Disciplines of a Godly Young Man

Disciplines of a Godly Young Man

by R. Kent Hughes, Carey Hughes

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ISBN-13: 9781433526022
Publisher: Crossway
Publication date: 01/28/2012
Pages: 192
Sales rank: 265,730
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

R. Kent Hughes (DMin, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School) is senior pastor emeritus of College Church in Wheaton, Illinois, and professor of practical theology at Westminster Theological Seminary in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Hughes is also a founder of the Charles Simeon Trust, which conducts expository preaching conferences throughout North America and worldwide. He serves as the series editor for the Preaching the Word commentary series and is the author or coauthor of many books. He and his wife, Barbara, live in Wyncote, Pennsylvania, and have four children and an ever-increasing number of grandchildren.

Carey Hughes(MTh, Moore College, Sydney) is senior pastor of Christ the Redeemer Church in Spokane, Washington, and former Junior High director at College Church in Wheaton.

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CHAPTER 1

DISCIPLINE IS EVERYTHING!

Those who watched Mike Singletary (perennial All-Pro, two-time NFL Defensive Player of the Year, member of the Super Bowl XX Dream Team, and former head coach of the San Francisco 49ers) "play" — and observed his wide-eyed intensity and his churning, crunching samurai hits — are usually surprised when they meet him. He is not an imposing hulk. He is 6 feet tall and weighs maybe 220 pounds. Why the greatness? The answer is: intense, purposeful discipline! Mike Singletary is as disciplined a student of the game as any who have ever played it.

In his autobiography, Calling the Shots, Coach Singletary says that in watching game films he would often run a single play fifty to sixty times, and that it took him three hours to watch half a football game, which is only twenty to thirty plays! Because he watched every player, because he mentally knew the opposition's tendency — given the down, distance, hash mark, and time remaining, because he read the opposition's mind through their stances, he was often moving toward the ball's preplanned destination before the play developed. Mike Singletary's legendary success is testimony to his remarkably disciplined life.

INGLORIOUS DISCIPLINE

Discipline is the difference in the sports world. Tiger Woods (prior to his moral failure) was, by all estimates, the greatest golfer of the last decade — and those who have watched clips of him juggling a golf ball on the head of a driver and then driving the ball from midair straight down the fairway for 200 yards are in awed agreement. But this playful stunt was only the tip of a massive iceberg of lifelong discipline which began at the age of three — the discipline of a man so focused that he once refused to leave a practice hole until a dozen of his drives rested on a white towel on the distant green. The legendary Jack Nicklaus, the most successful golfer of all time, once quipped, "The more I practice, the luckier I get." Michael Phelps's eight (yes, you read it correctly — eight!) gold medals at the 2009 Olympics in Beijing were the result of thousands of hours and miles in the pool of disciplined — boredom. The glory of a Kobe Bryant three-point shot that wins a basketball game at the buzzer is the apex of a life of inglorious discipline!

Matthew Sayed, in his international bestseller Bounce: Mozart, Federer, Picasso, Beckham, and the Science of Success, observes that British superstar David Beckham's trademark free kick — his "bend it like Beckham" trajectory — began when, as a boy, he would take his soccer ball to an East London park and kick the ball from the same spot for hours on end, perfecting the topspin that gave his kick its devastating dip. "My secret is practice. I have always believed that if you want to achieve anything special in life you have to work, work, and then work some more." Canadian icon Wayne Gretsky, regarded as the greatest ice hockey player ever, became what he is because early on he disciplined both his mind and his body for the rough-and-tumble game. As a boy he systematically charted the angles of the ricocheting puck so that he came to anticipate what was going to happen on the ice better than any player in the game. The "Great Gretsky" was there when the puck arrived. Listen to how Gretsky describes himself: "I wasn't naturally gifted in terms of size and speed; everything I did in hockey I worked for." And then later, "The highest compliment that you can pay me is to say that I worked hard every day. ... That's how I came to know where the puck was going before it even got there."

You may have read in school that the famous writer Ernest Hemingway was a boozy, undisciplined genius who downed a quart of whiskey a day for the last twenty years of his life but, nevertheless, had the literary "gift." He was indeed an alcoholic driven by complex passions. But when it came to his gift for writing, he was the essence of discipline! His early writing was characterized by obsessive perfectionism as he labored to develop his compact style, spending hours polishing a sentence or searching for just the right word. It is a well- known fact that he rewrote the conclusion to A Farewell to Arms seventeen times in an effort to get it right. Even toward the end, when Hemingway was reaping the ravages of his lifestyle, he daily stood before an improvised desk from 6:30 a.m. until noon every day, carefully marking his production for the day on a chart. His average was only two pages — five hundred words. It was discipline, Ernest Hemingway's massive literary discipline, his painstaking economy of words, that transformed the way people throughout the English-speaking world expressed themselves.

Michelangelo's, da Vinci's, and Tintoretto's multitudes of sketches, the quantitative discipline of their work, prepared the way for the astonishing quality of their work. We wonder at the anatomical perfection of a da Vinci painting, but we forget that Leonardo da Vinci on occasion drew a thousand hands. Michelangelo said it for all: "If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery it would not seem so wonderful at all." In the last century, Matisse explained his own mastery, remarking that the difficulty with many who wanted to be artists is that they spent their time chasing models rather than painting them. Again the discipline factor!

Winston Churchill was rightly proclaimed the speaker of the century, and few who have heard his eloquent speeches would disagree. Still fewer would suspect he was anything but a "natural." But the truth is that Churchill had a distracting lisp which made him the butt of many jokes and resulted in his inability to be spontaneous in public speaking. Yet he became famous for his speeches and his seemingly impromptu remarks.

Actually, Churchill wrote everything out and practiced it! He even choreographed the pauses and pretended the fumblings for the right phrase. The margins of his manuscripts carried notes anticipating the "cheers," "hear, hears," prolonged cheering, and even standing ovations. This done, he practiced endlessly in front of mirrors, fashioning his retorts and facial expressions. F. E. Smith said, "Winston has spent the best years of his life writing impromptu speeches." A natural? Perhaps. A naturally disciplined hard-working man!

And so it goes, whatever the area of life.

Thomas Edison came up with the incandescent light after a thousand failures.

Ever tried.

Ever failed.

No matter.

Try again.

Fail again.

Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

Mozart chocked up thirty-five hundred hours of practice before his sixth birthday. He had practiced ten thousand hours by his teens. A prodigy? Not at all! Mozart's brief thirty-five years of life reveal him to be among the hardest-working composers in history. Jascha Heifetz, the greatest violinist of the twentieth century, began playing the violin at the age of three and soon began to practice four hours a day until his death at age seventy-five — when he had long been the greatest in the world — having accumulated some one hundred two thousand hours of practice.

We will never get anywhere in life without discipline, be it in the arts, trades, business, athletics, or academics. Whatever your particular thing is, whether it is swimming or football or soccer or basketball or tennis or surfing or mountain climbing or bull riding or motocross or chess or math or computer science or the guitar or the sitar or writing or poetry or painting — whatever it is — you will never get anywhere without inglorious discipline.

This is doubly so in spiritual matters. In other areas we may be able to claim some natural advantage. An athlete may be born with a strong body, a musician with perfect pitch, or an artist with an eye for perspective. But none of us can claim a natural spiritual advantage. In reality, we are all equally disadvantaged. None of us naturally seeks after God.

As the apostle Paul said, "None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God. All have turned aside; together they have become worthless; no one does good, not even one" (Rom. 3:10–12). Therefore, as children of grace, our spiritual discipline is everything — everything! We repeat: discipline is everything in the Christian life.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

This Food for Thought heading will appear at the end of each chapter of this book, and under it we will list several thought-provoking questions to further your thinking and discussion. But here, at the end of the first chapter, we have decided not to include such questions but, rather, to ask you to do two things that will help you to benefit from the strong teaching that follows. First, take some time at the end of this section to pray that God will use each of these hard-hitting chapters in your life. If you are using this book for a study group, take some time to pray for each other. God delights to hear men pray such prayers — and delights to answer them.

Second, commit yourself to memorizing the saying of 1 Timothy 4:7–9, which is the greatest text in the Bible on spiritual discipline, "Train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance." This über trustworthy saying underlies every chapter of this book, and if you will take the time to store it in your memory, you will find the Holy Spirit working its truth out in your life.

So, before going on to the next chapter, take a few moments to begin memorizing the forty-two words of this text, and then spend some time by yourself or with your group praying that God will make you a disciplined, godly man.

APPLICATION/RESPONSE

What did God speak to you about most specifically, most powerfully in this chapter? Talk to him about it right now!

CHAPTER 2

DISCIPLINE FOR GODLINESS

As we saw in the preceding chapter, whatever your field (you name it!), you will never get anywhere in it without discipline. And this is doubly so in spiritual matters because our sin makes us all equally disadvantaged. The fact is: discipline is everything in the Christian life.

This being so, the statement from Paul to Timothy regarding spiritual discipline in 1 Timothy 4:7 — "train yourself for godliness" — takes on not only huge importance but also personal urgency. There are other passages that teach discipline, but this is the greatest text on this subject in the Scriptures. The word "train" comes from the word gumnos, which means "naked" and is the word from which we derive our English word gymnasium. In traditional Greek athletic contests, the participants competed without clothing so as not to be encumbered. Therefore, the word "train" originally carried the literal meaning "to exercise naked." By New Testament times it referred to exercise and training in general. But even then it was, and is, a word with the smell of the gym in it — the sweat of a good workout. "Train yourselves, exercise, work out(!) for the purpose of godliness" conveys the feel of what Paul is saying.

SPIRITUAL SWEAT

In a word, Paul is calling for spiritual sweat! Just as the athletes discarded everything and competed free from all that could possibly burden them, so we must get rid of every weight, every association, every habit, and every tendency that impedes godliness. If we are to excel, then we must attain a lean spiritual nakedness. The writer of Hebrews explains it like this: "Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us" (Heb. 12:1). Men, we will never get anywhere spiritually without a conscious shedding of the things that are holding us back. What things are weighing you down? Your lusts? Your habits? Your attractions? Your fears? Your hatred? Your friends? Your girlfriend? The call of discipline demands that you throw them off. The question is: Are you man enough?

The call to train ourselves for godliness also suggests directing all of our energy toward godliness. Paul pictures this elsewhere: "Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. But I discipline my body and keep it under control" (1 Cor. 9:25–27). Intense energetic sweat! We should note that two sentences later in this context of Paul's command to "train yourself for godliness," he comments on the command saying, "for to this end we toil and strive." The "we" refers to Paul and his apostolic sidekicks. The battle-scarred, old apostle, survivor of enough hardships to break a thousand hearts, continued on to his death to train himself for godliness. "Strive" in the Greek is the word from which we get "agonize." Paul worked out, agonized, sweated for godliness.

When a man seriously trains, he willingly undergoes hours of discipline and even pain so as to win the prize — running ten thousand miles to run the mile at his best. Even more, the successful Christian life is a sweaty, sometimes agonizing affair!

No manliness, no maturity! No discipline, no discipleship! No groans, no growth! No training, no triumph!

WHY THE DISCIPLINES?

Understanding this, we now get down to the reason for this book, which is that in today's world and church, young Christian men who are disciplined are the exception, not the rule. Why? The answer is that the popular, politically correct culture of the new millennium suppresses manliness, and especially the manliness and leadership of young men who attempt to follow Christ. The reasons are several (feminism, entertainment, and legalism), and together they are daunting.

Feminism

During the 1970s, certain feminist strategists initiated the so-called "Girlhood Project" with the intent of effectively blurring, and even erasing, the distinction between males and females. According to author and social critic Barbara Defoe Whitehead, feminists called for "a new sexual standard based on traditional boyhood. In their plays and pursuits, little girls were to be made more like boys. Among cultural elites, a traditionally feminine daughter became a mild social embarrassment, while a feisty tomboy daughter became a source of pride." The "copy the boys" approach was applied to all of life: to sexuality, to speech, and even to body type with the tomboy ideal of a wiry, athletic body. Along with this, naturally active and competitive boys were penalized for their boyish behavior, while girls were lauded for ruggedness and athletic prowess.

The effect today is a culture that celebrates a female body that is sculpted, by exercise and diet, to look like that of a man and by convention to talk like a man and act like a man. Amid this cultural inversion, a rugged, assertive, and disciplined young man is deemed a threat. If a guy lifts his head to take charge in a mixed-gender situation, he is labeled as a chauvinist or a sexist pig. So, there is a generation of younger men who have been neutered and neutralized as to their natural ruggedness and willingness to undergo the disciplines that will turn them into real men. And Christian young men are particularly susceptible to being cowed by the culture, because discipline for godliness demands a particular toughness and rugged individuality in a castrating, God- denying culture.

Entertainment

The second culprit in the neutralizing of young men is the addiction to entertainment. A face front lit by the glow of a luminous screen is a study in passivity. Fleeting images, intermingled with the thousand commercials and banner ads of an average week's viewing, instill passiveness. There is no time for engagement or reflection, much less action. The viewer becomes a passive, munching, sipping drone (Webster's: a male bee that has no sting and gathers no honey). There are guys, voyeurs, who have substituted viewing for doing and imagine that they have scored a touchdown or taken a hill by virtue of having watched it — passive living legends in their own inert minds.

Sexual voyeurism is a most pathetic delusion because in it a young man's God-given testosterone (which is meant to infuse manliness) becomes a medium of enslavement and impotence. Sexual voyeurism steals a man's virility and initiative. Godly discipline becomes a receding mirage for the voyeur. And this also applies to the millions in the thrall of the gaming world (addicted to games like WoW, Half-Life, etc.) which keep young men playing games into their thirties in their Star Wars pajamas — warriors in their imaginations. Those enslaved by the world of entertainment will never attain manliness, a life disciplined for godliness — a life overseen, instructed, and energized by the Man of all men — the Lord Jesus Christ.

(Continues…)


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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Introduction

1 Discipline Is Everything! 15

2 Discipline for Godliness 21

Relationships

3 Discipline of Purity 31

4 Discipline of Friendship 43

Soul

5 Discipline of Mind, I: Refusal 55

6 Discipline of Mind, II: Filling 65

7 Discipline of Devotion 73

8 Discipline of Prayer 83

Character

9 Discipline of Tongue 99

10 Discipline of Work 109

11 Discipline of Perseverance 117

Ministry

12 Discipline of Church 129

13 Discipline of Giving 141

14 Discipline of Witness 151

15 Discipline of Ministry 161

Discipline

16 Grace of Discipline 173

Notes 181

General Index 185

Scripture Index 187

Table of Resources 191

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“For a book to keep your interest, it’s most important that it captures your heart’s yearning from the beginning. This book is relevant, theological, culturally astute, and challenging for the serious student. It is a resource for pastors and a tool for discipleship for lay leaders. It is a MUST READ.”
Steve Keels, Student Ministries Pastor for 32 years; Next Generation Pastor, Good Shepherd Community Church, Boring, Oregon; author; Truth Quest books

“This is a really uncomfortable book. I can honestly say that I read something troubling on every page. I am therefore so grateful to God for this great aid to the overriding aim of all of our lives: Christlikeness—read it and repent.”
Rico Tice, Evangelist; author, Christianity Explored

“In a male culture marked by spiritual apathy and passivity, this book serves as a clarion call to single-minded discipline, radical purity, and kingdom purpose. Weaving together biblical wisdom and memorable illustrations from history and popular culture, Disciplines of a Godly Young Man provides clear and compelling guidance on every page. I can scarcely think of a book more necessary for the emerging men of the next generation.”
David Setran, Associate Professor of Christian Formation and Ministry, Wheaton College; author, The College “Y”: Student Religion in the Era of Secularization

Discipline is not a popular word these days. But disciplined Christians are growing Christians. So if you know a young man who wants to grow up in the faith, do him a big favor and buy him this book.”
Collin Hansen, Editorial Director, The Gospel Coalition; author, Blind Spots

“Be warned. You may struggle with this book at first—not because it is hard to read, but because Kent Hughes and his son Carey Hughes show from the Bible the high benchmark that God demands of your young life. They lay it out on the table, simply and clearly, chapter by chapter, discipline by discipline, and then they invite you to live the life God requires. Of course, young Australian men will need to read their own heroes into the first chapter; but they will recognize the biblical heroes in chapter 11; and hopefully, they will recognize the love and power of the one Hero: Jesus Christ, when they read the final chapter about grace. Make sure you read this book to the end.”
Justin Moffatt, Senior Minister, St. Philip’s, York Street Anglican, Sydney, Australia

“This book is a serious wake-up call for young men who seek to follow Christ. With its straightforward tone and gospel-grounded challenges, this is a perfect introduction to the spiritual disciplines for young men who love Jesus. I look forward to reading and studying this book with our high school guys.”
Jon Nielson, Ministry Director, Christian Union, Princeton University; co-editor, Gospel-Centered Youth Ministry

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Homeschoolbookreview on LibraryThing 5 months ago
What is discipline? For many people, the first answer that comes to mind is punishing a child to correct a wrong. That¿s part of it, but there¿s so much more. The basic meaning of ¿discipline¿ is training. ¿Train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance¿ (2 Timothy 4:7-9). Based upon this passage, Disciplines of a Godly Young Man encourages young men to develop and nurture twelve different disciplines grouped in four categories in order to be godly. After a couple of introductory chapters, they are Relationships: Purity, Friendship; Soul: Mind, Devotion, Prayer; Character: Tongue, Work, Perseverance; and Ministry: Church, Giving, Witness, Ministry, followed by a concluding chapter on the ¿Grace of Discipline.¿ The theme of the book is found on pages 22-23: ¿Understanding this, we now get down to the reason for this book, which is that in today¿s world and church, young Christian men who are disciplined are the exception, not the rule. Why? The answer is that the popular, politically correct culture of the new millennium suppresses manliness, and especially the manliness and leadership of young men who attempt to follow Christ. The reasons are several (feminism, entertainment, and legalism), and together they are daunting.¿ Under ¿Purity,¿ the talk about sex is frank, though certainly not salacious, but it is very true and needed! There are some excellent comments under ¿Mind¿ about television and movies, under ¿Work¿ about the need for a spiritually disciplined work life, and under ¿Church¿ about the importance of church attendance and the benefits of worship. Also, the Hugheses have a great discussion about the difference between discipline and legalism. I will say that the use of all the sports examples, apparently cited to make the book appealing to young men in our athletic-saturated society, leaves me somewhat cold because I am totally disinterested in sports. However, I suspect that many readers will find them meaningful, and other kinds of illustrations are provided for those who are not into athletics. Depending upon their religious background, there may be a few word usages and theological concepts with which some may disagree. However, these differences are minor to the purpose of the book, and I think that Disciplines of a Godly Young Man would make a great resource for use in a ¿life curriculum¿ for a homeschooled teenage boy. R. Kent Hughes, who authored Disciplines of a Godly Man, is ¿Senior Pastor Emeritus¿ of College Church in Wheaton, IL, and his son Carey Hughes is ¿Senior Pastor¿ of Christ the Redeemer Church in Spokane, WA. Kent¿s wife Barbara wrote Disciplines of a Godly Woman, and together they produced Disciplines of a Godly Family.
JonInCA More than 1 year ago
I received a copy of the book “Disciplines of a Godly Young Man” by R. Kent Hughes and Carey Hughes. I received this book free of charge for the purpose of this review. The opinions though, are my own and aren’t changed by the fact I received it for free. I have two boys (8 and 11) and as such, good books that will help them grow into adulthood and into a relationship with Christ are always of interest to me. So when this book came in the mail I was eager to crack it open. I won’t say that I was excited, because it seems many of the books for young men are more superficial. This however is not a superficial type of book. It goes through many aspects of discipline that will be necessary for young men to grow in their relationship with Christ. And it starts off very honestly. Discipline is not easy and this book does not shy away from that fact. It gives good advice, which is hard at times but always on a good biblical foundation. For example, it talks about ridding yourself of a computer or TV if these things are causing you to drift from God. I also appreciated that it spent quite a number of pages talking about the necessity of having a “Christian mind,” that you can’t have a Christian frame of mind without regularly being in the Word. You must read, listen, understand, meditate, study, and act on scripture. Being a Christian isn’t something you can decide once and then put on a shelf. It is a dynamic growing relationship. While both of my boys are still a bit young for this book (it’s targeted at late teen, early twenties aged boys) I will certainly keep it on the shelf and waiting for them when they get older. And I’m sure it will appeal to them. It is easy to read and is very light at only about 180 pages. I highly recommend this book.
HomeSchoolBookReview More than 1 year ago
What is discipline? For many people, the first answer that comes to mind is punishing a child to correct a wrong. That’s part of it, but there’s so much more. The basic meaning of “discipline” is training. “Train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance” (2 Timothy 4:7-9). Based upon this passage, Disciplines of a Godly Young Man encourages young men to develop and nurture twelve different disciplines grouped in four categories in order to be godly. After a couple of introductory chapters, they are Relationships: Purity, Friendship; Soul: Mind, Devotion, Prayer; Character: Tongue, Work, Perseverance; and Ministry: Church, Giving, Witness, Ministry, followed by a concluding chapter on the “Grace of Discipline.” The theme of the book is found on pages 22-23: “Understanding this, we now get down to the reason for this book, which is that in today’s world and church, young Christian men who are disciplined are the exception, not the rule. Why? The answer is that the popular, politically correct culture of the new millennium suppresses manliness, and especially the manliness and leadership of young men who attempt to follow Christ. The reasons are several (feminism, entertainment, and legalism), and together they are daunting.” Under “Purity,” the talk about sex is frank, though certainly not salacious, but it is very true and needed! There are some excellent comments under “Mind” about television and movies, under “Work” about the need for a spiritually disciplined work life, and under “Church” about the importance of church attendance and the benefits of worship. Also, the Hugheses have a great discussion about the difference between discipline and legalism. I will say that the use of all the sports examples, apparently cited to make the book appealing to young men in our athletic-saturated society, leaves me somewhat cold because I am totally disinterested in sports. However, I suspect that many readers will find them meaningful, and other kinds of illustrations are provided for those who are not into athletics. Depending upon their religious background, there may be a few word usages and theological concepts with which some may disagree. However, these differences are minor to the purpose of the book, and I think that Disciplines of a Godly Young Man would make a great resource for use in a “life curriculum” for a homeschooled teenage boy. R. Kent Hughes, who authored Disciplines of a Godly Man, is “Senior Pastor Emeritus” of College Church in Wheaton, IL, and his son Carey Hughes is “Senior Pastor” of Christ the Redeemer Church in Spokane, WA. Kent’s wife Barbara wrote Disciplines of a Godly Woman, and together they produced Disciplines of a Godly Family.
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Ive heard nothing but great things about this book. I can not wait to read it
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