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Divorce after 25 years can break your heart into pieces, especially if there are children, a house, animals, and land involved. In time, Nature will lead through grief to healing, bird song will comfort, flower will smell sweet again. Poetry will tell the story.
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ISBN-13: | 9781452566962 |
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Publisher: | Balboa Press |
Publication date: | 02/08/2013 |
Pages: | 142 |
Product dimensions: | 5.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.33(d) |
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DIVORCE POEMS
A Trail of White StonesBy Diane Jean
BALBOA PRESS
Copyright © 2013 Diane JeanAll right reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4525-6696-2
Chapter One
FINDING OUTThe night I discovered
I could not believe my ears
But my heart heard as I fainted on the lawn
By my milkweed garden – for the butterflies
I went down so deep
There was only a big blackness
A tiny, tiny flickering flame
Like a little candle's fire
Was all that was left of me
Our old life
Over in one moment
I have come close to death before
But never so close
Never with so much pain
I seemed to see
I thought I felt
Like a blind person
The door
The door jamb
The steps, 3 down
Across the brick patio
He made for my 40th
birthday
Wavering, unsteady walking
Choked and jumpy breaths barely
Getting past the lump in my throat
Past trees, arching plum limbs
Dark green comfrey on my right
I hear the bees
I stumble to the chicken coop
I have to feed the chickens
I have to feed the children
With so many tears
Waiting in my eyes
Waiting to slide down my stony face
I toss out some corn
Feel into the dark nest boxes for eggs
Six
I think I can cook eggs for the kids
I think I can manage that
At first
Then after
After I overheard
After I fainted
After a short unblinking while
I didn't move or see
I didn't struggle
I didn't fight
I was frozen
In a bubble
I was frozen in deep ice
I was like a pearl amid ice crystals
Embedded in echoes of frozen water
In a clear bubble of silence
I was a mechanical mother
Cooking and washing dishes and clothes
I could do it with my eyes closed
They were open but I didn't see
I could only breathe if I took tiny breaths
That cracked my ribs each time
My heart was broken up
A mosaic
Pieces that did not fit together
If I moved too fast or thought too far
I'm sure I would have crumbled into dust
I've lived as a frozen, deaf ghost
Months, years
Without brain waves or hope
He stopped eating my food
Before he stopped coming home
What a revealing comment
I couldn't hear it then
But he was saying
Loud and clear
You do not sustain me anymore
I find nourishment
Elsewhere
It is terrible to be
Betrayed
Even more terrible to be
Betrayed in love
Open, vulnerable and soft
Expecting only good
Defenseless
Armor off, sword at the door
The slow moment of discovery
Stings hot
A jagged knife thrust
Deep
It hurts unbearably
God, I beg of you
Let this wound close over
If I must continue
In this world
It's summer
Fog and dew this morning
Pink roses in the white vase
Birds wake me
Black tree trunks
Stretch up
So many
Thoughts
After the one I woke holding
Like a hat full of apples
He'll come back
Being betrayed by him and her
Without a single defense in place
Was like stepping on a land mine from
Another dimension
Turned him into an unknown
A terrifying alien
Who knew all my weaknesses
Turned her into a tormentor
As if my past was a personal affront to her
Together they tore down my memories
Stole my present reality
Dammed up my future
In one overheard, mocking spiteful phone call
In one moment I knew all was lost
The shock threw me to the ground
The after tremors continued for years
I want to cry but I can't
My tongue is dumb
My feelings are glass
I can't breathe
I hold you and what was
Like smoke
You leave
I stay
My love solidifies
My heart petrifies
I am afraid to breathe
I see all this from outside
As I become smaller
And smaller
It won't stop
Divorce, of course, starts with marriage
Before that, falling in love
Which I did hesitantly
Then like a smoke-jumper into a forest fire
I gave it everything
Every thing I had
As if my life depended on it
And for the greater good
To say the word betrayal
Does not come close in any way whatsoever
To what was destroyed
The years spent together building, creating
The work, the rites of passage
The energy of growing a family
The children, the meals, the homework
The laughter, the wonder, the holidays
The baby teeth in a cup in the china cupboard
Disappearing before my disbelieving eyes
Like smoke
Being betrayed more than shattered my heart
It exploded me
The shrapnel of myself obliterated who I was
It has taken years to make myself exist again
When I see the low, purple flowers
That creep orchid-like
Tangled in their fragrant leaves
And horizontal stems
I think of that first spring here
Our first born son
One year old
Learned to walk there
To bend down, to point
To try to pick those tiny flowers
Click
The photo is in the blue album
He has on boots and blue jeans
A little flannel shirt, red plaid
A hat
I had so much hope
Believed whole hearted in my husband
Total and true
Now I wonder
When I see those little flowers
Was I already betrayed and
I just didn't know
Just I didn't know
ANGER AND
SORROW
ANGER AND SORROW
For a whole year
I cried myself to exhaustion
Lifting my head
Only long enough
To look for you
To think pathetically
I thought you loved me
I continue to see things moving
I spider scampering across the rug
A shadow on a branch
In the front yard
Across the room
Someone standing outside
Something that is not there when I look again
There is nothing there
It was nothing that I saw
I meant nothing to him
He said to me
It was like a whip across the face
And unexpected
Before I bore and fell in love
With my beautiful pink babies
I wanted a career
My dearest hope
To be a foreign correspondent
Deep behind enemy lines
Sending back the truth
Tied to a pigeon's leg
Pried from the rubble, cut from the branch
You talked me into something else
You had a dream
You led me with promises
Led me with crumbs of a wonderful future
Fed me delicious lies
That stretched and bubbled into babies
I felt like an anxious imposter, but I tried hard
You sometimes broadcast encouragement
On the ground for me for me to find
Poverty did not help anything except
The yellowjacket sting of isolation
Left me walking on a tight rope
Heavy baby in one arm
Full laundry basket on my head
A dish, a loaf of bread, an apple, a sponge
A butter knife in the other
Pushing Fluffy out of the way with one foot
Coaxing a toddler clinging to my other leg
As I looked far ahead
Like you're supposed to
To keep your balance
To achieve your goal
While you
Suddenly
Were nowhere in sight
You return nights, washed and shaved
To wind me up
After supper
When you went out
To the garden
In the dusk
Walking straight
Looking into the distance
As I washed up and the children played
I thought you were thinking
Of us
Our life, our home, our plans
When you wanted to move out here
You told me with excitement
You had it all planned out
It was for the well-being of our family
A safe place to raise the kids
Clean air
Clean water
Our own home
Our own future
I believed you
I believed in you
Even if
I didn't know what you were searching for
You kept that from me quite carefully
When we moved here
Did you leave broken hearts and children behind
Like you would later do
To us
I fight this
I fight and fight
Wrestle
Fist and kick
Pulled down under
Sputtering, gain air
What I know and what I feel
In combat
That feels like mortal combat
A fight to the death
Of one
I know no matter how much you blame me
The things you did
Lie, cheat, manipulate
Your hidden ballooning debts
Are not my fault and not my responsibility
But I feel shame
I feel like a failure, a failure, a failure
When we came back to the states with our
Honorable discharges
In 1982
There was no work
We couldn't find an apartment
In those days no one helped you re-integrate
Our families of origin tried to push us back
Into old boxes
Like popped jack in the boxes
To be seen and not heard, like before
In those four Air Force years
I saved money for my college education
Of course, he said, we had to use it now
We could save more later
I could go to school later
But later was four kids later
Far away later
Even poorer later
One evening
The kids splashed about in one of those little pools
With two rings that you blow up with the bicycle pump
They climbed out, dried the grass clippings off their feet
Dressed back into warm T-shirts
Hung their bathing suits over the clothes line
By the lilac hedge
Played games while I made supper
Maybe there was ice cream, then pleasant sleep
While red-headed woodpeckers chirped
questioningly
And hay fields, green and yearning
Stretched for the opal sky
Later I went to gather up socks and sandals
Towels and toys
From the little poolside
And the water was gone
All the water was gone!
Just like that money for my education
Just like his love for me
We had a fight
Year four of our marriage
I remember going deep into the woods
And sitting on a flat rock
Confused and hurt
We were renovating an old house
Changing it into a home
He was making all the decisions
Steamrolling over me in every way
When we met in the Air Force
I didn't realize Uncle Sam
Was twisting his arm to make him treat me
With something like equality
Without the protection of that
Funny uncle
I had no way to get that equality by myself
For myself
It was like he had worked his way
Through my veins
And now needed all my oxygen
He had been so charming those first years
He had won me with his fine manners
Or
Was it like a magician
With a bunny in one hand
And the other holding open the door of a box
(Continues...)
Excerpted from DIVORCE POEMS by Diane Jean Copyright © 2013 by Diane Jean. Excerpted by permission of BALBOA PRESS. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents
Contents
Finding Out....................1Anger and Sorrow....................23
Frozen....................57
Thaw....................85
Acceptance....................109
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