Don't Make Me Count to Three: A Mom's Look at Heart-Oriented Discipline

Don't Make Me Count to Three: A Mom's Look at Heart-Oriented Discipline

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ISBN-13: 9780972304641
Publisher: Shepherd Press, Incorporated
Publication date: 03/01/2004
Pages: 144
Sales rank: 289,403
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.40(d)

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Don't Make Me Count to Three: A Mom's Look at Heart-Oriented Discipline 3.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 17 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a great book. I couldn't help laughing out loud as I read. Ginger gives great examples of training situations, and Biblical advice and solutions to common parenting dilemma's. I'd recommend this book to any mother.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a fantastic book for Christian parents. Her goal is that you get to know your child and help to draw out of them the sin that is in their heart and that creeps out as disobedience. I love how she talks about replaying situations with your kids and also about telling them what they should have done instead of sinning. Very helpful!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Ginger Plowman provides ideas and strategies for Christian parents who care about their child's moral character.
KarinKath on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
A very clear and well written book comprised of three sections:- Reaching the heart of your child- Giving a biblical reproof- The biblical use of the rod This book encourages Christian parents to get to the "heart of the matter" with their children and not just stop annoying or unacceptable behavior temporarily but to stop it where it starts, in their children's heart. It encourages Christian parents to more openly refer to God and their belief in the bible when disciplining their children or speaking to them about their unacceptable behaviors. For those of us that are sadly not as knowledgeable on memorized bible verses or quick to pull one out of our brain in the middle of discipline, Ginger has a great reference guide called "Wise Words for Mom's"
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dawnp23 More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be so practical and helpful in parenting. The book is scriptural and biblical, and also practical. The author gives very specific examples of how to lead your children in many areas and how not to! I came away (after several reads) with a renewed sense of purpose, and a list of ideas and scriptures to apply in our home.
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apele More than 1 year ago
i'm about half way through the book and have found it very helpful and practical. will write more when i have finished the book
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Ginger's advice is practcal,user-friendly and absolutley right-on from a biblical standpoint. Using her approach will ultimately result in less need to spank because you reach the heart of the child's behavior, not just the surface. Excellent!
Guest More than 1 year ago
The focus on the heart of your child really sets this book apart. I like my ducks in a row, so to speak, so it's hard for me to see beyond behavior and outward obedience. This book gave me practical ways to grow in relationship with my children and guide their hearts towards God's desire for them.
Guest More than 1 year ago
After reading several of the reviews I am sick to my stomach to think that people believe that spanking is abuse. God even said, 'Do not spare the rod.' What part of that says NOT to spank?? I'm also sick of so called experts telling people that they shouldn't spank their children and that it's harmful to their development. We're NOT talking about abuse! Just a simple swat to the bottom to add a little sting and make them realize that they need to obey their parents and respect them as authority. I was spanked as a child and learned to respect my parents and therefore as an adult learned to respect those in authority. Also, spanking doesn't teach children to hit. Watch any child who has never been spanked and I can guarentee you that he/she knows how to hit. This is a marvelous book and is based on Biblical concepts and if there is a problem with that it should be taken up with God Himself.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book should come with a warning label: 'For Christian Fundamentalists ONLY!' The sole purpose of the book is to stress the importance of raising a child in accordance with (Plowman's interpretation of) the Bible. There is very little practical parenting advice, and copious amounts of Scripture. She seems to have an extremely harsh view of what God wants from parents and what parents should expect from their children. For example, when her three year-old daughter put lipstick on the dog and tried to lay the blame elsewhere ¿ on her toy doll ¿ Plowman not only failed to see the humor in the situation but reminded her laughing husband that a)lying is a sin, b)Jesus died on the cross for our sins and c)¿Christians should not laugh at or make light of the things that God sent His Son to die for¿ (p. 30). The child's punishment dragged on for hours, finally culminating in a spanking after which Plowman states that she is sure her daughter was 'relieved and thankful' to be spanked and felt cleansed to have the stain of sin off her soul. I don't know about other readers, but I have a hard time imagining any three-year old feeling happy to get spanked, under any circumstances. Unless you do, I doubt very much that this book will have anything helpful to say to you about parenting.
Guest More than 1 year ago
While her intentions may be good, author Ginger Plowman's extreme ignorance of the devastating effects of spanking on young children is deplorable. I believe that the appeal of this book lies in the accessible language and charming illustrations. It is unfortunate that these surfacy elements have the potential to seduce unwitting parents into parenting practices that will actually harm their child and the parent-child relationship. Parents truely interested in a loving relationship, a stong parent-child bond, mutual trust and mutual respect with their child would do better to look into works by authors Dorothy Corkille Briggs, Thomas Gordan, Dr. Bruce Perry, Allan N. Schore or David Siegel. These dedicated researchers base their 'opinions' on studies concerning the neuological and psychological effects of abuse and neglect, as well as care and love. Though a bit more challenging to read, at least the information is based on dependable peer-reviewed research and not just on the 'best guess' opinions of one person. Where children are concerned, today's parents have a moral obligation to look beyond what they already 'know' - which is knowledge often based on outdated, cruel, and dangerous practices of the past. The practice of spanking infants and children that is recommended in Plowman's book is the worst aspect of the text. Not only can such a practice physically harm an infant or child, but such practices can irrevokably alter the structure and functioning of the child's brain. A spanked child is at risk for Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, a diminished capacity to form close relationships later in life, and a variety of psychological/physiological problems including dissociation, hyperarousal, and diminished autonoetic (autobiographical) memory. The behaviors that parents wish to curtail in children through spanking are made worse by this abusive behavior. 'Don't Make Me Count to Three' is an unfortunate and dangerous book. It should be banned from stores - and only referred to as a reference for bad parenting practices.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Another child abuse manual under the guise of 'christian' parenting. As a christian I find it so disturbing that 'christians' are writing these kinds of books. If we are to truly seek and follw Jesus, we seek and follow a path of non violence, grace and forgiveness. Jesus said 'let the children come' not, 'let the children come so I can use my rod on them'. I implore anyone who thinks that hitting children is acceptable due to their belief in 'the rod' as a tool of 'spanking', to read the articles by Crystal Lutton at the Arms Of Love Family Fellowship website. There are marvellous articles there on the interpretation of 'the rod'. Please, please choose to investigate more gentle methods for your children. Pain creates fear, but as christian's we should not fear for God's love casts out all fear. Gentle Christian Mother's also have excellent advice and Biblical information about 'spanking'. Spanking and punishment can not 'draw out sin', we are all sinful. It is God's grace and Jesus love and sacrifice that covers and forgives our sin, not obedience to our parents and their punishments. Spanking is abuse. No matter which way you put it. This writer of this book holds power and fear over her children. Noone should hold fear and power over anyone. There are many wonderful books by christian parents that follow in God's grace, love, compassion and forgiveness for parenting our children. Remember, we want to help nurture and grow healthy adults, not just obedient children.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book recommends whipping children with a 'flexible' rod so it 'stings' (p.129), even infants as young as 10 months old (p.110-111), to achieve instant, 'cheerful' obedience. Even when the child is ill (p.112) and for 'small faults' (p.121). It also recommends hitting puppies (p.58-59), and even says some adults 'could benefit from a good old-fashioned whippin'' (p.112). As a Christian I am offended that parents who don't whack their children are said to 'reject God's Word' (p.100), and that parents are 'John the Baptist' to their children (p.75), or even God Himself. No human is God, and plenty of Christians see the folly and damage from hitting children and find better ways to communicate. I also find it disturbing that Jesus's messages of mercy, love, patience and kindness toward the weak are totally disregarded in this book. There is no Golden Rule, nor any acknowledgement that Jesus said children are close to God. Hitting people is harmful, both physically and psychologically. God does not condone, much less advocate, harmful acts. Hitting children is not a manifestation of religion, nor is it required by any religion.
Guest More than 1 year ago
How can this author consider spanking to be 'heart-oriented discipline'?! I am a child development specialist with an advanced degree in child development and I have been working with children for 12 years. Decades of research shows that spanking children is detrimental to their mental, emotional, and physical health. It is also damaging to the parent-child relationship. Children need and deserve parents who respect them and guide them, not parents who hurt them. Children are not born evil nor do they need to be 'trained' to be 'obey'. Jesus himself proclaimed that children should be treated with kindness. How can hitting an innocent child be kind?!