Lemon moves from a lifetime in California to live platonically with a 24-year-old female college student.
He takes us with him on his journey to uncover his role in the destruction of his three marriages. With brutal honesty, courage and insight he uncovers and exposes his conduct and attitudes about women and marriage that had been profoundly influenced by his place on the cusp between the moralistic generation of the 1940's and the next generation that embraced sex, drugs and rock 'n roll and greater independence and equality for women. Deeply troubled by his career choice as a corporate lawyer, he nevertheless, used it for years to avoid his marital issues.Lemon's story will guide you in resolving your own relationship problems.
What Other Published Authors Have Said About Digging Deep:
"...written with brutal honesty about the process of coming to understand himself and the failure of his marriages [and] provides insight into the...excesses of the seventies. A compelling read."
-Jervey Tervalon, best selling author of Dead Above Ground.
"...takes us through his years of brutal self-deception with gentle honesty and even a sense of humor...a narrator ready to own his, and his generation's, issues."
-Miriam Hall, writing teacher and author of At Home Here and Dreams of Movement.
"...a record of an "examined" life and he shows us a way to examine our own lives more deeply. His search for understanding of human foibles reflects our own half-truths, denials and glaring flaws. Lemon leads us where most of us fear to go."
-Sonja Lillvik, author of The Painted Fish and Other Mayan Feasts.
"His digging hits gold...[So]many were just like Boyd Lemon - or the women he married. It is painful. It is personal. But nothing about it is trite because it is the truth."
-Leigh Somerville McMillan, author of It All Started with a Dog.
Lemon left Boston and is traveling and writing in Europe. He plans to make Portland, Oregon his home when he returns to the United States.
|Publisher:||Outskirts Press, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||0.70(w) x 6.00(h) x 9.00(d)|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
“Digging Deep: A Writer Uncovers His Marriages” by Boyd Lemon is an autobiographical book about Mr. Lemon’s three marriages and the role he played in his three divorces. The author is brutally honest when looking at himself and the people in his lives, sometimes to the point of making the reader uncomfortable with such honesty. Mr. Lemon, through writing, was able to finally face the issues that made him behave the way he did. He writes switching from the past to the present in a style that feels like the reader is right there with him when he makes these discoveries. “Maybe writing about it will provide the answer. I write many times about my conduct and try to come with an answer. What rings most true is somewhat different with each wife… I didn't want to face the hard questions, such as why I didn’t pay attention to her or give her the respect and affection she needed. Still I think there is more. I’ll keep digging and writing.” He is also very upfront about his drinking problems. A lot of readers will probably see themselves when they read either about the relationship issues or the drinking problems and it may make them stop and take a look at their own lives and see what is working and what is not working. The book is definitely for adults. There are a lot of detailed sexual experiences described throughout the book. Mr. Lemon talks about his parents and how they shaped his decisions, his work life, his marriages, and his children. Anyone who is thinking about marrying should read this book first so they can perhaps see what baggage they are potentially taking into the marriage and that the ability to communicate with your partner is key to making any marriage successful. Mr. Lemon has a very compelling style of writing that keeps the reader engaged throughout the entire book. It is obvious that this book was the best therapy for Mr. Lemon and that he hopes that it can be therapeutically helpful for others. It encourages the reader to look deeply into themselves, an area most people prefer to ignore. I can see it being used in couples counseling to help the therapist help couples look more honestly at their lives and why they make the decisions they do. I enjoyed this book and I hope that Mr. Lemon will continue with his writing. He has a lot to offer and I feel that he probably still has a lot of stories to tell. **This book was received for free through Goodreads First Reads. That in no way influenced my review.**
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I just felt like I needed to take the time to post the following review on a lot of different sites because of how amazingly written Boyd's book is. I've been having a lot of issues in my relationships for the past several years, and I just couldn't figure out why every relationship that I had seemed to crumble. It wasn't only confusing me, it was absolutely heartbreaking to have it happen repeatedly. Blame was shifted, arguments seemed to occur every day, and for the longest time, I really felt like I was alone in feeling this way. Boyd's memoir struck a chord with me on so many levels! Many of the experiences that he writes about hit close to home. I began to realize more about my life and how to make it better than I thought possible, all from his book. It made me think - about the reasons why my relationships fell apart. Events, thoughts, and philosophy that Boyd writes about is trenchant, to say the least. The disturbing account of finding his young daughter, Lisa, malnourished and with matted hair after an alarming phone call from an ex-wife's ex-boyfriend, made my stomach twist a little. As someone who has witnessed similar events happen to friends, the realism in which Boyd Lemon talks about the event is quite shocking. Even more compelling were Boyd's ruminations about what might have happened if he had put some effort into creating a loving home for his children. Readers who are looking for an "A-ha!" moment in their love lives need to read this book. If you're a parent who is knee deep in work, pick up a copy. You'll be surprised at how much Boyd Lemon's book will reveal to you about yourself. Personally, I'm extremely glad that I read it.