth from her lips would be soothing, healing words of comfort or uplifting encouragement, whichever was appropriate. Certainly you would witness words of mercy, concern, and compassion.
The adjective gracious is found five times in the New Testament. The noun grace is used some 155 times, usually to describe what God did for us in Christ (Romans 5:2, 15, 17; 1 Corinthians 15:10, and Ephesians 1:20). The five instances of gracious provide a challenge for our Wise Woman and are worth taking a look at:
Luke 4:22 reports that all who heard Jesus speak in the synagogue wondered at the gracious words that proceeded from His mouth.
Luke 7:42 describes the gracious forgiveness of the moneylender to his two debtors.
Romans 11:5 explains that because of God's gracious choice a remnant of Israel would come to faith in Him.
Second Corinthians 8:6–7 refers to the gracious Macedonians' work of giving and urges that the Corinthians' giving align with them.
Second Corinthians 8:19 refers to the Corinthians' gracious work of giving that was urged in 2 Corinthians 8:6–7.
Practical application of these verses finds our Wise Woman:
always seeking to speak graciously,
completely forgiving the wrongs of others,
willingly sharing her faith,
practicing generosity, and
prayerfully considering others' urging of her generosity.
Recently one of our Home Economics graduates married the son of one of our seminary professors. The wedding ceremony was held in Georgia, the home state of the bride. Since the bride and groom reside in California, the groom's parents hosted a dinner reception in their California home several weeks later.
Since I know the groom's mother, Karen, I offered to help with the serving and cleanup of the reception. The gracious spirit Karen exemplified as she executed the lovely occasion blessed me. Her choices that serve as a model to all women desiring to be gracious hostesses include:
She was willing to allow others to help. So many women have such a "Martha" complex that they are unwilling to allow others to share in the labor of an event. Working together is often what builds strong relationships.
She had written instructions and diagrams that eliminated the need to interrupt her when she needed to be with her guests.
Once she gave an instruction, she allowed her helpers to follow through on the task without hovering over them.
She was careful to express her gratitude.
The Wise Woman will be excited about integrating graciousness in her own life, as well as training others to follow her role model.
THE WISE WOMAN'S WALK
Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. EPHESIANS 5:15–16
Our study of the Wise Woman teaches us a significant character quality. Her heart is open to learning from the wisdom and experience of others. Biblical wisdom "is both religious and practical. Stemming from the fear of the Lord (Job 28:28; Psalm 111:10; Proverbs 1:7; 9:10), it branches out to touch all of life, as the extended commentary on wisdom in Proverbs indicates." Wisdom takes insights gleaned from the knowledge of God's Word and applies it to one's daily walk. We know the Scriptures provide the basis for possessing a teachable heart (Proverbs 2:10–11), and we are reminded of Paul's teaching in 1 Corinthians 10:6 (NKJV)that "now these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they [the Israelites] also lusted." Solomon's admonition that "fools despise wisdom and instruction" is a serious warning to us (Proverbs 1:7 NKJV). However, once we are convinced that we need to seriously consider the wisdom of mature saints, our next step is to examine our daily walk. We will use an acrostic for the word Christian to look at day-to-day living:
C would of course stand for Christ. Women who ponder the answer to this question have learned about Him in their churches, Bible studies, and personal devotions. They know how to achieve salvation (Romans 3:10, 23; 5:8, 12; 6:23; 10:9, 10, 13). The significance of this part of the question is, does she just know about Christ, or does she know Him as her Lord and Savior (Matthew 7:13–23)?
H reminds us to be holy as God is holy (Leviticus 20:7). Do we fill our minds with thoughts that will challenge us to live a holy lifestyle (Philippians 4:8–9)?
R stands for reputation. People remember us by the things that we do. Throughout the Bible, Rahab was known as "Rahab the harlot" (Joshua 2:1; 6:22; Hebrews 11:31; James 2:25); though her lifestyle changed, her reputation followed her. Do I purpose to cultivate a reputation that invites others to imitate me as I imitate Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1)?
I focuses on integrity, a word that basically means that I choose to do what is right when given a choice between right and wrong. Those with integrity are allowed to dwell with the Lord (Psalm 15:2). Am I a person of integrity?
S stands for the Scriptures, God's Word, that has all of the answers to all of life's questions. However, they only answer the questions if they are diligently searched (John 5:39). Study of passages like Psalm 119 reveals all that God's Word will do for me. Do I live like I believe it?
T focuses our thoughts on our theme verses of Titus 2:4–5 (NKJV), where the older women are told to "admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed." This passage implies that a young woman ought to learn how to manage her time and family finances, cook nutritious meals, practice hospitality, joyfully submit to her husband, and raise her children in the "training and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4 NKJV) so that the Word of God will not be discredited. Am I willing to learn these skills and then teach others?
I directs the Wise Woman to inquire, in other words, to ask. Matthew 7:7–8 are two of the many verses that tell us that if we ask, our Lord will respond. Do I ask with a humble heart that is truly desirous of my heavenly Father's will?
A represents a challenge to abstain. Simply stated, abstain tells the Wise Woman to stay away from anything that could possibly not be good for her. First Thessalonians 5:22 is a short but potent verse that basically says anything that is unbiblical should be shunned! Do I abstain from every form of evil?
N reminds the Wise Woman that NOTHING is impossible when we trust our God. Proverbs 3:5–6 instructs us to place our trust in the Lord and not our own understanding—then our paths will be straight. Philippians 4:13 is a reminder that, through Christ, we can do all things. Do I trust God or lean on my own understanding?
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Table of ContentsTABLE OF CONTENTS
One: The Wise Woman's Lifestyle Reflects Her Heavenly Heritage
Two: The Wise Woman Understands and Applies
Three: The Wise Woman Embraces Submission
Four: The Wise Woman Visualizes Her Profession as a High Calling
Five: The Wise Woman Manages Motherhood with Excellence
Six: The Wise Woman Implements Stewardship
Seven: The Wise Woman Cultivates a Hostess' Heart
Eight: The Wise Woman Creates a Beautiful Home
Nine: The Wise Woman Dresses with Discernment
Ten: The Wise Woman Exemplifies Spiritual and Physical Beauty
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