An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters.
Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult motherthe angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful motherand explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.
|Publisher:||Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.80(d)|
About the Author
Terri Apter is a writer, psychologist, and retired Fellow of Newnham College, Cambridge. Her nine books include The Sister Knot and What Do You Want from Me? She lives in Cambridge, England.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Difficult Mothers: Common Patterns 1
Chapter 2 The Science Behind a Mother's Power 23
Chapter 3 The Angry Mother 43
Chapter 4 The Controlling Mother 75
Chapter 5 The Narcissistic Mother 93
Chapter 6 The Envious Mother 115
Chapter 7 The Emotionally Unavailable Mother 133
Chapter 8 Am I a Difficult Mother? 161
Chapter 9 Resilience: Overcoming a Difficult Mother's Power 187
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The most intelligent and lucid account I’ve read of human psychology.